What the heart wants

[Killer_kitten]

So I've started a new relationship and I don't know what to do. It's like this, I feel more strongly for him than he does me, although he likes me and and the person that I am. He's just not where I am with my feelings. I feel as though things are going a little slow, like snail slow. We have been you know so that's not it, but I think we should put a hold on it until his feelings catch up to mines. *sigh* all I want is to feel cared for which I do, but I'd like it to be on my level.

Edited August 3, 2009 by Killer_kitten

[AstralCrux]

You'll find that by holding back feelings in the begining, it will help avoid painful and unnessicary relationships that could have been avoided.

[StormKnight (1)]

This is a difficult question. Sometimes the heart wanders and wonders.

Moved this to a forum that seems a little more conducive to answering the question.

[dragonluv]

That a tough one. I feel communication and honesty are very important. I understand that by doing this, things might not go the way you expected. Love can be wonderful and love can also be hard.I wish you and your heart the best. You have to make yourself happy. You have to do what best for you. If I may, hugs.

[TygerLili]

It's hard to respond to this without knowing how long you've actually been together, what he's actually said in regard to his feelings for you, and what it is you're looking for. Every relationship develops at it's own speed, and and a lot of people make the mistake of comparing their relationship to another person's, or having some set schedule in their head of when things should happen. I tend to be a person who takes a while to develop genuine, more than just infatuation, feelings for someone, and when I do start feeling those things, I usually hold off saying them until I feel sure of what I am feeling.

All you can do is talk to him, find out how he feels, and decide if you think it's worth waiting. There's nothing wrong with wanting to pull back on the intimacy if you're unsure of how you feel. If he genuinely cares about you, he'll respect that.

[Gauge]

talk to him. some guys will never allow themselves to give fully, if that's him and you want more save the heartache and run. if he's just nervous tho give it time

[Guest Megalicious]

*hugs*

A "snail pace" my be what he needs *nods*. I know its hard, be paitent, things will be as they should be.

I agree with TL, if you feel that you want to pull back from the intimacy untill you are on the same page emotionally, there is nothing wrong with that.

That being said it sounds like you have already told him how you feel, and that you have had somewhat of a conversation about this already. If you have made your feelings clear and he seems like he still needs time, give it to him - don't be pushy. It's important to have respect for his feelings too.

If you find yourself ever unhappy with th way thing may be unfolding DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU ALWAYS.

But if you really like him, and you feel that your future has a lot of potential, just wait. The only thing that time is going to do is make it feel 100X better when he finally says that he really cares for you (how ever that might be).

Good luck. I know its hard *hugs* but things WILL be okay.

[Killer_kitten]

Thank you to you all for your support and care. It is very much appreciated, and it's all very sound advice. Taking my time is the best wy to go. And yes I have told him how i felt and he feels the same, it just takes is feels a while. He's been hurt a lot. Thank you agian DGN!!!!!!!!!

[Rev.Reverence]

The Slow Love Loves Best...

...I have a poem about that...& I'ld share it...but, it is part of a pile of poems to be made into a song, & I am not sure which pile exactly...maybe I'll find it later...

[Guest Megalicious]

The Slow Love Loves Best...

...I have a poem about that...& I'ld share it...but, it is part of a pile of poems to be made into a song, & I am not sure which pile exactly...maybe I'll find it later...

*says in best veruca voice*

" But Rev, I want it NOW"!