Closure

[saechalyn]

Is it better to seek closure on a situation, or just let it go?

Yes I'm being very general, so this question is semi-rhetorical...but answer anyway, if you are so inclined. I don't really feel like elaborating further :tear

[Brenda Starrr]

Wow......

That depends on the situation, really. Sometimes, closure is sought but not satisfying. Sometimes letting it go is the same. I wish that I knew how to answer this.....

I'm sorry that I can't.

[torn asunder]

closure, imo, only comes from your mind, when you're ready to move on, you will let it go. feeling a need for external validation for your closure isn't really helpful, and actively seeking it can be quite a detriment, in my experience. my suggestion? be strong - let it go, whatever it is. get on with your life, and soon, you'll find exactly what it is that you need... =)

(then again, some people say i'm full of shit...) :erm :fear :whistling

[Onyx]

closure, imo, only comes from your mind, when you're ready to move on, you will let it go. feeling a need for external validation for your closure isn't really helpful, and actively seeking it can be quite a detriment, in my experience. my suggestion? be strong - let it go, whatever it is. get on with your life, and soon, you'll find exactly what it is that you need... =)

(then again, some people say i'm full of shit...)  :erm  :fear  :whistling

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Most of the time all these Zen type things you say puzzle me, but this makes perfect sense to me.

Sounds good in theory ~ if I could only actually do it.

[Shade Everdark]

Everyone's experiences are different--but I have to lean to the closure.

I needed closure, and I was too afraid of seeking that absolution. Now, I won't ever get it, and it gnaws, sometimes.

[Msterbeau]

Part of closure is the grieving process that needs to happen beforehand. Grieving can be short... or it can take a long time. We're all different, so circumstances will obviously vary. Another part is "connecting" with the emotional energy involved. Doing so facilitates bringing that emotion into a conscious (And in my experience, painfull) place. That pain needs to be experienced in this way in order to get beyond the trauma of the event in question. As my therapist said, until you resolve things in the conscious mind, it will continue to fester and cause problems. My feeling is that even deciding to "let it go" requires some amount of time and grieving to be fully accepted in our mind.

[Dollardave]

Theoretically sometimes letting a situation ride itself out can end up in closure itself.

[unchaste]

Closure, what's that?

I never get closure

And I never let anything go

So I'm a pretty fucked up little girl.

[Daevion]

Is it better to seek closure on a situation, or just let it go? 

Yes I'm being very general, so this question is semi-rhetorical...but answer anyway, if you are so inclined.  I don't really feel like elaborating further  :tear

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talk about vague.....hard to say based on so little information....really depends on the situation

[Steven]

Most of the time all these Zen type things you say puzzle me, but this makes perfect sense to me.

Sounds good in theory ~ if I could only actually do it.

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....Thats the problem aint it?

We people do what we do....being the people that we are.

Closure or letting go.... depends on the person and circumstances and the need for release.

[Homicidalheathen]

Seeking closure just prolongs the agony.

If it is over, it is over. Your mindset is up to you.

Don't dwell.

[saechalyn]

This was actually very helpful. Thanks all.

[Paper Hearts]

This was actually very helpful.  Thanks all.

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Aren't you glad?

Now the only thing left to do is buy the gun and go over and shoot him.

[saechalyn]

talk about vague.....

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That's what I'm best at!

[saechalyn]

Aren't you glad?

Now the only thing left to do is buy the gun and go over and shoot him.

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What's wrong with the gun I already have?

Just kidding. There actually is no "him" in this situation.

[Paper Hearts]

What's wrong with the gun I already have?

Just kidding.  There actually is no "him" in this situation.

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Good. I guess I cancel those flight reservations to Hondorus then. Thanks.

[Rayne]

Closure is good! Very good.

[Daevion]

What's wrong with the gun I already have?

Just kidding.  There actually is no "him" in this situation.

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so its a "her" then? kinky....so is this some girl on girl that your trying to put the brakes on? or start up? damn the imagination is a terrible thing! :laughing

[saechalyn]

so its a "her" then? kinky....so is this some girl on girl that your trying to put the brakes on? or start up? damn the imagination is a terrible thing!  :laughing

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For your information it has nothing to do with That kind of relationship Mr. Noseypants

[Daevion]

For your information it has nothing to do with That kind of relationship Mr. Noseypants 

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"Mr.Noseypants"? LOL LOL...just LOL :laughing :laughing :laughing :laughing

...well I did say that the imagination is a terrible thing..

[saechalyn]

Well I'm sure my life is a lot more exciting in your imagination than it is in reality then!

[Homicidalheathen]

Yah it could be your mom, your best freind.........

I get no closer. I get mad just trying so I let it be. People are kinda pig headed.

[saechalyn]

Yah it could be your mom

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Bingo. For all who may have been curious.

[Paper Hearts]

You are going to shoot Daevion's mom?

[Daevion]

I see how it is.....burst my bubble