One-night stand regrets!

[Gothmama25]

You were the very last person to know what a dick he is. Trust me. And if whatever happened was consentual, it wasn't cruel and/or vicious.

As a scorpio (cough)... why not just let it go in general? He's not worth it.

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Cause its a matter of principle. I take enough crap from people. I would be a bad example for my daughter if I didnt stand up for myself. I wouldnt her thinking that its okay for some guy to treat her like that. If someone purposely hurts another persons feelings in anyway than yes that is cruel and vicious. Which he knew it would hurt me.

[kellygrrrrrl]

I've never had a one nite stand.

I might kiss on the 1st date, but NEVER sleep with someone.

I was always a prude.

seriously.

I would cave about 6 months into a relationship though....

Kelly likes a little boom boom yes

[Gothmama25]

I've never had a one nite stand.

I might kiss on the 1st date, but NEVER sleep with someone.

I was always a prude.

seriously.

I would cave about 6 months into a relationship though....

Kelly likes a little boom boom yes

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That was the first & last time I ever did something like that. Ive learned my lesson.

[Msterbeau]

Cause its a matter of principle. I take enough crap from people.  I would be a bad example for my daughter if I didnt stand up for myself. I wouldnt her thinking that its okay for some guy to treat her like that. If someone purposely hurts another persons feelings in anyway than yes that is cruel and vicious. Which he knew it would hurt me.

OK... first... I'm not attacking you here.. just words of advice. Please take them as such.

I'm not sure what you have in mind... but revenge is really not a good answer. At her age your daughter hasn't any idea what's going on. All you'll do is confuse her. Your better off SHOWING her how to be mature and healthy... Express your feelings to J and be done with it. Prolonging the whole situation to extract some satisfaction is not helpful to you or your daughter. You teach her best by being clear what the situation is before you get into it. Teach her to ask questions and if she doesn't get the answer she expects to leave the situation. You're laying out the foundation of her whole life at this time in her life... Don't mix up your anger over this situation with parenting.

You still haven't answered when someone else asked if he lied directly or if you misinterpreted his signals. That's an important piece of this for you to be honest about. If he lied... let him know how you feel (Assuming you haven't already.) At that point you've stood up for your principles...

[Gothmama25]

OK... first... I'm not attacking you here..  just words of advice.  Please take them as such. 

I'm not sure what you have in mind...  but revenge is really not a good answer.  At her age your daughter hasn't any idea what's going on.  All you'll do is confuse her.  Your better off SHOWING her how to be mature and healthy...  Express your feelings to J and be done with it.  Prolonging the whole situation to extract some satisfaction is not helpful to you or your daughter.  You teach her best by being clear what the situation is before you get into it.  Teach her to ask questions and if she doesn't get the answer she expects to leave the situation.  You're laying out the foundation of her whole life at this time in her life...  Don't mix up your anger over this situation with parenting.

You still haven't answered when someone else asked if he lied directly or if you misinterpreted his signals.  That's an important piece of this for you to be honest about.  If he lied...  let him know how you feel (Assuming you haven't already.)  At that point you've stood up for your principles...

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The only thing I am gonna do is tell him off and leave it at that. Nothing major. I deserve to have the final word.

[Msterbeau]

The only thing I am gonna do is tell him off and leave it at that. Nothing major. I deserve to have the final word.

Telling him off is just another version of revenge... Express what you're feeling. Tell him your angry, that what he did is selfish immature... etc. Then walk away. Calling him names gets you nowhere. The hardest thing to learn is to know what to express and how to walk away from this stuff. You're angry... you have every right to be. You have to look at this from outside your anger. Sometimes that takes a while. Don't act until your not directly connected to the emotions of the situation. Go beat the hell out of some pillows while you think about it. Cry, Scream, Vent... Do that a few times... The emotion of the event lessens and then you can deal with it from a more rational place.

[Gothmama25]

Telling him off is just another version of revenge...  Express what you're feeling.  Tell him your angry, that what he did is selfish immature... etc.  Then walk away.  Calling him names gets you nowhere.  The hardest thing to learn is  to know what to express and how to walk away from this stuff.  You're angry... you have every right to be.  You have to look at this from outside your anger.  Sometimes that takes a while.  Don't act until your not directly connected to the emotions of the situation.  Go beat the hell out of some pillows while you think about it.  Cry, Scream, Vent...  Do that a few times...  The emotion of the event lessens and then you can deal with it from a more rational place.

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Thats all I am gonna do is tell him how I feel & walk away. I can even do it without yelling & losing my cool. And your right name calling is pointless & personally I think its a lil childish. I can do it in a calm, rational voice. Thats all I want is to say how I feel. If it happened to you wouldnt you wanna do the same?

[Msterbeau]

Thats all I am gonna do is tell him how I feel & walk away. I can even do it without yelling & losing my cool. And your right name calling is pointless & personally I think its a lil childish. I can do it in a calm, rational voice. Thats all I want is to say how I feel. If it happened to you wouldnt you wanna do the same?

Yep.

[Daevion]

From what I just learned this guy gets around CC alot. He pays for stuff like cover charge and drinks. Then he takes advantage of the intoxicated female.

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If your talking about the guy I think you are.......than I just found out that my GF ( posts on dgn ) wants to go on this camping trip that this guy is having, not because he is there but because another friend( someone on here ) is supposedly going that she wants to hang out with....granted she asked me if I wanted to go but with my luck I'll get stuck working ( my boss is a fuckin bitch that doesn't grant my time off requests ). My GF knows that this guy gets around spreading all kinds of std's and fucking people over. Even though I trust my GF, I don't trust this guy at all and I don't want her to go. I mean she says that this guy has no chance in hell but once everyone starts drinking who knows what could happen. I spoke to her about it and now she is pissed at me and still wants to go.....now I fear the worst. =(

[Head Wreck]

dude. if you cant trust her on this she may have justification to be pissed off. she'll be with friends who no boubt know this fuckers score and should look out if things get out of hand.

(btw, sharp jab just under the behind the jaw at the bottom should KO him out if you need to without having to hit him hard at all)

[Daevion]

dude.  if you cant trust her on this she may have justification to be pissed off.  she'll be with friends who no boubt know this fuckers score and should look out if things get out of hand.

(btw, sharp jab just under the behind the jaw at the bottom should KO him out if you need to without having to hit him hard at all)

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she is justified to be pissed at me.....I understand that.....I seriously can't help but be very uncomfortable with her being there and I'm not. I know its some kind of weird jealousy thing but because of my work schedual I haven't been able to spend hardly any time with her and thats really making things harder.

....so sharp jab just under and behind the jaw at the bottom...heh thats good advice..I'll remember that =)

[Head Wreck]

tbh, its goo that you told her about this.

my one mistake in most relationships was not to explain my paranioa or jelousy

[Gothmama25]

she is justified to be pissed at me.....I understand that.....I seriously can't help but be very uncomfortable with her being there and I'm not. I know its some kind of weird jealousy thing but because of my work schedual I haven't been able to spend hardly any time with her and thats really making things harder.

....so sharp jab just under and behind the jaw at the bottom...heh thats good advice..I'll remember that  =)

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Its good that you warned her about him, so maybe she'll be cautious about drinking around him.

[Head Wreck]

aye. thumb over bottle top when not supping.

had to defend a freind once because some fuckhead spiked her so i have little trust in people nowerdays

[Gothmama25]

aye. thumb over bottle top when not supping.

had to defend a freind once because some fuckhead spiked her so i have little trust in  people nowerdays

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i dont think this guy would put something in a drink but i agree with you. watch your drink around him cause you never can be 2 careful nowadays.

[Steven]

man I definately do NOT miss any of this kind of shit from the old days......

[Head Wreck]

the old days are still here. just not many kids hang round the old folks's homes steven

[AstralCrux]

I regret that some of the people I dated weren't one night stands.

[Gothmama25]

I regret that some of the people I dated weren't one night stands.

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Same here.

[Belle Morte]

she is justified to be pissed at me.....I understand that.....I seriously can't help but be very uncomfortable with her being there and I'm not. I know its some kind of weird jealousy thing but because of my work schedual I haven't been able to spend hardly any time with her and thats really making things harder.

....so sharp jab just under and behind the jaw at the bottom...heh thats good advice..I'll remember that  =)

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Well if you think that she was pissed at you before just wait till she finds out that you are posting personal buisness on the internet!

[livininxtcgoth]

opps wrong account

[The Kanuck]

There right account, sorry about that.

I will admit, one night stands are the worst things and I have done them to some people and had them done to me in return. I will never do it again because I have seen the error in my ways, but the differences between what my one night stands and the one talked about here is that:

A) It was agreed that it would be a one night stand at the beginning

B) I never forced or pushed myself on the girl

C) 9 time out of 10 I still talk to that person and we are still on good terms.

One night stands are a good thing, if done right and there is a right way to do it. Just sometimes people need some lovin and it is the one of the only ways. It happenes.

My two cents.

-Jake

[Gothmama25]

There right account, sorry about that.

I will admit, one night stands are the worst things and I have done them to some people and had them done to me in return. I will never do it again because I have seen the error in my ways, but the differences between what my one night stands and the one talked about here is that:

A) It was agreed that it would be a one night stand at the beginning

B) I never forced or pushed myself on the girl

C) 9 time out of 10 I still talk to that person and we are still on good terms.

One night stands are a good thing, if done right and there is a right way to do it. Just sometimes people need some lovin and it is the one of the only ways. It happenes.

My two cents.

-Jake

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I agree with you on that. Hopefully that guy will learn it too someday. Before he tries to do the same thing to a female who is like lorraina bobbit or even worse than her.

[Steven]

the old days are still here.  just not many kids hang round the old folks's homes  steven

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good one

[phee]

Oh I thought the thread said "one night stand requests"

oops