That Did It.

[Homicidalheathen]

My kids graduated yesturday...both in the top of their class...one with major honors and awards.

Not one of my relatives showed up. No card, call......nothing.

Because, well they wear black.....one is out of the closet very bi maybe gay not sure yet....

...and pagan.

My family is a bunch of stuck up pompous christians who can't see past their own stuck up noses.

I have had it. I am not taking care of the house anymore. I want nothing from them and will no longer return their calls. It is not about money, it never was. Hell......I never asked them for a thing unlike other sibblings.....in fact....I didnt talk to them for a whole 7 yrs once.

This is it for me. Hurt me I don't care....hurt my kids and I will fuck you over or cut you out of my life period.

I am so fucking pissed. But I won't cry. Fuck it.

I am not giving them that. They are not worth the tears.

This after all I did for them......AFTER they abused me so bad as a kid everyone tells me I should write a frickin book.

I have just had it. NO more. If they call I am not answering.

[Onyx]

I had to do the same thing with some of my family. It's one of the best things I ever did for myself and I do not regret it one bit.

[Homicidalheathen]

Yah and to think I spent 75 bucks on flowers for someone on mothers day.....never again.

My in laws showed up though. I am glad they adopted me.

Everyone thinks my mum in law and me are related lol.

Part of the reason I stay in this family....if any thing were to ever happen, I would still go see her every week.

[sass_in_the_pants]

Cut em loose, HH. You don't need them.

You need to spend your time and energy caring about people who care back, you know what I mean?

Sorry they suck.

But congrats to your kids!!!

[Head Wreck]

cut them loose, its obvious they cant spend any time with your family so why should you waste time with them

congrats on the kids's graduation btw

[phee]

Congrats miss

[BrassFusion]

Yes, congratulations is in order... i'm so sorry when i hear about people whose families can't accept them for being different. i hate that. i have kind of a vanilla extended family that totally judge and dismiss the black sheep... i'm pretty sure they're still in denial about my not being lutheran. but my immediate family is just awesome. guess i'm lucky

[Msterbeau]

Un-needed grief. We love you more, anyways.

[Homicidalheathen]

I am ok, hell I am getting used to it. When my cousin came out no one talked to her for 5 yrs. They still say behind her back....oh she is not gay...she just hasn't found the right man yet.

Like it isn't possible that she is repulsed by penis...unlike me lol.

[LadyKay]

I'm sorry. I know you are upset. Being stuck up isn't very Christian like. Someone should tell them this. But hey, your kids graduated top of their class! With honors even! Obviously you have done a good job at parenting them! Do not let the stuck up attitude of your relatives ruin it for you. Celebrate this achievement with your children and who gives a rat's butt what your relatives think. It's their lost!

[Scary Guy]

I'm sorry. I know you are upset. Being stuck up isn't very Christian like. Someone should tell them this.

Yeah but being hypocrites is pretty true to form for most of the ones I've met.

[Slept with ghost]

That blows

if you spend so much time helping them and they cant do anything for you then you are no doubt the better person in the situation but even then you can only be streached so far.

walking away is never easy but just remeber that they arent the type of people you want to be around anyways

[Der Nister]

Yeah but being hypocrites is pretty true to form for most of the ones I've met.

*agrees*

[LadyKay]

Yeah but being hypocrites is pretty true to form for most of the ones I've met.

Then you have not met many real ones. But hey guess what....I'm the real thing. And the Christians you speak of don't like me neather.

[Troy Spiral (13)]

Probably very upsetting im sure. =(

Often i think our historical/cultural ideas and expectations of "family" are in error. The biological accident that means our relatives are somehow supposed to have some special meaning for us . Someone that just happens to be closer to me genetically doesn't give them any special credit. Our friends, people that are there for us, care about us , etc. are our real family.

It's just an incorrect assumption that genetics should = love. Some random rapist biological father that abuses his daughter, shouldn't be valued as "family" over the non-biological man who helped and nurtured that same girl through her life. Actions / emotional connections should define our families i think, not random sexual encounter outcomes.

Hell I'm more loyal to some people that I've never met in real life but have tried to help me many times over there years, than i am to say, some random uncle who I've not talked to in 5 years and only even says hi to me at funerals for example. There's nothing inherently "sad" about this really if we can scuff off the chains of culture that have taught us the butt-reaming asshole that happened to be genetically related to us somehow should 'love' us. It just requires a difficult rethinking of what "family" means.

[Fierce Critter]

My husband disowned his own family years ago. They treated him like shit and were stuck in patterns that upset him (no growth, narrow-mindedness, hypocritical, etc.).

He's embraced my family as his own, and they have done the same with him.

Congrats to you and yours.

[LuluVox]

Sorry you and your kids had to endure that kind of drama. But hey, you haven't lived until you've disowned a family member!! (I speak from experience)

[Joey Deadcat]

Thank you, ma'am, for your story.

[Sybil]

My kids graduated yesturday...both in the top of their class...one with major honors and awards.

Not one of my relatives showed up. No card, call......nothing.

Because, well they wear black.....one is out of the closet very bi maybe gay not sure yet....

...and pagan.

My family is a bunch of stuck up pompous christians who can't see past their own stuck up noses.

I have had it. I am not taking care of the house anymore. I want nothing from them and will no longer return their calls. It is not about money, it never was. Hell......I never asked them for a thing unlike other sibblings.....in fact....I didnt talk to them for a whole 7 yrs once.

This is it for me. Hurt me I don't care....hurt my kids and I will fuck you over or cut you out of my life period.

I am so fucking pissed. But I won't cry. Fuck it.

I am not giving them that. They are not worth the tears.

This after all I did for them......AFTER they abused me so bad as a kid everyone tells me I should write a frickin book.

I have just had it. NO more. If they call I am not answering.

wow..

ouch.

i am sorry to hear about abuse.. thats terrible..

..nothing wrong with crying for days on end. ..doesnt mean its weakness, its cleansing.. its freeing. holding that stuff in makes things worse... makes us bitter and old before our time.

i recommend a good time alone cry.

)

i have been thru NUTS stuff too..

crying doesnt FIX anything about a SITUATION, you are right, but being honest inside you WITH you is A MUST..

when a person hurts you you give them more power by denying yourself healing. by denying your emotions. by "holding back."

i am sorry that youre hurting and upset. it sounds like a very hard thing to deal with.

you must be a very strong lady.

[Homicidalheathen]

I am proud to say I did NOT break down and buy a fathers day card.

And your welcome sir.

[ZhukovCodeslinger]

Its hard to be a christian and be nice to anyone WHO IS NOT EXACTLY LIKE YOU.

According to most pastors, preachers, priests, pope's etc. you cant be a good christian unless you listen to them and they will basicly tell you to hate anyone who does not behave exactly like they want their followers to behave.

convert now and come under the benign influence of his noodly appendages!