Anger

[Pandora]

Do you have a temper? How do you deal with it?

I have a temper that is best described as Lethal at a certain time of the month.

When certain things or people don't go my way it goes off like an atom bomb. Instantaneous, powerful, bridge-burning at times, scary even to me. It doesn't happen often, but when I lose my shit I lose it all the way. After the reaction when I've had a few minutes or hours to calm down I feel physically drained and wondering who that person was.

Doesn't matter what I'm eating, what meds I'm on, motrin, birth control, add meds (which I'm not on) whatever. I've been told in the past that having ADD (without the H) has something to do with it, that when most people get angry it's a three step reaction:

1. Something happens to anger you

2. You're able to take a step back and think before reacting

3. You react.

Apparently folks with ADD are missing step two and the synapse (neuron, whatever the term is) fires from step 1 to 3 leaving Katrina in it's wake.

So, how do you deal with your temper if you have one? Sometimes if the trigger is small I can take a step back, but if it's something I consider to be bigger, I feel I have No Control over my reaction and it reaaaaaaaaaally sucks.

And please, no posts about how ADD doesn't exist or it's a conspiracy. I know what I have and what my symptoms are. It's not a curse, and at times can be a great thing. But not in the case of my temper.

[Miranda]

This all depends on what has made me angry. I suppose that I have different levels of anger within me. I try to look at every situation from not just only my side when I am pissed off but also from the side of the person who has irritated me as well. I really try to figure out why this has happened and where they are coming from. Some people are just unhappy and miserable, and we all know that misery loves company. Some people just wake up pissed off. Luckily, I don't suffer from that. Although, If I don't get my way in a certain matter, it can get nasty. I am quite inflexible and I do not like to be disappointed. The only way I can deal with my anger is to try to avoid stress factors and anyone who could possibly want to start drama with me for whatever reason.

[Morbid Side]

I'm like a viper, I will strike without a moments notice.

You're preaching to the choir. I have a severe anger problem which causes me to be a major hot head especially in recent months, so I've been told. Sometimes I feel like everyones out to get me or against me then it's all out warfare. The best thing I've learned is to take deep breaths and possibly relax all the muscles in the body. You know, come to think about it, I might go back to meditation again.

[Homicidalheathen]

I hear ya sister. If its something that has to be delt with right away its not easy.....If I can wait its best cause if I can clear my head and think then I may come up with a good solution or comeback rather than just screaming my head off.

But I too, have adhd and am an impatient bull headed scorpio woman oh yes.

Do you have a temper? How do you deal with it?

I have a temper that is best described as Lethal at a certain time of the month.

When certain things or people don't go my way it goes off like an atom bomb. Instantaneous, powerful, bridge-burning at times, scary even to me. It doesn't happen often, but when I lose my shit I lose it all the way. After the reaction when I've had a few minutes or hours to calm down I feel physically drained and wondering who that person was.

Doesn't matter what I'm eating, what meds I'm on, motrin, birth control, add meds (which I'm not on) whatever. I've been told in the past that having ADD (without the H) has something to do with it, that when most people get angry it's a three step reaction:

1. Something happens to anger you

2. You're able to take a step back and think before reacting

3. You react.

Apparently folks with ADD are missing step two and the synapse (neuron, whatever the term is) fires from step 1 to 3 leaving Katrina in it's wake.

So, how do you deal with your temper if you have one? Sometimes if the trigger is small I can take a step back, but if it's something I consider to be bigger, I feel I have No Control over my reaction and it reaaaaaaaaaally sucks.

And please, no posts about how ADD doesn't exist or it's a conspiracy. I know what I have and what my symptoms are. It's not a curse, and at times can be a great thing. But not in the case of my temper.

[hunhee]

I try not to let things get to me, but I guess I'm a bottler.. I bottle things up, and I store them inside me, and then all of a sudden something will just set me off (could be simple)..and I EXPLODE..

The good thing is, after I explode, there's nothing left inside me, all the anger usually subsides. The bad thing is, I usually leave the person whom I'm angry with kinda freaked out.. :/

[Oh_My_Goth]

Take a deep breath.....

Count to 10.....

Take another deep breath.....

(That is advice from Me boy when he was 3)

[Hellion]

It takes alot to set me off and it also depends on what it was to piss me off,once I hit a certan level I am like a BLEVE,and look out,liars,fakes and morons who spread false accusations wll be dealt with really nasty if they dont leave me alone,sleep and a good joint will calm me down,and if tha is not available,I will go antisocial,but usually sleep works well with me.considering over the past year I have calmed down alot,now gas prices,that will piss me off,LOL!

[torn asunder]

typically, the extent of my "reaction" is to fully tense up my muscles, and scream. that's usually enough but sometimes, i'll take off walking, to give myself time to cool off. at my worst, ever, i've punched/headbutted walls/doors, but i can count on one hand how many times i've ever done that in my life...

after my "reaction", i'll actually try to "step back" and figure out what is really causing my irritation, under the surface. once i can identify that, and do what i can to correct it, i find it usually goes away.

[Rayne]

Do you have a temper? How do you deal with it?

I have a temper that is best described as Lethal at a certain time of the month.

When certain things or people don't go my way it goes off like an atom bomb. Instantaneous, powerful, bridge-burning at times, scary even to me. It doesn't happen often, but when I lose my shit I lose it all the way. After the reaction when I've had a few minutes or hours to calm down I feel physically drained and wondering who that person was.

Doesn't matter what I'm eating, what meds I'm on, motrin, birth control, add meds (which I'm not on) whatever. I've been told in the past that having ADD (without the H) has something to do with it, that when most people get angry it's a three step reaction:

1. Something happens to anger you

2. You're able to take a step back and think before reacting

3. You react.

Apparently folks with ADD are missing step two and the synapse (neuron, whatever the term is) fires from step 1 to 3 leaving Katrina in it's wake.

So, how do you deal with your temper if you have one? Sometimes if the trigger is small I can take a step back, but if it's something I consider to be bigger, I feel I have No Control over my reaction and it reaaaaaaaaaally sucks.

And please, no posts about how ADD doesn't exist or it's a conspiracy. I know what I have and what my symptoms are. It's not a curse, and at times can be a great thing. But not in the case of my temper.

Hmm ... I was diagnosed with ADD (No H as well, which is now called ADHD without Hyperactivity) in third grade. I've never been on meds for it (Mom refused to medicate me and I just learned to deal with it over the years). I've never really noticed how I react. I wonder if I do now ... LOL.

My daughter does ... but she's SEVERE ADHD with the Hyperactivity (as well as some other issues).

[Destroit]

Ask all the holes in my walls and broken chairs in my house .

[Hellion]

Lack of sleep can be a big contributer.IMO

[creatureofthenyte]

I could be totally wrong about this, and I hope I am. However bi polar disorder comes to mind after reading your introductory post. A few years ago, my then gf at the time, had that, and didn't take her meds for it. She would go from chatting calmly, to if I said something very mild, that would just annoy the average person, She would just start breathin fire and throwin stuff at me. So, again, I am probably totally wrong with my guess, but the thought crossed my mind and I decided to share. As for how I deal with my anger, I go to the gym and turn it into a great workout, so it turns into something positive. If I cannot get to the gym, then I just sit in my truck and blast heavy metal.

[SuZQZ]

As mentioned by other's here, it depends on what has angered me. If it's some crap at work, I vent a bit to a coworker if necessary, then let it go. In my personal life, I usually take a step back and decide if it's something worth confronting or if it's something that isn't worth the effort. The only things that get me riled up to the point where I can't take a step back before reacting are betrayal and blatant dishonesty or manipulation. I turn into the Hulk.

[Head Wreck]

smile, walk away, find a quiet spot, compose myself, carry on

[torn asunder]

smile, walk away, find a quiet spot, compose myself, carry on

stiff upper lip, eh!?

[Head Wreck]

induetably so old bean, there is no hardship that cannot be overcome by a suitable blend and quantity of tea and scheming!

[thewhiterecluse]

Letting it all out and or expressing it artistically, it's not good to bottle up emotions.

[Nerdcore]

go for a long run or walk.. also listen to your fav music that might calm u down

[Homicidalheathen]

a few years ago glass breaking was mentioned on here.

It rocks.

[Msterbeau]

Is killing too extreme?

[Morbid Side]

Letting it all out and or expressing it artistically, it's not good to bottle up emotions.

Or just take it out on the pedestrians in Grand Theft Auto.

[TygerLili]

I have a temper, but unless you are a boyfriend, a family member or a very close friend you'll likely never see it. I only actually lose my temper with people I care about a lot. Everyone else I just push away. There have been a couple instances over the years where people I didn't know upset me enough for me to scream at them, but it's been so long I can't even remember the last time it happened.

When I do lose my temper though, I have to say my piece. I try to do something like exercise, video games, go for a walk, etc. to burn off some of that excess energy and allow me to calm down, but if I don't speak up it will eat at me and make things worse for everyone.

[thewhiterecluse]

I try my best to let things slide but if someone keeps pushing my buttons I go off. Then I stay mad at the person a very long time. I found myself in the past apologizing for things that weren't my fault. But if something is my fault I will apologize. I try to express my anger artistically but sometimes I feel it needs to be heard. Lately working out has been able to let me release tension so I'm not hanging on the edge. I would like to get a punching bag, not one to hang, but one with a spring recoil so I don't have to worry about nailing holes in the ceiling.

[Destroit]

a few years ago glass breaking was mentioned on here.

It rocks.

No it doesn't, only because the day that Raven's beloved PS2 took a crap and died I came home to 10-15 of the empty beer bottles in the house (I know...we are lushes ) broken all over the basement floor. Not that he didn't clean it up, but you know glass, I kept finding litttttle microscopic shards in my feet here and there for about a week afterwards.

[XIII Poison]

I don't think I ever get really angry. Sometimes I snap back at people when they bother me, but for the most part I keep everything inside.