Would you ever consider being a surrogate?

[TygerLili]

Another thread made me think about it.

Would you consider carrying a child for someone else? Either a family member or close friend, or someone you didn't know? Would you consider it for some type of compensation, monetary or other wise?

Men are welcome to answer, too, but I'm really interested in what the women have to say on this.

[dragonluv]

A long time ago, I thought about doing it. I will be honest, at that time, I thought about it due for the money purpose.

Today, I could not do that. Yet, if a very very good friend ask me, I would have to think about it. I would not do it for the money for a dear friend. I would do out of love for a dear friend.

[Guest Megalicious]

I have often asked myself this.

There was a time when I would have though I could. But after having Keegan, I just don't think I would be able to. The bond and attachment for carrying, nurturing and growing another life is intense. After sharing such a bond I don't think I could hand the child off to its parents I just wouldn't have in me emotionally.

Kudos to those that can, and brighten lives and make dreams come true.

[pomba gira]

I was actually considering it, for two friends back when I was young. Then I accidentally got pregnant and discovered just how horrific it really was... no way could I have endured that for a whole 9+ months, for anyone.

I thought about being an egg donor at one point in my 30s... pays quite well or at least did at the time. But I did some research, and it sounded too physically debilitating given I was going to school full time. Plus I think there were some health issues that might have been a barrier.

[hunhee]

I can't even do this for myself, It would have to be a really REALLY good reason to do it for someone else (like the child I carry of two others would be the child prophesied to save the world, type of thing).

So, I guess the answer for me would be no. Not even for money, and almost not even to save humanity. *shrugs* I suck.

Edited September 25, 2009 by hunhee

[LittleMissLuckyCunt (1)]

I think it was 20/20 that did a special on that not tooo long ago, maybe a couple months? I have thought about it due to the fact theres sooo many good familys out there that can't have children. But, probably never will.

[TygerLili]

I wouldn't do it. There's nothing on this earth that could make me surrender my body for nine months for a baby I didn't even get to keep. I couldn't, even for a close friend. I would offer to do anything I could to help them adopt, but that would be where I draw the line.

[~Tszura~]

I have often asked myself this.

There was a time when I would have though I could. But after having Keegan, I just don't think I would be able to. The bond and attachment for carrying, nurturing and growing another life is intense. After sharing such a bond I don't think I could hand the child off to its parents I just wouldn't have in me emotionally.

As I have never had a child before, there is no way I could do this for anyone or anything my first time. It would be traumatizing for the exact reasons Meg stated. If I had a couple of children already, I may feel different, but I doubt it. Any little baby coming out of this uterus is MINE, plain and simple. I wouldn't want anyone doing this for us, either. If we decided to have children, and were not able to, then we would look to adopt.

[Destroit]

Not for all the money in the land.

BUT...I say the same thing about having children that are actually MINE. Not for alllllll the money in the land.

Planning on being a burdenless, oops I mean childless, female FOR LIFE (and proud of it, even though I've had women go so far as to call me worthless over my decision)

Edited September 25, 2009 by Chernobyl

[Oh_My_Goth]

In my younger years I would have.. Now... No way!

[~Tszura~]

Not for all the money in the land.

BUT...I say the same thing about having children that are actually MINE. Not for alllllll the money in the land.

Planning on being a burdenless, oops I mean childless, female FOR LIFE (and proud of it, even though I've had women go so far as to call me worthless over my decision)

Those bastards!!

I spit on them!

Oh, hey, look at that, I feel better now

[AstralCrux]

Nope. That's what adoption is for. There are far too many parentless children out there that want a real home.

[TitsMcGee]

If it was for a family member I would, but only for family. And then it would have to depend on the family member.