Bulimia.

[Homicidalheathen]

....If you suspected someone close to you was ? If said person is way too thin. Then after they eat they go into the bathroom. You hear wierd loud coughing and they are in there too long to just pee.

I have seen this before and I think this is whats happening here.

They get very good at it so it doesn't sound like puking..and its fast.

Said person won't listen to me so I want to bring it up to someone else but they may think I am lying or overeacting...

Person is denying it so I thought I should wait...?

And then there is the fact I USED to be anhorexic......I am not now, but maybe said person thinks its kinda the same and I should butt out.

However its not the same and causes tooth problems and esophigal problems.

Just don't know if I should wait until I see this happen some more and bring it up in front of others.....but wait until when, they get sick and so thin they are ready to die?

[Marblez]

....If you suspected someone close to you was ? If said person is way too thin. Then after they eat they go into the bathroom. You hear wierd loud coughing and they are in there too long to just pee.

I have seen this before and I think this is whats happening here.

They get very good at it so it doesn't sound like puking..and its fast.

Said person won't listen to me so I want to bring it up to someone else but they may think I am lying or overeacting...

Person is denying it so I thought I should wait...?

And then there is the fact I USED to be anhorexic......I am not now, but maybe said person thinks its kinda the same and I should butt out.

However its not the same and causes tooth problems and esophigal problems.

Just don't know if I should wait until I see this happen some more and bring it up in front of others.....but wait until when, they get sick and so thin they are ready to die?

To tell or not to tell isn't the problem I see. My question is WHO would you tell? What good would come from it? If the possible benefit outweighs the loss of trust then go for it. Besides...If YOU can see it, others probably can too.

If this is a minor - no doubt at all, I would tell the parents. Parents of minors have ability to take action.

[bean]

Be careful who you talk to about it. This person isn't going to want people knowing about it and will most likely be pissed off that the people close to them are talking about it behind their back. Be careful how you approach the situation. Bulimia and anorexia are very private things to those that suffer from them (usually), so any attempt to discuss it is going to be met with opposition, but they do need help.

And, just an FYI, not all bulimics are thin. It sometimes begins when a person is overweight, and people don't notice because most people think that everyone with an ED is thin, so those close to them aren't alarmed until the person is too thin. By then, the disorder has probably gone on for so long that it is hard for that person to stop.

[Rayne]

I was wayyyy too thin once. I didn't even weigh 100 lbs. until after I had my second kid. I couldn't gain for the life of me, unless I was pregnant. I ate (and still do) all kinds of fatty stuff. Now since after my c-section with my 4th kid, I've been able to keep some weight on (granted still not much) ... but if you seen me before, I was wayyyy too thin. I've never had an eating disorder. In fact I TRIED to put on weight. My metabolism just changed, eventually.

[Absinthe]

Be careful who you talk to about it. This person isn't going to want people knowing about it and will most likely be pissed off that the people close to them are talking about it behind their back. Be careful how you approach the situation. Bulimia and anorexia are very private things to those that suffer from them (usually), so any attempt to discuss it is going to be met with opposition, but they do need help.

And, just an FYI, not all bulimics are thin. It sometimes begins when a person is overweight, and people don't notice because most people think that everyone with an ED is thin, so those close to them aren't alarmed until the person is too thin. By then, the disorder has probably gone on for so long that it is hard for that person to stop.

This is very true. I have struggled with bulimia on-and-off since I was 9 years old. I am finally getting thru it, but needles to say I have irreversible damage to my esophagus...and lots of other issues because of it. And I am no where near "thin". All I can say is that the person, whomever it is...is killing themselves. Treat it like you would any person hell bent on suicide. Confront them, ask them to seek help, find places that will help them, and meet with a support group for those dealing with bulimics to help yourself. Another good thing to do is to stand firm. Tell that person you wont go to meals with them anymore if they are going to throw up. I'm telling you it was helpful to me to have a few friends step up to the plate and do those embarrassing things you hate but appreciate. They refused to go out to eat with me, and they started following me in the bathroom. It kicks out the co-dependency ladder out from underneath you. It all sounds harsh, and maybe that is my cognitive behavioral therapist in me...but there is a limit to what you can do when another person doesn't want to change. All you can do is let it be known you aren't going to be a part of it, that you think they need help...and after that, there is nothing else you can do.

[Homicidalheathen]

thanks all.