Blissfully Blinded Or Just Hypocritical?

[Marblez]

This has happened many times to me. I am just not sure what to make of it.

I notice a difference in the attention that I get when I wear makeup vs. when I don't wear makeup. I don't usually have a terrible complexion so it is an option I can enjoy. I can't think of the last time that I have been approached/"hit on" by a man while not wearing makeup. I am not actually sure that it has ever happened.

Why is it than that once I am involved in a non-superficial relationship with a man, he will tell me that I look better natural, without the makeup. C'mon now, if I looked "better" wouldn't you think that the proof would be in the attention I would get when I go out?

...or is that it? Is it jealousy, that he doesn't WANT me to get the attention that I would get if I was all dolled up? Could it be that his love for or attraction to me is so great that he has blinders on to what the rest of the world sees?

What do you think?

[Steven]

I think your a rare beauty, which makes this a difficult question to answer....

there is a very good chance that as your relationship grows in depth, that the attraction your SO feels likewise increases, and begins to change. Everyone can appreciate surface bueaty and we're all affected or drawn to it, its no different than appreciating all of Gods creation and being drawn and filled up by it. But as your sense of intimacy grows, there are new discoveries and unchartered territories your man starts to explore and appreciate...which creates a stronger bind. Its a good thing.

and yes there might be some jealousy involved there - I've known men like that but not all men are that way and they shouldent be that way at all if the relationship is healthy because then there is no fear of loss.

oh, and men who "hit on you" are doing just that - hitting on you - it has no true depth yet.

[CatsEyeOfTheWiccan]

To me matter how some feels with or without..make up.

-CatsEye

[saechalyn]

When posed this very question, a man once said to me, "The made-up you is the girl I didn't know yet, the one I just saw in passing. The natural you is the one I wake up with, so I can't help being biased towards her."

[Scary Guy]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It depends on how the person looks first of all. The plain look can be good as long as it can be pulled off. Makeup can be bad as "Drew Carry" showed everyone. I think we've all met a version of "Mimi" at one point in our lives.

As far as getting the attention with the makeup it is possible that one might think you're getting all dolled up looking for attention.

More interesting is how we got this way and the history of makeup itself and why we say it looks good.

Personally I prefer a girl with natural beauty. I don't want to wake up in the morning and be scared out of bed LOL.

[sass_in_the_pants]

We have this friend, she's ALWAYS dolled up. Her hair, nails, makeup, she just always looks so put together, and the boys drool for her. I don't think she's an exceptional beauty - as a matter of fact, there are other single girls in the group who I think are far prettier. However, I think the boys are drawn to her because she is sending out a message, which is 'Look at me!' and they do.

I guess, it's just a matter of the makeup doing its job, y'know? I think I even look longer at women (and men) who are dolled up.

[creatureofthenyte]

I too think there could be some degree of jealousy present in him.

If he truly thinks you're beautiful, then it shouldn't matter if you wear make up or not.

It does attract attention as you know. Either he can handle that or he cannot.

Talk to him about it, and find out where his head is at about it.

When you two are out somewhere together and other guys look at you, he should be like:

"Yeah She's with Me"

I hope things turn out ok for you.

[BrassFusion]

Great answers so far.

Personally, I like to be with a guy who doesn't care whether I wear makeup (as in, most of the guys I ever remember dating). And oddly enough, I seem to get more play when I don't wear lipstick. I haven't figured out whether it's because I just feel more comfortable in my own skin...

I think one's accoutrement needs to match one's personality in order to attract the right kind of person.

[creatureofthenyte]

Great answers so far.

Personally, I like to be with a guy who doesn't care whether I wear makeup (as in, most of the guys I ever remember dating). And oddly enough, I seem to get more play when I don't wear lipstick. I haven't figured out whether it's because I just feel more comfortable in my own skin...

I think one's accoutrement needs to match one's personality in order to attract the right kind of person.

Lipstick on a girl, can really set off her look in a positive way. Dark hair and red lipstick on a girl....Ooo Rah!

Definitely not mandatory though. Also, its been my experience, with kissing women who are wearing lipstick, I end up with some of it too, which doesn't really help me at all

[Onyx]

It's a sweet thing to say, and I've had it said to me, but I really *like* wearing makeup. I wear it for me.

I wear it even when I stay home. I like the way I look and feel with it on.

The only time I don't wear any is if I'm too ill to put it on.

I think even naturally beautiful people look better with a bit of makeup to accent their features. (but I like it on men too, heh. Nothing sexier than black eyeliner accenting a man's eyes).

[saechalyn]

Nothing sexier than black eyeliner accenting a man's eyes).

amen!

[CatsEyeOfTheWiccan]

Have you gals seen me in Eye Liner yet?

-CatsEye

[Scary Guy]

Have you gals seen me in Eye Liner yet?

-CatsEye

Probably look better than I do, but I don't wear eyeliner I just have huge bags under my eyes usually.

[know_buddy_kares]

I actually tried eyeliner for city club on friday.. and damn before then I thought I couldn't get any sexier... I think it's due time for me to invest in a small stick of it now heheh...

[Gauge]

This has happened many times to me. I am just not sure what to make of it.

I notice a difference in the attention that I get when I wear makeup vs. when I don't wear makeup. I don't usually have a terrible complexion so it is an option I can enjoy. I can't think of the last time that I have been approached/"hit on" by a man while not wearing makeup. I am not actually sure that it has ever happened.

Why is it than that once I am involved in a non-superficial relationship with a man, he will tell me that I look better natural, without the makeup. C'mon now, if I looked "better" wouldn't you think that the proof would be in the attention I would get when I go out?

...or is that it? Is it jealousy, that he doesn't WANT me to get the attention that I would get if I was all dolled up? Could it be that his love for or attraction to me is so great that he has blinders on to what the rest of the world sees?

What do you think?

I know for me when i put makeup on its because im going out and wanna flirt so when i do, i hold myself a little different. i think guys also tend to look at girls with makeup more because it shows that she wants to go that extra little step to look different and grab their attention. i dont think its a bad thing when a guy sais he doesnt want/need you dolled up because your not partying with him 24/7, he wants to be with the real you. i think its awsome when you can be with a guy where you dont need to throw makeup on every morning but if he comes home to you made up its not bad, maybe even hot because your not all the time. just my 2 cents

amen!

oh and uhh i second that one!

[Guest Megalicious]

...or is that it? Is it jealousy, that he doesn't WANT me to get the attention that I would get if I was all dolled up? Could it be that his love for or attraction to me is so great that he has blinders on to what the rest of the world sees?

What do you think?

I think most men are horribly insecure, if they admit it or not is up to them. The fact is that your a beautiful woman, and with the makeup drawing attention even more so to your natural beauty it leaves men scared.

Not scared of what you'll do but scared of what other men are thinking and what their intentions are towards you.

I don't put makeup on when I'm going to flirt/go out/ ect. I put it on because I like to, it makes me feel good and it happens to be one of my great many (LOL) talents.

[BrassFusion]

I actually tried eyeliner for city club on friday.. and damn before then I thought I couldn't get any sexier... I think it's due time for me to invest in a small stick of it now heheh...

[CatsEyeOfTheWiccan]

I guess matter of prefrence for a woman beauty mesured by inside and not outside.

That's what I think.

-CatsEye

[raziel4772]

didn't feel like reading the rest so i don't know if this has been said but i tend to think of it like a mateing dance kinda thing a peacock spreading its tail feathers. Its there to get the guys attention so that you will be picked out of the group as the one most wanting and worthy of the attention. But once you're with the guy you already have his attention and he finds the same or more beauty in you as you naturally are. Basically you get more attention from other guys only cause your metaphoric feathers are spread not cause you are more attractive with makeup.

[Homicidalheathen]

Personally I think men can be insecure about loosing you....and think....she is with me now, why does she need that stuff?

But there are a few guys who honestly don't like makeup really.....they just don't want to say so and don't until they are comfortable with ya.

[Head Wreck]

i've met women who look great with no makup on.

and i've met others i dont recognise without the makup (it wasnt untill i looked into her eyes and saw the unique trademarks of that persons eyes that it clicked who it was.

but really, physical attraction is the catcher, personality and the relationship between yourself and another is the keeper. and love does blind us all to imperfections.

dont take my word on it though, all my relationships have been disasterous

[Homicidalheathen]

And this is ok when your young and dating. Me, I need someone who is there for me when I am puking....in so much pain I can't shower for a few days let alone even LOOK at a mascara tube. THAT is love. Or at least support. Which is what I need at this point in my life.

We have this friend, she's ALWAYS dolled up. Her hair, nails, makeup, she just always looks so put together, and the boys drool for her. I don't think she's an exceptional beauty - as a matter of fact, there are other single girls in the group who I think are far prettier. However, I think the boys are drawn to her because she is sending out a message, which is 'Look at me!' and they do.

I guess, it's just a matter of the makeup doing its job, y'know? I think I even look longer at women (and men) who are dolled up.