Must Have Ideals & Positive Traits In A Mate

[Troy Spiral (13)]

What is an Ideal Trait that you basically MUST have in a potential mate/S.O. ?

What are positive traits, but not necessarily a "must" ?

[nilhil_glory]

well for me the girl has to be completley crazy , not like normal everyday girl crazy iether..... looking at all the girls ive dated(came close to dating) they've all been pretty much the only word to describe them

psychotic....

i perfer em that way

i also tend to like girls that are my size and buildish but still girls ya know?, and as a must they have to have the undoubted ability to kick my ass at any given moment...

[sass_in_the_pants]

Nice.

Who would want to be with someone who isn't?

[Ice Queen (1)]

Musts:

Confidence, without cockiness

Respect for others, themselves, and me

Responsibility for their actions

Goofball- gotta be able to be silly and goofy

The ability to put up with me

[TygerLili]

Musts:

Intelligence-If you think books are only used as a doorstop we are not going to get along.

Sense of humor-I'm a smart ass, and at the very least you need to think I'm funny.

Respectful-Of me, my family, my friends, your family, your friends, my beliefs, my boundaries, the world in general.

Honest-Can't have a relationship without it.

Chemistry-If the thought of kissing you bores me or grosses me out, that's not good.

Puts aside time to spend with me-If you're too busy for a relationship then don't get into one.

Fights for what he wants-I don't just sit back and watch things I want pass me by or walk out of my life. If you do we're not gonna be compatable.

Has goals and works toward them.

Preferred but not essential:

College degree or working toward one.

Non-smoker or only smokes in clubs/bars.

Taller than me.

Likes doing things with my friends.

Similar taste in movies and music.

Has traveled to other parts of the country or world.

Edited May 14, 2008 by TygerLili

[phee]

Must Nots:

realize what I used my telescope for before the relationship.

Be having sex with my brother.

Shooting at me with small arms weapons.

Not run awaw from me screaming "Oh my god... its moving towards me!!!" (OK thats still OK I guess)

Must:

Like food other then healthy sand products

Have an open mind

Have feelings for me back (even if they don't know they have them yet and must be MADE to see them)

[hunhee]

"Must haves"

Intelligence.. someone I can talk to for HOURS, about life, the universe, everything else that fits in there, and I still am not tired of hearing their voice... and I don't have to explain ever so often what the meanings of the words I use are...

Sensitivity.. I'm a sensitive person, someone who's not overly critical of me, and the things that I do. I am quirky, I do quirky things, be sensitive enough to know when and when not to criticize me.

Sincerity.. I need to make sure that when someone says something to me, they're genuine about it, and it comes from the heart, that every compliment isn't followed by a criticism...

MY Sense of Humour.. I find some things humourous that are probably not really funny to most people, or people take offense to. It's amazing how many people don't "get me" when it comes to this...

Integrity.. I cannot and will not ever date anyone who I don't feel has some form of integrity. If you've never heard this word, and don't know what it means, look it up.

Confidence.. I like someone who's confident enough to be humble... If you don't understand this, you're not the right person for me.

I have a lot more, I'll list them later..

[Hellion]

Musts

Honesty

Respect to family and friends

Understanding of my line of work, sometimes they ask if you can work longer.

NO laziness,must be working

Holds nothing against me the kind of music I listen too.

Being yourself not a fake.

Sense of humor

CLEANLINESS,Big Factor!!

Intelligence.

Edited May 13, 2008 by Darque Metallion

[Oh_My_Goth]

They MUST be intelligent.....

Freaky in the sack, or at least willing to try new things is important.....

Blue or green eyes is a bonus..... :D

[Morbid Side]

I'm not putting these in order.

More than just a pretty face.

Crack funny jokes or just be a plain smart ass like I am.

Challenge me. When I'm wrong, let me know.

Balance.

Strong willed.

Loyalty

Able to hold a conversation and not how hot Dr McDreamy is.

Give and take. it's 50/50 or you're outta here!

Likes small furry pets.

Sets a goal.

Is not afraid to release their inhibtions.

Clean.

Can turn lemons into lemonade.

Never quit, never die mentality.

[bean]

Musts:

Intelligence

Loyalty

A good sense of humor

Culture (likes museums, art, etc)

Open minded

Kind

Good taste in music/movies

Giving

[Homicidalheathen]

I can't be with a republican.

Someone who votes is nice though.

[Nienna]

Must be:

Intelligent

Spontaneoufs

Respectful

loyal / suplportive

Cultured

Enjoys travel

Self-sufficient

[asphyxian_doll]

Must be:

Genuine

Attractive...(im not shallow but i will admit it is important)

Sensual

Intelligent, and Open minded.

Spontaneous.

Submissive. and sometimes dominant

Mature, and open to growth and change.

Must not have:

bad hygiene

Yellow teeth

Questionable habits (i.e. illegal activities gang affiliated, and drug use excluding smoking weed/drinking)

Lack of respect for women/fascist(ill make you bleed!!!)

Lack of common sense and intelligence.

[DarkChylde]

Someone who would not bitch about the toilet seat being up!!

"I left the toilet seat up. SHE CAN PUT IT DOWN!!!"

Edited May 13, 2008 by DarkChylde

[Goth Brooks]

First and foremost, they must pass the facepalm test.

If I can't talk to them for at least a few hours without once going palm to face, then it doesn't matter how attractive they are.

[hunhee]

Religious beliefs.. I cannot date anyone who feels so strongly one way or the other, their mind is completely closed.. (thought I would go one way with this didn't you?) ..hehe

Positive Attitude.. I must have someone who has a positive outlook on life. I've learned with my empathetic ways, I am WAY too easily influenced by the emotions of the person I'm with. If they're negative, I'm negative.. if they're upbeat and positive, I'm usually upbeat and positive..

Motivation.. I cannot be with someone who is complacent in their life.. I need someone to have their own goals, have their own life, have their own ideals, own their own futures..makes their own decisions, and lives by their own passions and beliefs.. that's very important..

I know.. I'm looking for the impossible.. I am positive that the impossibilities in life are very possible.

[Irish*Punk*Princess]

Intelligent, Honest, Open*minded (For the 2nd wife) , Cryptic,Challenging, Softhearted, Perceptive, Funny, Sensuous, Intellectual, Considerate, Unrevealed, Stimulating, Intrigueing, and great at communication.

[Homicidalheathen]

Oy!

What about the finger to crotch test? Ha ha!

First and foremost, they must pass the facepalm test.

If I can't talk to them for at least a few hours without once going palm to face, then it doesn't matter how attractive they are.

[Miranda]

1. A genuine personality.

2. Great sense of humor, regardless of how dark.

3. Nice smile.

4. Able to feel empathy for another person.

5. Open to unconventional ideals.

6. Honest to a fault.

7. Intelligence.

8. Reads, time permitting.

9. Isn't a real son of a bitch.

10. Accepts me for who I am.

[Scales]

Open-minded, intelligence, and good at communicating.

Appearance is somewhat important.

Loyal and honest.

We can respect each other.

I prefer dating an atheist, but I'm not against dating someone who's somewhat religious as long as we can both respect each other's beliefs.

Doesn't smoke, do hard drugs, or drink to the point of being an alchy.

Has a sense of humor.

Not really heavy into normal television.

A little crazy, fun to be around, has to have individual goals she's working towards.

Likes rock and electronica music.

Likes video games.

Doesn't want kids.

[hunhee]

1. A genuine personality.

2. Great sense of humor, regardless of how dark.

3. Nice smile.

4. Able to feel empathy for another person.

5. Open to unconventional ideals.

6. Honest to a fault.

7. Intelligence.

8. Reads, time permitting.

9. Isn't a real son of a bitch.

10. Accepts me for who I am.

w00t I need to grow a penis and we're good to go..hehehe he

[SuZQZ]

Musts are integrity, intelligence, compassion and loyalty.

[Miranda]

w00t I need to grow a penis and we're good to go..hehehe he

[Homicidalheathen]

A good listener and compassion. Your in.

Rudeness, arrogance...I HATE big ego's. Your out...

Must have lots of cuddles.n Selfish people don't give but always want...

If I give you a back rub I expect one in return once in awhile.