When Mom Calls....

[Msterbeau]

My parents know a fair bit of the troubles I've had.... but if they new about all of it... Hoo boy. :-O

[SpidersMoment]

for me whenever my mom calls, I gasp and run to another room or outside where she cant hear the conversations around me.

The things she would say and do if she actually heard the conversation about the difference in pixie sticks and cocaine.

[Gaf The Horse With Tears]

God.. thats a hard one...

I love my Mother.

I will do anything I can to see her smile.

Hearing her laugh is.. well... everyone laughs when my Mom does.

but...

My mother cheated on my father from just before my 7th birthday until just before my 12 birthday.

At that point she finally did the right thing by leaving him and filling for divorce. She married the bastard a year later.

My mother.. My sister, brother and I all knew what she was doing. She made us "Cross your heart and hope to die" to not tell Dad.

She would take us with her when she went to meet her... lover.

I answer the phone. We talk.. about what ever. I call her when I need to cry. I can always go home. She wont ask me why I'm there.. she'll just listen and when I need it.. she'll say "Marky, you are a Man now. Do what you need to do. You are a very smart man, you can figure this out." and then we''l have a cup of tea.

[Scary Guy]

Do you cringe?

Get excited?

Sigh and roll your eyes?

Me, the last one.

A combination of the first and last I guess.

[Steven]

God.. thats a hard one...

I love my Mother.

I will do anything I can to see her smile.

Hearing her laugh is.. well... everyone laughs when my Mom does.

but...

My mother cheated on my father from just before my 7th birthday until just before my 12 birthday.

At that point she finally did the right thing by leaving him and filling for divorce. She married the bastard a year later.

My mother.. My sister, brother and I all knew what she was doing. She made us "Cross your heart and hope to die" to not tell Dad.

She would take us with her when she went to meet her... lover.

I answer the phone. We talk.. about what ever. I call her when I need to cry. I can always go home. She wont ask me why I'm there.. she'll just listen and when I need it.. she'll say "Marky, you are a Man now. Do what you need to do. You are a very smart man, you can figure this out." and then we''l have a cup of tea.

I understand where your coming form on this one Mark, and I'm glad you two still connect.

still, this kind of stuff is just WAY too heavy to lay on a little kid. I was an exploding wreck of a teenager I'll admit that, but I never had to carry anybody else's secrets as a burdon on top of my own.....I don't think children have the tools to cope with that, its terribly unfair. These are the kinds of things that stay with us into our adulthood.

[Gaf The Horse With Tears]

People wonder why I am so adamitly opposed to cheating...

I still have trust issues... major trust issues.

[pomba gira]

I understand where your coming form on this one Mark, and I'm glad you two still connect.

still, this kind of stuff is just WAY too heavy to lay on a little kid. I was an exploding wreck of a teenager I'll admit that, but I never had to carry anybody else's secrets as a burdon on top of my own.....I don't think children have the tools to cope with that, its terribly unfair. These are the kinds of things that stay with us into our adulthood.

I never cease to be amazed by the straight out fucked up shit people dump on their children. I think all teachers have had the experience of working with a "difficult" child, then meeting the parent(s) and thinking "Oh, NOW I understand". A colleague of mine refers to such kids as "parentally impaired" which is right on target.

I wish more people would THINK before having children, instead of just doing it "because you're supposed to".

Anyway... Gaf, I too am glad that you've been able to maintain a good relationship with your mother, and make the effort to leave the bad stuff in the past. So many people are unable to let go of these negative childhood experiences, and it really seems that bitterness & resentment taint every area of their lives. Letting go & moving on is definitely not easy... but is truly worth the effort.

[Morbid Side]

When it comes to mom, I don't pick up right away. I will listen to her message and if it's important I will call her back, otherwise, I don't. I have a toxic relationship with her that one minute everythings cool, then the next she turns into a manipulating, no good for nothing bitch.

[Vampyro]

Due to horrible twisted history, and the impossibility to reason on their part, my folks never call me, and i never call them. In my eyes, it was just a chore of taking out the trash by removing them from my life.

[Hellion]

It never bothers me at all if she calls,but sometimes

I get a shiver,be cause something not good might have

occured,I onle get bad vibes when she calls really early in the moring on

Sat or Sun,because she knows I am a late night person.

[hellequin]

Its rare if mom calls. so i pick up. It's short. She hates phones. She fills me in on family stuff. She says to come visit. I think, "Maybe you should come visit," but say,"O.K." We say our goodbyes. I press End.

[AstralCrux]

If anyone thought I was long winded.... My mother puts me to shame...

She won't just tell me about a sale on peas, she'll let me know every organic item in the store that's on sale. How her entire day went, from the moment she woke till the time of her call. Her friend's current situations, and if my battery has any bars left- weather, traffic, and current church events.

I just pray the voicemails are short!

[Homicidalheathen]

My answering machine is set to beep and cut you off after a minute. She will call with something stupid about how there is a tornado watch in my area, and when It cuts her off she calls back.....and you can here her saying stuff like 'damn, is this thing working....? Oh well......*rustle, rustle, clank, clank* and stuff then......Windy call me back and let me know if your still alive ok?'

Now she doesn't call the house phone much because modern technology scares and confuses her and I always let the machine get it.

[Rayne]

My mother .... well ... it's a very long story. Only some of what I will touch on.

My mom and me used to be like fire and ice. We clashed so bad growing up ... she used to say it was because I was just like her. I still don't believe that. I have no idea why ... but I'm betting if I was anything like my oldest daughter then that would be why. They (meaning my mother and father) left the house when I was 16. Leaving my 14 year old brother with me.

My mom has had problems most of her life. She's drifted close and away. She's on meds to keep herself stablized and sometimes will decide one day that she's perfectly fine and doesn't need the meds anymore ..... then off the deep end, she'll go ................

She's been there for me when I needed her ... and not been there for me when I needed her. I can't think of once I haven't been there for her. It's not unusual to drop what I'm doing because Mom needs help. At 52, she's gone through numerous hospitalizations, two open heart surgeries, more medical conditions related to the open heart surgeries than we can count, my father and his issues (alcoholism, chirrosis of the liver and a majour surgery with him) ........

She says I'm the one who keeps her sane.

As far as your question ... I can't answer it.

[Scales]

I despise my father, which is probably partly why I'm closer with my mom. Though I'm still stuck living with my parents I don't talk to my mom a whole lot, but I think the bullshit and negativity my father has put us through has made us permanently close. I've had way too much shit dumped on me growing up, but I've gotten through it, which means I'm stronger, more mature, and a lot more bullshit intolerant; good things to be.

[Gauge]

i was thinking today. . .its sad actually. . .i havnt talked to my mom in close to a year, i talk to my dad. . .maybe once or twice a month, now heres the odd part. . .my step-mom, i talk to her. . .almost every day. we do emails back and forth and she tells me about how happy she is for me or with my recent injury shes been talking about how she hopes i get better and how she prays for me every night (creepy i know but nice from her end). maybe its because i dont and never have had to live with her, but even when i spent 2 days almost nonstop with her i still came out saner than when i spend 5 minutes with my other "family".

[Guest Megalicious]

I've been on my own since about 14. I hate my family in general, with the exception of my brother. Though I had to forgive him for some shit. I don't really answer the phone ... I don't like to talk on the phone .... so that about answers that.

[ManicQueen]

99.9% I don't answer the phone.. my mother literally makes me ill.

[Homicidalheathen]

My mom has alzheirmers so bad it is painful for us to talk now so I avoid it. She gets emotional when she realizes she can't remember anything so now we all avoid the issue as much as possible and pretend she is saying something for the first time...or that we are wrong about our pasts....and she is right....

It hurts because she can't remember major events in our childhoods....or gets them mixed up.

I try not to talk to her now. But I will take her in if I have too.

[Sybil]

I am 29.

My mom and dad live in Kentucky now, and have for a year and a half..

When Mom calls, I run to the phone like a little kid.

I love mom.

[Sybil]

My mom has alzheirmers so bad it is painful for us to talk now so I avoid it. She gets emotional when she realizes she can't remember anything so now we all avoid the issue as much as possible and pretend she is saying something for the first time...or that we are wrong about our pasts....and she is right....

It hurts because she can't remember major events in our childhoods....or gets them mixed up.

I try not to talk to her now. But I will take her in if I have too.

*gulp*

I just read this one.

Wow.. that has to be hard.. I am really sorry that she goes thru that and you see it and experience it.

That has to be hard.

:(