Not Sure What To Make Of This

[LadyKay]

This may sound kind of strange but here goes. I had a friend in Jr. high school. She came from a home that I suspected was abusive. Anyway she made up this story that she was dieing from cancer and only had 2 years to live. I of coursed believed her because why wouldn't I? It went on for a while and whenever she got mad at someone or upset about someone or something didn't go her way. She would say "I can't wait for 2 years to be up so I will be dead". As time went by I began to question rather or not she was telling the truth about having cancer. Things just didn't seem to add up. It soon became clear that she was lying about the whole thing. When I found out she made it all up I was mad. I spent many hrs crying over my friend thinking I was watching her die, then to find out she made the whole thing up for attention. I was mad and I ended the friendship and had nothing more to do with her.

A few months ago she found me on facebook. I was going to ignore her but I am an adult now and realize that what she did in jr. high school she did to gain attention cause she really did not have many friends. So I added he as a friend. The first post I see from her is about how she has something wrong with her and has to go have all these test done. I don't know what to make of it. I mean we are adults now so she could be telling the truth. But I don't want to become emotionally involve again. I don't know if to believe her or not. I just don't want to get sucked into the same thing that went on in jr high school. So I am not sure what to make of it.

[Troy Spiral (13)]

What a troubling story. I am definitely not one to hold something against someone that they did in Jr. High but it is something to just keep in mind. I guess its a balancing act between how much you want to be friends with her again vs the risk of getting hurt again. It may be worth it or it may not be , its hard to guess at what is really going on. :(

[TronRP]

I say treat her like an acquaintance. Just because you have history should not make you feel obligated to express anything other than casual exchanges. I have lots of "friends" on Facebook...Facebook makes it easy to keep tabs on people you probably wouldn't look twice at passing on the street, but this is the age of "Social Media" so that form of "connection" is expected.

I say, save the emotional involvement for those who deserve that intimate portion of your being. Life is stressful enough without feeling you have to give a piece of yourself to everyone who says they know you. You would be an emotionally wrecked ball of nerves on a 24/7 basis...not useful to anyone.

...But that's just my viewpoint...

[Trene4000]

After everything I've been through with various people and relationships I say leave her behind only on Facebook. It is not worth it. I learned that many people who have done certain things in the past have a tendency to do the same things in the present, especially if it drew a lot of attention and got them the sympathy they sought after. I would keep that particular person at arms length. If she actually dies then at least you know she finally decided to tell the truth for once.