Are you a slasher?

[Nienna]

I agree leslie, but i believe that most ppl that are cutters do so for attention which makes me really sad.  Cutting is personal ... I try to do it in places people cant see the scabs or scars.  Its good to blow off steam and frustration sometimes but it is very addicting and VERY UNHEALTHY!  I just dont see why someone would want to draw such negaitive attention to themselfs.  What purpose does this serve?  Well other then the fact that ppl that do it for attention are attention whores ... but once again its such negaitive attention.  I guess i just dont understand.  I feel ashamed and embarrased when someone asks or questions me about them (the scars that is) and i just dont see how someone could enjoy that feeling =( thats just me I guess.

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I don't think you should feel ashamed, but I understand those emotions. My best friend used to be a cutter, she's thankfully past that now. I always would be hard on her about it, and I regret that I wasn't more understanding at the time. Last year sometime.. not sure exactly when, my boyfriend at the time slept with someone else without asking/telling me. (Open relationship... blah blah... broken "rules") It really was a huge betrayal, and I cut myself that night. I feel kinda embarassed that I did it, never have since, and never even get the urge, but in that moment, it made sense, and I UNDERSTOOD. I still can't advocate it, and feel that those who do it need help, regardless of their reasons... =)

[DarkChylde]

Blood brothers hey neat shit.  You shouldn't have to be ashamed about what you do and if people want to harass you because you practice dark arts then should say nothing at all if they aint got nothing nice to say rather than harass you.  I think you're perfectly normal and crank.

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Oh im not ashamed at all, I just dont like being lectured, bribed and being accused for wanting attention. But on the other hand if the person is into the same thing then I have no prob of talking about it er whutsoever. I agree, if somone hears something they dont like then its best for them ta leave the convo alone or speak there opinion in a positive way without insulting anyone.

I also do meditation after cutting, I manage to rise all the stress/anger/hatred/anxiety by doing this and I feel like a whole new person afterwards. This is very similiar of how the black foots in my family release there demons, except i do it a bit diffrent.

[Steven]

Darkchylde- what do you meditate on after cutting? Seriously.

Steven

[soothsayer]

I've slashed myself before but it was always accidental and work related so I'm thinking maybe it doesn't count. :whistling

[Hellion]

:devil I guess Ican never understand anyone in this country anymore.

[Black Sunday9]

:devil I guess Ican never understand anyone in this country anymore.

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maybe they are mumbling?

[Nerdcore]

I cut becuase I was/still am a cutter.. not for pleaseure.. for relase of pressure.. i know its sad but I ge thelp.. I woud never cut for pleaseure.. though mabey cutting myself now/then is pleaseure in its own right mind..?

:erm =(

[tabycat]

This is a sensitive subject and most cutters I know don't go around screaming I'M A CUTTER! I know for myself I don't want attention drawn to me but have made scars in some obvious places that after years are seen and asked about and I hate it! I wanna tat over the scars because I really don't want the memory of the pain that once was.

Throughout history there have been varying types and degrees of self-mutilation including some which are accepted by society. In our culture, ear-piercing, elective plastic surgery, and tattoos represent accepted and even valued behaviors.

From what I understand of the psychology of cutting is endorphins (our bodies own narcotics) are released at time of cutting creating a temporary calming effect. I have found through research that sexual abuse is on of the most common causes of cutting followed by other forms of abuse.

Cutting is a way of "being in control", a way to master an internal sense of helplessness and anger. We sometimes deflect psychological pain and distress into pain that seems understandable and controllable, like that of cutting.

Not sure if any of you have read this book but is has very good information on the topic at hand: A BRIGHT RED SCREAM Self-Mutilation and the Language of Pain by Marilee Strong Penguin USA, 1999. I found it a very helpful book in my research on this subject.

I really don't believe that most people do it for attenction, although there are those that do. It is a way for us to get out what maybe we can't say or do. No, it may not be pysically healthy but it is very psychologically relieving. After the release of the internal anxities, through cutting, that are felt individuals are able to move on.

Ok there's my view on the subject. ~tabz

[Dollardave]

Hmm they wrote a book on this interesting. It was nice finally meeting u this weekend taby you're a nice girl. Thanks for your input on this matter.

This is a sensitive subject and most cutters I know don't go around screaming I'M A CUTTER! I know for myself I don't want attention drawn to me but have made scars in some obvious places that after years are seen and asked about and I hate it! I wanna tat over the scars because I really don't want the memory of the pain that once was.

Throughout history there have been varying types and degrees of self-mutilation including some which are accepted by society.  In our culture, ear-piercing, elective plastic surgery, and tattoos represent accepted and even valued behaviors.

From what I understand of the psychology of cutting is endorphins (our bodies own narcotics) are released at time of cutting creating a temporary calming effect. I have found through research that sexual abuse is on of the most common causes of cutting followed by other forms of abuse.

Cutting is a way of "being in control", a way to master an internal sense of helplessness and anger. We sometimes deflect psychological pain and distress into pain that seems understandable and controllable, like that of cutting.

Not sure if any of you have read this book but is has very good information on the topic at hand: A BRIGHT RED SCREAM Self-Mutilation and the Language of Pain by Marilee Strong Penguin USA, 1999. I found it a very helpful book in my research on this subject.

I really don't believe that most people do it for attenction, although there are those that do. It is a way for us to get out what maybe we can't say or do. No, it may not be pysically healthy but it is very psychologically relieving. After the release of the internal anxities, through cutting, that are felt individuals are able to move on.

Ok there's my view on the subject. ~tabz

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[kellygrrrrrl]

Very touchy subject matter......

I can relate. I do not cut though, but the urge is there.

Recently in my life I had suffered A LOT and I mean A LOT of trauma, stress, grief. All in the last 6 months. Recently I have felt that I cannot deal anymore. I am too much of a wimp, and have too much respect for the GOD up above to kill myself, and I have no let out. No where to turn, no-one to talk to, (As it seems) and I just cannot seem to find ways to release the "Pain in my soul".....So I have thought of cutting myself.....It SEEMS like it could release, but I am not that stupid.....I have thought about it as it seems to make sense. Relieve the pain inside by releasing it from your body by bloodshed. I know, and I know you know that it is not right, but I can definately see the "Reasoning" behind it......I could never do such thing becuase I am afraid of pain, and blood. Instead I relate to my journal, and scream into my pillow & cry until I am dehydrated. =(

[Brenda Starrr]

You can PM me anytime, in all caps, just to vent if you would like.

[Dollardave]

Sorry your life is so trying. Also cutters aren't "stupid" just different hon.

Very touchy subject matter......

I can relate.  I do not cut though, but the urge is there. 

Recently in my life I had suffered A LOT and I mean A LOT of trauma, stress, grief.  All in the last 6 months.  Recently I have felt that I cannot deal anymore.  I am too much of a wimp, and have too much respect for the GOD up above to kill myself, and I have no let out.  No where to turn, no-one to talk to, (As it seems) and I just cannot seem to find ways to release the "Pain in my soul".....So I have thought of cutting myself.....It SEEMS like it could release, but I am not that stupid.....I have thought about it as it seems to make sense.  Relieve the pain inside by releasing it from your body by bloodshed.  I know, and I know you know that it is not right, but I can definately see the "Reasoning" behind it......I could never do such thing becuase I am afraid of pain, and blood.  Instead I relate to my journal, and scream into my pillow & cry until I am dehydrated. =(

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[DarkChylde]

Sorry your life is so trying.  Also cutters aren't "stupid" just different hon.

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I have ta agree, if you know whut your doing then theres no stupidity envolved

[Troy Spiral (13)]

Still hitting a bit to close to home for me to comment opnely on this one even though i've been trying. But if anyone wants to talk about it or just needs to vent, PLEASE feel free to PM me.

*concerned vibes*

[kellygrrrrrl]

I have ta agree, if you know whut your doing then theres no stupidity envolved

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I just want to make sure that I am not hitting the wrong buttons....please allow me to recap.....

I don't think that anybody is stupid....

I just meant that I know better, and it would be stupid of "me" to do something like that knowing the Risks involved......Risk like infection, cutting too deep, blood poisoning, etc....

I do not think that "Cutters" in general are stupid....I just meant that it would be stupid of me. Thats all. I can understand the concept, and why, and it is justifiable, but not healthy. And the heatlth risks involved are really serious, and for one to put themselves in position, ...well....is that smart?

Different? Maybe,....healthy, NO.

I have a special place in my heart for cutters.....they obviously have alot of pain in the soul. My brother did that stuff....he got help.

Others that are doing it for sexual purposes, or pleasure...then hey...if that is what gets ya off....then sobeit! Thats a different story I think.

DUCKING ....and crouching on the floor...please don't hit me.....

[DarkChylde]

I just want to make sure that I am not hitting the wrong buttons....please allow me to recap.....

I don't think that anybody is stupid....

I just meant that I know better, and it would be stupid of "me" to do something like that knowing the Risks involved......Risk like infection, cutting too deep, blood poisoning, etc....

I do not think that "Cutters" in general are stupid....I just meant that it would be stupid of me.  Thats all.  I can understand the concept, and why, and it is justifiable, but not healthy.  And the heatlth risks involved are really serious, and for one to put themselves in position, ...well....is that smart? 

Different?  Maybe,....healthy, NO. 

I have a special place in my heart for cutters.....they obviously have alot of pain in the soul.  My brother did that stuff....he got help. 

Others that are doing it for sexual purposes, or pleasure...then hey...if that is what gets ya off....then sobeit!  Thats a different story I think.  

DUCKING ....and crouching on the floor...please don't hit me.....

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Oh I totally understood whut ya meant, dont worry its all good

[Dollardave]

You officially revindicated yourself =) Like DC said if u know what your doing the risks are much less.

I just want to make sure that I am not hitting the wrong buttons....please allow me to recap.....

I don't think that anybody is stupid....

I just meant that I know better, and it would be stupid of "me" to do something like that knowing the Risks involved......Risk like infection, cutting too deep, blood poisoning, etc....

I do not think that "Cutters" in general are stupid....I just meant that it would be stupid of me.  Thats all.  I can understand the concept, and why, and it is justifiable, but not healthy.  And the heatlth risks involved are really serious, and for one to put themselves in position, ...well....is that smart? 

Different?  Maybe,....healthy, NO. 

I have a special place in my heart for cutters.....they obviously have alot of pain in the soul.  My brother did that stuff....he got help. 

Others that are doing it for sexual purposes, or pleasure...then hey...if that is what gets ya off....then sobeit!  Thats a different story I think.  

DUCKING ....and crouching on the floor...please don't hit me.....

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[tabycat]

I just want to make sure that I am not hitting the wrong buttons....please allow me to recap.....

I don't think that anybody is stupid....

I just meant that I know better, and it would be stupid of "me" to do something like that knowing the Risks involved......Risk like infection, cutting too deep, blood poisoning, etc....

I do not think that "Cutters" in general are stupid....I just meant that it would be stupid of me.  Thats all.  I can understand the concept, and why, and it is justifiable, but not healthy.  And the heatlth risks involved are really serious, and for one to put themselves in position, ...well....is that smart? 

Different?  Maybe,....healthy, NO. 

I have a special place in my heart for cutters.....they obviously have alot of pain in the soul.  My brother did that stuff....he got help. 

Others that are doing it for sexual purposes, or pleasure...then hey...if that is what gets ya off....then sobeit!  Thats a different story I think.  

DUCKING ....and crouching on the floor...please don't hit me.....

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I think it's great and commendable that you're able to "control" your anger or whatever without resorting to phsycial violence. I know for me I don't do it every time I'm upset .... damn I'd be one huge scar :confused But when things are mounting and the stress is just too overwhelming that is when it gets to me and my flesh begins to look appealing and the idea of release preoccupies my mind. It is a "choice" that each of us make. . . do it or don't do it.

I used to think well I'd never go too far and really "hurt:" myself. However, one time I was one cut away from bleeding my life away and I do NOT want to die. That was very scarey for me. My family knows what I do as well as my physician and if I need medical help for it I will seek it therefore preventing infection. I'm not proud of it but I am as responsible as one can be when doing it . . . as odd as that may sound.

And Dave there are a lot of books out there on the subject as well as internet support for it. Cutting is nothing new it is more that is just now truely being looked at seperate from suicidal behavior. . . some refer to cutting as para-suicide. I don't find that an acurate term because most cutters have no wish to die . . . they want to "feel" alive.

Ok . . . I could go on and on about this subject. Take care everyone xoxo

[Dollardave]

Ya para-suicidial would be a bad term I guess. I have no desire to commit suicide I'm very happy with my life and the choices I've made, like being around and talking to people etc. I just like the blade nothing more I can say about it. Whats that thrill kill cult album oh ya "Confessions of the Knife" or something like it.

I think it's great and commendable that you're able to "control" your anger or whatever without resorting to phsycial violence. I know for me I don't do it every time I'm upset .... damn I'd be one huge scar  :confused  But when things are mounting and the stress is just too overwhelming that is when it gets to me and my flesh begins to look appealing and the idea of release preoccupies my mind. It is a "choice" that each of us make. . . do it or don't do it.

I used to think well I'd never go too far and really "hurt:" myself. However, one time I was one cut away from bleeding my life away and I do NOT want to die. That was very scarey for me. My family knows what I do as well as my physician and if I need medical help for it I will seek it therefore preventing infection. I'm not proud of it but I am as responsible as one can be when doing it . . . as odd as that may sound.

And Dave there are a lot of books out there on the subject as well as internet support for it. Cutting is nothing new it is more that is just now truely being looked at seperate from suicidal behavior. . . some refer to cutting as para-suicide. I don't find that an acurate term because most cutters have no wish to die . . . they want to "feel" alive.

Ok . . . I could go on and on about this subject. Take care everyone xoxo

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