Can you get over it?

[Guest MsMaldoror]

Have you ever dated someone whose sexual past makes you feel awkward and confused? Perhaps he/she had many lovers before you. Perhaps he/she had a homosexual experience, while you consider yourself to be 100% straight. Can you eventually get over your uncomfortableness with this person and focus on the present? Do you constantly dwell on what he/she has done in the past and let it get in the way of the present? Or, does it really depend on an array of factors?

[JaneDead]

"Yes, I can get over it. What they did in the past has nothing to do with me."

-- i really don't care what my husband did before me. i know most of it anyways- i was his friend during it all. he hates that i know some of it now. haha. but it doesn't bother me a bit.

as long as

1. he won't cheat on me

2. won't give me a disease because of his past actions

i could really care less. he is with ME now, no one else.

[Daevion]

As long as it doesn't involve diseases like aids or something I don't hold any grudges...the past is just that...not like the person can alter time to make things more comfortable.

[Guest MsMaldoror]

It's nice to know that a few people can let things go.

[saechalyn]

I guess it would depend on what it was. S/he had many more partners than me? Pffft. Who cares? And well I'm bi so I can't imagine caring about previous same-sex experiences. But if, say, I found out they had spent a stint as a porn star, that would be different.

[JaneDead]

But if, say, I found out they had spent a stint as a porn star, that would be different.

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yeah that might bother me a bit right there.

[Brenda Starrr]

As long as it isn't going to hurt me, I can get past it.

[Guest Game of Chance]

As long as it wasn't with one my buddies. The last thing I want to hear about from a friend is how great my girlfriend used to be in bed. And how she would moan whenever he....well you get the picture.

[The_Dark]

If I expect her to get over mine.. I would have to get over hers.

[sinnaminn]

So long as they are honest I would give it a shot!I know most of Vaters dirty little secrets now and he knows all of mine!

[Marblez]

I have probably weirded out a partner or two with this, but I actually enjoy hearing about my partners previous experiences. If they tell a good story they are richly rewarded

[Rozzlyn]

Don't care. None of my business, unless they want to share. Hell, only two of the guys I was ever with were totally straight and it's hard for them to deny my past sexual expierences, with a few of those on film (and available on DVD, no less!) staring them in the face in certain porn shops, so why should it bother me if they've been with more than, what's normal now, ten people? Hell, I'm actually turned on by virgin boys....

[Homicidalheathen]

Sorry I entered maybe. If they did kids or animals they are out. Or family members.....

[JaneDead]

Sorry I entered maybe.  If they did kids or animals they are out.  Or family members.....

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well now that's a whole 'nother story right there

i hope i don't even know people like that and i sure as hell know i have never been with people like that. :blink

[EvilEve]

i've been able to move on from most of the stuff my boyfriend has done because i've known about all of his past experiences. i've known him for 10yrs, and 6.5 of those years, we've been dating. that's a whole different story... a long story at that. :grin

[DarkVampire]

Don't know, don't want to know. As long as they have no diseases, I don't want to know about their past.

[Homicidalheathen]

We were going to go to an AEON Festival once, www.magicmonkey.com until we saw a couple post for someone to 'train' his wife to fuck dogs in the yahoo group. Ewww! I am not even going to party with those kinds of people. That is sick.

well now that's a whole 'nother story right there

i hope i don't even know people like that and i sure as hell know i have never been with people like that.  :blink

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[Nienna]

I can accept pretty much anything in someone's past as long as they aren't going to cheat on me or give me something. My own past is a bit... interesting... and I think it's gotten me dumped on one occasion. What is in the past is in the past..

[Slept with ghost]

i can only say pretty much what everybody else as been saying as long as i dont get something from it and they dont cheat on me im fine with their sexual past because its just that ......the past

[bean]

Past is past as long as it doesn't involve kids or animals. Most people have a problem with my past though (the number of people I've been with)...whatever.

[Homicidalheathen]

Godamnit! How can we keep missing each other at the club? My twin, strikes yet again.....

It is sad in this day and age that we even need to mention these things are taboo.

Past is past as long as it doesn't involve kids or animals.  Most people have a problem with my past though (the number of people I've been with)...whatever.

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[Homicidalheathen]

OH and that was http://www.magickmonkey.com I still think if wierdo's weren't in attendance it would be excellent....I trust no one.

We were going to go to an AEON Festival once, www.magicmonkey.com until we saw a couple post for someone to 'train' his wife to fuck dogs in the yahoo group.  Ewww!  I am not even going to party with those kinds of people.  That is sick.

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[CheezIts]

I once dated a guy who used to be on a low carb diet before he met me. It was hard for me to trust him at first, but I got over it.

[saechalyn]

OH and that was http://www.magickmonkey.com I still think if wierdo's weren't in attendance it would be excellent....I trust no one.

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That is so scary...that's what stops me from getting involved with groups like that...oftentimes they look great and interesting but I'm always afraid of running into wackos like that.

[Moonlight_Phantasy]

The past is the past, so let us move on.