Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

[StrayBullet42]

How many of you agree with me when I say that someone who would break up with them via E-Mail have no Courage and no Honor?

Needles to say, this just happened to me.

[Guest Megalicious]

How many of you agree with me when I say that someone who would break up with them via E-Mail have no Courage and no Honor?

Needles to say, this just happened to me.

It depends on the situation I suppose. But at anyrate I'm sorry SB, braking up is hard weither it be face to face , VIA email, VIA phone or sending a letter, it just sucks altogther. =(

[Homicidalheathen]

Yah, I can say its cowardly and doesn't give you much closure and thus hurts more and leaves you feeling extra jilted and confused but whats worse are the guys (or girls) who just stop communication all together so your not even sure if they are alive, hurt....locked up in a nut house.....

Cause thats happened to me.

[The Kanuck]

Only way I can justify email or phone is if you live too far away to see them (they moved, long distance relationship, etc) other then that, you have to do it face to face. Atleast show respect I think.

[StrayBullet42]

Thanks guys, I think the reason was that she now has someone else and wanted to "make it official" in bed last night without cheating on her boyfriend. So in a seance I'm better off but I wish she would have cozen to wait until after this weekend. I still would have liked to had fun with her one last time.

So who wants to get together at the club for some drinks? Providing I still have a babysitter.

[Homicidalheathen]

I'll meet ya later. Going through some major shit myself.

And yes, your better off without someone who can't control her urges for a few days until she gets the opp to break up with you in a nice way.

This is borderline cheating.

What if you had not read the email in time?

[StrayBullet42]

Sounds good, I'll meet you after I go to the Red apple restaurant to sing one more song.

[Vampyro]

There's no excuse for an e-mail break up... EVER. If one lives too far, at least have the common courtesy to give them a fucking call, hell, make it where you pay, don't call collect, you're breaking their heart, don't make them pay for something they don't wish to hear but have to anyway. I've gone through a similar experience, i was dumped 3 days before the wedding... via email... and i actually was stunned that she did that since i was last with her like 4 fucking hours before the e-mail. So yes, it does show cowardice, lack of respect, lack of self worth. Dunno who your chick is but sounds like she's got issues, the way she broke up with you also screams a certain red flag... that is, she's leaving you for someone nasty, and don't wanna have to admit to this dumbass choice. My advice to you, limit your standards to only dating girls who don't even know what e-mail is.

[Onyx]

There's no excuse for an e-mail break up... EVER. If one lives too far, at least have the common courtesy to give them a fucking call, hell, make it where you pay, don't call collect, you're breaking their heart, don't make them pay for something they don't wish to hear but have to anyway.

I agree. I've had to make that phone call and it isn't easy to reject someone, but I felt I at least owed him that much respect.

I've also gotten the "dear jane" email. I still have NO respect for that man. It was a cowardly ugly thing to do.

[TygerLili]

Yeah, breaking up with an e-mail is lame. You're better off without her.

My mom's ex-boyfriend tried to call her collect one night with the intention of proposing over the phone, and she refused to accept the charges. Obviously they didn't get married, thank god. What a dumbass!

[AstralCrux]

Just a reminder, when you reply, that the person in question may be a member and may be struggling with their decisions. Breaking up is hard on both ends. Yes, be supportive of SB, but be polite with responses.

Usually, with an e-mail break-up there seems to be hesitation or the person doing the breaking up could be swayed one way or the other. It sounds like, hopefully, she doesn't want to play the back and forth game with her decisions. For some, conflict is not something they are able to deal with yet.

I recommend moving on. Because even if it was "a hard decision" to break things off, the fact that she is torn between 2 people shows that odds are neither guy is "the one." Live honorably yourself, that's all that you can really do.

[Onyx]

Just a reminder, when you reply, that the person in question may be a member and may be struggling with their decisions. Breaking up is hard on both ends. Yes, be supportive of SB, but be polite with responses.

Usually, with an e-mail break-up there seems to be hesitation or the person doing the breaking up could be swayed one way or the other. It sounds like, hopefully, she doesn't want to play the back and forth game with her decisions. For some, conflict is not something they are able to deal with yet.

I recommend moving on. Because even if it was "a hard decision" to break things off, the fact that she is torn between 2 people shows that odds are neither guy is "the one." Live honorably yourself, that's all that you can really do.

This is true about the reasons why, but if *I* did something so crass I would really hope someone would let me know what an ass I was being! Maybe the person just didn't think it would be that hurtful, but it is not only hurtful but dehumanizing. I have little sympathy for this type of cowardice and lack of respect.

(and by the way the "gentleman' I was referring to would never see what I posted, unfortunately)! He is a world away from here.

[Vampyro]

I understand your plight about being respectful, however, if this girl is a member here, i'm not going to dishonor anyone by sugar coating any truth. I stand by what I say, and if she is on here, and reads it, i don't care if she get's butt-hurt. MAYBE, this would be a good wake up call for her and teach her a lesson that, that's just something you DON'T do to other people, and there still is no excuse. As long as lessons are learned from mistakes.

If i were in the position where i sent a breakup e-mail, and then saw on a forum i was getting burned for it, i'd be an adult, admit i was wrong, appologize, and call a truce, or make some agreement and put closure to the person in pain. That way, this place WILL be big enough for the both of us....

...that's just my 2 cents though.

[AstralCrux]

I'm under the belief system that we don't need to bash on the board. It was bad enough when I went through it. Then you go through the stupid jokes they make about the whole situation. *rolls eyes* This thread should have been left as a pm to the person.

Reality is... people break up over e-mail all the time. It's a different reality now. If someone breaks up with you that way and you don't like it- don't date that person again, but it is up to them how they break off their relationships. Way back in the day a phone call break up was considered rude- you should do it in person... At least it wasn't a text message.

[StrayBullet42]

Thank you everyone, If a friendship can be salvaged I don’t know but one thing is certen, Never will I be with her again. Also everything happens for a reason.

Already I have met someone who makes me really happy.

No more true words have been spoken Vampyro, Thanks.

Reality is that this is not a bash on anyone because no names have been given. This is also a country with the freedom of speech with DGN being a place that people can express themselves, This thread should not be a pm.

As far as this being a new day and age….. True but anyone that feels the need to end a relationship without any conversation must have a reason such as someone else they want to be with and NOW. That is ware I see dishonor. If you truly make a pledge to someone than honoring that pledge would mean not cutting the strings with no warning.

Everything happens for a reason and I wish her the best of luck.

[Guest Megalicious]

::: sigh :::

:erm

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

There are some exeptions to it...but yea I agree its worst way to end a realationship...I mean if they lived far away and couldnt call u or some other henderance, then its understandable...but only those circumstances is it ok...