If you had a non contageous disease....

[Hellion]

:devil

I myself if I had a deadly non contageous disease,I IMO probably would not ever mention it to anyone,not even my employer.thats just how I would feel.

Other people are different,But I knew a few who did this,andone day they were gone.But I figured it was how they wanted it.

[Onyx]

I have thought about this a lot.

Unless we die instantly in an accident we will all face our own deaths and have time to see it coming.

I'm not really sure what I would do. It might piss me off when people started looking at me with pity in their eyes or treating me differently or avoiding me.

[AstralCrux]

I'd go reclusive and stop talking to everyone, minus the whole have to work to eat thing.

[Homicidalheathen]

My disease is only deadly to myself. Does that count? Because, yah.....I mention it right away.

Here is why. Yesturday I spent all day crying in the bathroom. People will wonder why so I tell them BEFORE it happens and they see it. Because I don't want them drawing their own conclusions.....

[kellygrrrrrl]

You know....

I was sickened the other day when Mike & were talking.

There are people that have deadly sexually transmitted diseases and INTENTIONALLY go around having unprotected sex on purpose.....with the mind set that, hey if I got it, so be it, so will others...

I have it, everyone suffers mind set.

That is so scarey.

Tell people hunny.

Be honest.

I wouldn't go around announcing HEY I've Got "________"!! Woo HOO!

But you should never put anyone elses health at risk.....

Someone may have put YOUR health at risk, but that doesn't mean that you have to be vengeful....and throw it back on perfect strangers

[Head Wreck]

probably keep it to myself and carry on regardless. if it was a long term thing deffinatly carry on as normal but a little less timid

if it was a "hey you have a few months" you still wouldnt hear but i'd be a lot more honest. some people in work have it comming.

[Rayne]

You get over it ... believe me.

It's not such a big deal anymore.

[phee]

You get over it ... believe me.

It's not such a big deal anymore.

:erm :tear

[Onyx]

You know....

I was sickened the other day when Mike & were talking.

There are people that have deadly sexually transmitted diseases and INTENTIONALLY go around having unprotected sex on purpose.....with the mind set that, hey if I got it, so be it, so will others...

I have it, everyone suffers mind set.

That is so scarey.

Tell people hunny.

Be honest.

I wouldn't go around announcing HEY I've Got "________"!! Woo HOO!

But you should never put anyone elses health at risk.....

Someone may have put YOUR health at risk, but that doesn't mean that you have to be vengeful....and throw it back on perfect strangers

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I think you misunderstood the subject of the thread.

He said deadly NONCONTAGIOUS disease -- like terminal cancer, for instance.

Strange though, I've seen some people treated as if their cancer were contagious and they spent their last days in isolation as everyone who supposedly cared avoided them completely. That's just unforgiveable.

[kellygrrrrrl]

yeah...I did get off subject....

:whistling

Um...Jack

[BrassFusion]

Super great. Now I'm gonna spend all day worrying about which people I know are going to just up and die.

[torn asunder]

probably keep it to myself and carry on regardless.  if it was a long term thing deffinatly carry on as normal but a little less timid

if it was a "hey you have a few months" you still wouldnt hear but i'd be a lot more honest. some people in work have it comming.

see, i think you should be this way anyway - why have friends if you can't be honest with them? and if it's family, they should know better, or be told. why suffer having idiots in your life, yanno!?

(edited to add...)

sorry, i missed the bit about work - stoopid cow-orkers!! :doh :doh

[Head Wreck]

oh i'm honest with friends.

just random people like that guy who phonned for a request the other day i should have just told him bluntly not to take the piss, i knew he was bullshitting and i didnt care if he was 4 grades above me i was running the show

[torn asunder]

i only bitch about the little annoying pains (what a wuss! ) but if i had something terminal, nobody would ever, ever know, because... well... why? :blink

[BrassFusion]

i only bitch about the little annoying pains (what a wuss!    ) but if i had something terminal, nobody would ever, ever know, because... well... why?  :blink

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

wouldn't you want to know if one of your closest friends was going to die?

[torn asunder]

wouldn't you want to know if one of your closest friends was going to die?

honestly, why? so i could spend more "quality time" with them? i should be doing that anyway... so i could sit and worry and fret over them? what good would that do anyone? if they want to tell me, fine, but it's really none of my business...

[BrassFusion]

honestly, why? so i could spend more "quality time" with them? i should be doing that anyway... so i could sit and worry and fret over them? what good would that do anyone? if they want to tell me, fine, but it's really none of my business...

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I can understand why you feel the way you do. But it's so weird and foreign to me. Kinda reminds me of stories I've heard about japanese people- they're supposedly real, real chill about sudden violent death. they accept it as a part of life and get over it very quickly. which makes perfect sense considering their history.

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

I'd keep it secret because i wouldnt want it to keep myself or anyone else down ...and I wouldnt want the sympathy that comes with it...people being nice to you just because u might die soon or doing things out of thier way to make ur possible last day more "special"...i'd want to live my life normally and people living it with me the same way...no special treatments

[AstralCrux]

Erin, I'm not "close" enough to anyone- not family or friends that I'd be even willing to share the fact that I'm going to die. My family would trample the hell out of me and my friends would give me the sympathy I didn't want. I'd much rather just get distant from everyone and let them forget me.

[Brenda Starrr]

I guess I'd tell eventually. When the time is closer. That way, people don't think that I just decided to quit talking to them for no good reason.

[Der Nister]

I would only share that info with those that are closest to me. For all others it would be none of their business.

[Medea]

Hmph, it's funny that I found this thread today.

On September 17 it's going to be the one year anniversary of my mom's death to colon cancer.

Just today actually, I was watching the DVD someone made for her funeral.

Having lost someone to a terminal disease, I know that yes, I would definitely tell those close to me if I was sick.

It's not just a matter of "quality time" together, though when I found out about my mother's disease, the very tumultuous relationship we had did start repair. It was as though both of us just realized that all the petty arguments just weren't worth it anymore, that we did have to cherish the time we had together.

But you know why else it was so important and great that my mother and I discussed her disease? Because nothing came as a surprise. She and I were able to talk honestly about the fact that she was dying. If she hadn't died to cancer, she would die to -something- someday. So during the years between her diagnosis and death, she and I spoke about what she wanted her funeral to be like, what she wanted to happen with her body, whom she wanted to inherit what.

It made things so that when did have to actually handle these things, it wasn't a shock, we had guidelines, guidelines that my mother helped put together herself.

Also, this way her death wasn't a shock. We had time to adjust, to lessen the blow, to make sure that we never felt like we didn't have the chance to say goodbye.

It hurt, oh god did it hurt, but it was a blow we were prepared for. And also, when my mom did pass and we made all the arrangements for everything, it felt so much better to know that we were carrying out plans that mom herself had helped create.

Of course it is all personal choice, but if you really love or care for someone, I think the cruelest thing you could do to them is not let them know.

[Brenda Starrr]

*hugs*

Thank you for sharing that, Mira.

[Scary Guy]

I've got life, it's terminal they say

[Homicidalheathen]

A few years ago I got real sick. I almost died. I lost over a foot of intestine. A few family members were very hurt that I had hid the severity of my condition from them. So tell.