Told An Ex Off

[FarrIL]

Anyone remember Nate? The guy from Taylor I was dating last year? DJ'd at Mephisto's and such?

Well, I had taken him off my Myspace friends, on both of my accounts, to move on from my past. I've found this good relationship and I dont need traces of past relationships to make me dwell on things I shouldnt be dwelling on.

ANYWAY, who sent me a friend request on Monday?

Nate.

I hit Deny.

Who sends me another friend request TODAY?

Nate.

So not only did I hit "Deny" but I also sent him a message, as follows:

I'm not adding you back. I'm going to keep denying your requests if you keep sending them.

Ask me why if you want, but I'm going to tell you that I dont need someone like you in my life anymore or ever. I'm moving on from my past and guess what, you're a part of my past. Move on like I did, or dont, whichever. It's obvious you want to keep in contact or have been "checking up" on me. If there's some reason you want to stay in contact, you should've said it a long time ago.

Regardless, I'm not accepting your requests and I dont need you in my life. I dont need, nor want, to stay in contact with you. Plus that, I've found somebody that treats me a hell of a lot better, and is just all around a lot better of a person, by far. His life is a lot more together at the age of 20 than yours is at 33. I guarantee it.

I bent over backwards for you so many times, were you not aware? You couldnt see your once girlfriend crying when she saw you willing to give up at the drop of the hat? How loyal I was to you, even though I only saw you once a month?

I was pretty tolerant.

Bye and dont contact me again.

Yep, I dissed the f*cker too. Hopeless, going-nowhere life at the age of 33 and he's done NOTHING to change it. My boyfriend now is 20 years old and is seriously thinking about taking a Pipe Fitter's test. This means he'd be almost guaranteed a job no matter where he lived. He's currently employed, has a car and lives with 2 roommates.

Nate borrowed a car from one of his roommates, lived with 3 or 4 roommates, and in the near-5 months that we were dating, he was unemployed aside from his 25 bucks a DJing job at Meph's. At 32 years old.

Despite my doing all the driving, his antics, his unemployment, I stuck by his side.

Can we say "Tolerant"? I stuck by his side whenever he thought he should seriously just give up. I would cry about it and yet I'd still be there for him. And how loyal was I? Pretty f*cking loyal.

Crap, that reminds me, I should throw away his bandanna I stole. >.0

Edit: Threw out the bandanna and made sure that the make-shift chicken alfredo I scarped off my plate hit the damn thing. XD [/evil]

[wouldu]

good for you, I cannot stand when people are still involved with their past it makes me sick and not want to deal with them at all as a person, friend, or relationship... argh. kudos.. to you

[Dollardave]

Anyone remember Nate? The guy from Taylor I was dating last year? DJ'd at Mephisto's and such?

Well, I had taken him off my Myspace friends, on both of my accounts, to move on from my past. I've found this good relationship and I dont need traces of past relationships to make me dwell on things I shouldnt be dwelling on.

ANYWAY, who sent me a friend request on Monday?

Nate.

I hit Deny.

Who sends me another friend request TODAY?

Nate.

So not only did I hit "Deny" but I also sent him a message, as follows:

I'm not adding you back. I'm going to keep denying your requests if you keep sending them.

Ask me why if you want, but I'm going to tell you that I dont need someone like you in my life anymore or ever. I'm moving on from my past and guess what, you're a part of my past. Move on like I did, or dont, whichever. It's obvious you want to keep in contact or have been "checking up" on me. If there's some reason you want to stay in contact, you should've said it a long time ago.

Regardless, I'm not accepting your requests and I dont need you in my life. I dont need, nor want, to stay in contact with you. Plus that, I've found somebody that treats me a hell of a lot better, and is just all around a lot better of a person, by far. His life is a lot more together at the age of 20 than yours is at 33. I guarantee it.

I bent over backwards for you so many times, were you not aware? You couldnt see your once girlfriend crying when she saw you willing to give up at the drop of the hat? How loyal I was to you, even though I only saw you once a month?

I was pretty tolerant.

Bye and dont contact me again.

Yep, I dissed the f*cker too. Hopeless, going-nowhere life at the age of 33 and he's done NOTHING to change it. My boyfriend now is 20 years old and is seriously thinking about taking a Pipe Fitter's test. This means he'd be almost guaranteed a job no matter where he lived. He's currently employed, has a car and lives with 2 roommates.

Nate borrowed a car from one of his roommates, lived with 3 or 4 roommates, and in the near-5 months that we were dating, he was unemployed aside from his 25 bucks a DJing job at Meph's. At 32 years old.

Despite my doing all the driving, his antics, his unemployment, I stuck by his side.

Can we say "Tolerant"? I stuck by his side whenever he thought he should seriously just give up. I would cry about it and yet I'd still be there for him. And how loyal was I? Pretty f*cking loyal.

Crap, that reminds me, I should throw away his bandanna I stole. >.0

Edit: Threw out the bandanna and made sure that the make-shift chicken alfredo I scarped off my plate hit the damn thing. XD [/evil]

It sounds like Nate wasn't a real winner Farril. Sounds like your new man has his stuff together. Sometimes my exwife tries to contact me by text message on my phone I just tell her I'm not interested in talking to her anymore. It sounds like u were loyal and its his BIG fuckin loss cuz you're beautiful and have a lot to offer a man. HIS LOSS. Kudos on telling him off. Also chicken alfredo sounds good, but what is make shift chicken alfredo?

[pharoh]

Good deal hun, I been through that earlier this year as well....good for you

[FarrIL]

It sounds like Nate wasn't a real winner Farril. Sounds like your new man has his stuff together. Sometimes my exwife tries to contact me by text message on my phone I just tell her I'm not interested in talking to her anymore. It sounds like u were loyal and its his BIG fuckin loss cuz you're beautiful and have a lot to offer a man. HIS LOSS. Kudos on telling him off. Also chicken alfredo sounds good, but what is make shift chicken alfredo?

Make-shift chicken alfredo means it wasnt quite chicken alfredo. Something wasnt right with the recipe. o0

As for my loyalty, yeah, he lost big time. He made me cry a bunch of times due to his antics, him wanting to give up, him wanting to just throw up his hands and say "Alright, kill me", etc. I stuck by him, I gave him encouragement, I tried OFTEN to look on the brighter side of everything. Because of him, I was either smiling or bawling my eyes out and I know for a FACT that that is NOT how a relationship is supposed to be. He was 32 when I was dating him, jobless, car-less and I had to do all of the driving. All he wanted to do was play videogames, unless we were getting ready for Mephisto's, then he wanted the foreplay.

He was just really immature for his age.

Brian, my boyfriend, is 20 and has a job, a car, lives with two roommates. He's staring a few opportunities in the face, and that makes me proud of him. I dont recall ever seeing anything worthy in Nate, besides him wanting to see his son. That was it. Brian and I communicate, Nate and I did very little of that and it pissed me off. Brian treats me like a woman, a real woman. And I dont feel held back or hindered by being in this relationship. With Nate, I felt myself getting depressed here and there because there were things that I wasnt emotionally right to do (( like concentrate on drawing, etc )).

Either way, Nate still hasnt read the message. I hope that when he does, he cries. XD

[CandyQuackenbush]

Good for you. Sometimes people just need that verbal ass kicking.

[Kit Kat P]

Congrats. That's awesome of and for you. Boundaries sure feel good to establish

[Hellion]

Also Farril you can "Block" him on Myspace,that way he cant even send you a message either,I have several I have blocked on both my accounts,never heard from them again.

[FarrIL]

He read the message, but I didnt get a response.

But, I also blocked him as well. I'm not going to set my profile to private, but he cant contact me anymore.

[Homicidalheathen]

Despite my doing all the driving, his antics, his unemployment, I stuck by his side.

Girl, I am still learning to say no to these types at 42.

GOOD FOR YOU!

[FarrIL]

Girl, I am still learning to say no to these types at 42.

GOOD FOR YOU!

Thankie. And hopefully, the more you say no to, the better partners you'll find. Which will mean better, uh, behind-doors-activity =3

But regardless, it's over and done with and it feels good to have released oneself from a past stint. W00t for freedom!

[Winter Steele]

You are learning to get a tough skin and sticking to your guns to keep him at bay. Like the kitty:Hang in there baby!