I Give In.

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

I've determined I am to be alone...all the girls I'd find intresting either,have boyfreinds/married,too good to date me, or live far away. I...i don't know how to go about this optimistically anymore...I wanna go out, to City...but no ride and no money is kinda henderance...I just wish I ould find that special girl...the one of which we'd have hours of conversations over the phone...cuddle and hold hands...I'm so damn alone...it sucks...it really does...

[glc]

Sorry man, can't help you out on that one. Although, I'm in the same boat at the moment so I can sympathise somewhat. Being single does have it's advantages, but not enough to make it worth it. I think, I don't know, I'm still trying to figure all this stuff out.

Hang in there dude.

[Msterbeau]

Patience young padawan. Develop happiness alone and someone will come along to share that happiness with you. That compulsive need to be with someone means there's an emotional hole that needs care and attention. It's not something that will be cured by another person.

[Homicidalheathen]

How old are you? Because you are too young to give up......I know people who didn't find that special someone until they were in their 50's....and it was worth the wait.

[BrassFusion]

No offense babe, but you repost this every few months. And believe me, you're not going to find that "special girl" at CC. You're just not.

[Msterbeau]

No offense babe, but you repost this every few months. And believe me, you're not going to find that "special girl" at CC. You're just not.

I did. :-)

[torn asunder]

I did. :-)

yeah, but you'rean asshole...

[torn asunder]

Patience young padawan. Develop happiness alone and someone will come along to share that happiness with you. That compulsive need to be with someone means there's an emotional hole that needs care and attention. It's not something that will be cured by another person.

very, very true...

[TygerLili]

No offense babe, but you repost this every few months. And believe me, you're not going to find that "special girl" at CC. You're just not.

I did. :-)

I did too!

Though I agree with BF to an extent. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend, I met a guy who wasn't looking for a girlfriend, and somehow we clicked. You can't force it to happen, you just have to wait for it. I know it sucks.

[saechalyn]

There’s really no advice anyone can give in this situation, because everyone is different. For every person who says you won’t find someone until you stop looking, there is someone who says they found their spouse only when they put real effort into looking. For every person who says you can’t find a quality relationship at a bar or club is someone who did just that. For everyone who says personal ads don’t work is someone who insists they do.

The truth is- it can happen anywhere, or nowhere. You might meet someone at cc, or the grocery store, or through a friend of a friend’s cousin, or on myspace, or waiting at the bus stop. It might happen tomorrow and it might happen in 20 years. I think the best thing you can do is not dwell on it. Find joy where you can and focus on yourself and your own personal growth. I know it sucks to be alone, but it’s better to be alone and single than alone in a relationship that's unfulfilling or dishonest. Relationships aren’t a fix-all for all emotional problems, and in many cases they create new ones.

[Msterbeau]

There’s really no advice anyone can give on in this situation, because everyone is different. For every person who says you won’t find someone until you stop looking, there is someone who says they found their spouse only when they put real effort into looking. For every person who says you can’t find a quality relationship at a bar or club is someone who did just that. For everyone who says personal ads don’t work is someone who insists they do.

The truth is- it can happen anywhere, or nowhere. You might meet someone at cc, or the grocery store, or through a friend of a friend’s cousin, or on myspace, or waiting at the bus stop. It might happen tomorrow and it might happen in 20 years. I think the best thing you can do is not dwell on it. Find joy where you can and focus on yourself and your own personal growth. I know it sucks to be alone, but it’s better to be alone and single than alone in a relationship that's unfulfilling or dishonest. Relationships aren’t a fix-all for all emotional problems, and in many cases they create new ones.

+1

[Fierce Critter]

Huzzah and ditto to Saechalyn.

Very true.

I happen to have hooked-up with Jon via AOL. He im'd me one night, and the rest is history.

At the time, I used to tell people online relationships were stupid, didn't work, etc. etc.

Eating my words 8 years later.

It'll happen, DBK. I know it will. I hope some of my and other's confidence will rub off on you.

[BrassFusion]

Remember Scarface?

"In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women."

Lol. Just kidding.

Now, unlike Mr. Montana, I am not suggesting that women are materialistic whores or anything like that, but it is relevant, I believe. Getting a soulmate is that last step, not the first. You ought not to think "First I'll fall in love, then I'll... then I'll..." You need to cultivate your own personality, goals and achieve them. Once you have that, you'll have genuine confidence and something to be confident about. Then girls will come to you, or even, you'll find them and they'll find your irresistible. So in a sense, I'm just extrapolating on what Msterbeau already said.

On the other hand, my personal, cynical belief is that people only fixate on finding love when they don't have enough else going on in their lives.

Maybe you're right on both counts. That wisdom certainly applies to me.

[Head Wreck]

theres a saying i originaly heard squadies say in regards to why they havent shelled out on fancy kit, it was then a title of a song of a rather bad band (bad as in awful, atrocious, thier mothers wish they'd drowned them)...

girls dont like boys, girls like cars and money.

so i'm torn between a triumph GT6 and a Reliant scimitar, then save money.

only joking, these days i am really not fussed. what happens happens, when you look for it it passes you by as it may not be in your criteria

[Brenda Starrr]

yeah, but you'rean asshole...

He sure is.

*runs*

[Daevion]

Patience young padawan. Develop happiness alone and someone will come along to share that happiness with you. That compulsive need to be with someone means there's an emotional hole that needs care and attention. It's not something that will be cured by another person.

I disagree......why wait? life is way too short to sit around waiting for someone to come along....you have to make it happen. Trust me when I say you have to keep pushing to get what you want, even love. Its easy to sink into despair but you just feel it, cycle it and move on. Waiting is for the dead, so why wait, there is no point to it. Then again.....don't listen to me!

[BrassFusion]

I disagree......why wait? life is way too short to sit around waiting for someone to come along....you have to make it happen. Trust me when I say you have to keep pushing to get what you want, even love. Its easy to sink into despair but you just feel it, cycle it and move on. Waiting is for the dead, so why wait, there is no point to it. Then again.....don't listen to me!

if you put more energy into finding someone to "love" instead of loving yourself, you're not gonna be happy anyway, so...

[Msterbeau]

*runs*

*Trips the saucy strumpet from Baltimore*

[Daevion]

if you put more energy into finding someone to "love" instead of loving yourself, you're not gonna be happy anyway, so...

While thats true......the point I am tying to make is that its pointless to sit around and wait for someone "special" to find you....why wait...take the risk....sure you might get your feelings hurt but so what...if in the end you find that person isn't it all worth it in the end? happiness is fleeting at best

100 in pain is worth a 1000 in gain

[Brenda Starrr]

*Trips the saucy strumpet from Baltimore*

Soon-to-be-transplanted-to-Michigasm strumpet from Baltimore. Thanks.

[Msterbeau]

Soon-to-be-transplanted-to-Michigasm strumpet from Baltimore. Thanks.

Right on.

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

The thing of it is, I'm happy with who I am and what I'm about. I have enough confidence in who I am. Confidence isn't an issue in my opinion. Sure, I have my flaws, and even some times feel self concious about them. But I've come to accept my flaws as who I am. But everyone has there moments.

I'm just so sick of being alone. If there's one thing that depresses me, it's that. I don't want to be alone for 20 years.That to me would be hell. But, I just don't know what to do about it. Sure, I have the confidence to randomly approach girls at the club. But they're always, I repeat ALWAYS "taken"....

And what are you talking about torn? I AM an asshole....Brenda agrees...RIGHT, Brenda?

[Brenda Starrr]

And what are you talking about torn? I AM an asshole....Brenda agrees...RIGHT, Brenda?

Bullshit.

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

*GASP* LIES!!

[Klaus]

WELLLLL i haven't gotten to know you that much. so i say you is not an asshole. maybe a cum guzzling gutter slut, but definitely not an asshole.

i met Lila at CC, but that doesn't mean you'll meet ___________ at CC, maybe liek stated you'll meet her at __________ or maybe _________ or hell you could even meet her at ___________ Lutheran Church!

(I know your secret! I KNOW WHAT YOU DO BEHIND THE PEWS ON SUNDAY!!!!)