Old scabs torn

[pharoh]

Ok I'm gonna share a little story with you guys. I was almost married. I had a fiance and we were together for almost 6 years. I was completly faithful. I should of been a father too. We decided to have an abortion cause we were to young. the first 2 years were great..........then it was downhill after that. She cheated on me 3 times. 2 that I CAN prove and the last one I just found out was real. Even though she said it didn't happen, I know it did. if your gut is telling you something....90% of the time it is right. So anyways....last year she left me basicly at the alter...2 weeks before the wedding. I have a female friend that I always had to keep her without knowing cause she was insecure I would stray (ya go figure). Ya she tells me 2 weeks before that things weren't working out and that the wedding was called off.....while I am AT WORK!. I have no way of talking to her and I'm freaking out. So I email my friend and tell her "hey I'm freaking out amanda called off the wedding get ahold of me love ya bye". Well amanda snooped through my emails and found it a week later and freaked out. I leave the house that I pay for and is in my name because her parents asked me to till things calm down. The next day those mother fuckers changed the locks on my doors. I lost almost everything I had because of her. I try not to be bitter over it but I can't help it at times. So fast forward to around 8pm, she contacts me and asks for a favor....apparently one of our cats is rebelling cause I am not there and he has pissed all over the spot where I used to sit. I guess in a strange way he misses me lol. So we start small talk and I'm trying to be nice when she informs me that she's pregnate with the baby of her boss....the 50 year old man she was cheating on me with. I mean how am I supposed to react to this right now? I am hurt distrought and extremely pissed off. But on the same note it's been a year (hince the topic name). I am so upset right now especially that I am alone and that bitch has someone. Just looking for advice guys. Thanks

[Onyx]

Sounds like you should feel sorry for the man she's with now!

I know, sucks to be alone though, but sometimes it's so much better than wishing you were alone.

[saechalyn]

You are better off without her. Being with someone just for the sake of not being alone is not worth it. There are a lot of people who are not single but are miserable. As much as I get lonely sometimes I'd rather be alone than settle!

[bean]

I have a very low opinion of most people these days, so all I am going to say is this: you are too nice of a guy for this to happen to. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you and only you. Someone who will care for you and treat you with respect. *hugs*

[pharoh]

Thanks guys I appreciate it, it's just so hard to forget 6 years of my life ya know? I mean I am doing alot better now than I was. I'm in martial arts now, I fight in tourneys and all, and I am happy I met all the nice ppl up at CC and on DGN, but sometimes that isn't enough, theres a small hole in me that never gets filled.....what can I say I am a sucker for love lol

[EatAjaxAndDie]

Hey bro,

Your ex is not worth your time. At all. She seems like she is playing games to try to make you feel bad for her. I think your cat is getting some revenge for you lol...

Don't let her get you down.

[n0Mad]

Onyx has a point. Be glad it's not your baby and you got out while the getting out was good. Now somebody else has to deal with all of her shit and his life will be miserable while you can hang out with us, have a good time, and get your life back in order with the support of all of us who love you and care for you. Her life will always be tragic because she does not have what you do: a sincere heart. You love and will be loved in return as is evident by all the comments above and below (I'm sure there are more to come). She has a cold lump of iron and will always be alone.

[Saephyr]

Hey ........look at the love!!!!!!!!!!

[Steven]

Dude.....

Why we fret and mourn over those who equate our value to any dog turd on the sidewalk is beyond me.

fuck that chick. She's messed up and is not interested in improving herself as is obviously stated through her behaviour and pregnancy.

Your entire 6 year relationship sounds like a 6 year debacle.

We get so used to our shit - and our disfunction that at times we cleave to it doggedly simply because we feel that we own it - its ours - we put in years of hard work to be that fucked up. That's craziness.

You choose the life you lead dude. It really is that simple. And - that painful, soemthing that we all can (myself included) relate to.

My only advice to you is to run run run run run.

And next time - if you find yourself with a gal and/or situation thats even remotely like this last one - STOP AND REVIEW - WHY ARE YOU HERE AGAIN???

[Lilith]

yeah what steven said..... i am telling ya soemthing right now be very happy she left casue after a long time of putting up with peoples shit it kills your soul....... The soul may be damaged now but atleast it is still in you.... be happy you got out befor it was taken and stomped on

[DisturbedMania]

That poor unborn child!

[pharoh]

Steven Thanks man that does help, your 100% right on this situation....I was up tilll 5am this morning trying to wind down on this one. I don't love her anymore....in all honesty I probly stopped loving her 6 months before we broke up and just never realized it.

Lilith - Your so right on this too, I try to be a good person only to get shit on over and over again. But it's my fault cause I am the one that goes back to talking to her just cause I am trying to be nice. I guess the nice guys do finish last huh.

Just the whole thing is kinda hard to swallow cause of the history there, and she really didn't seem to waste any time moving to the next victim. I mean I have had a couple romantic encounters but shit I didn't knock someone up and move in with them within a years time lol

[Steven]

Steven Thanks man that does help, your 100% right on this situation....I was up tilll 5am this morning trying to wind down on this one.  I don't love her anymore....in all honesty I probly stopped loving her 6 months before we broke up and just never realized it.

Lilith - Your so right on this too, I try to be a good person only to get shit on over and over again.  But it's my fault cause I am the one that goes back to talking to her just cause I am trying to be nice.  I guess the nice guys do finish last huh. 

Just the whole thing is kinda hard to swallow cause of the history there, and she really didn't seem to waste any time moving to the next victim.  I mean I have had a couple romantic encounters but shit I didn't knock someone up and move in with them within a years time lol

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no no no no NO!!!!!!

Nice guys do not finish last - that's just what dickheads (the not so nice) try to say.

Dummies....finish last.

Be nice.

Be decent.

Be honerable.

Be good. (incidently be all of these thigns to yourself as well)

But be balanced man, and BE a man while your at it.

You dont have to hate this girl (I shouldent have said "Fuck Her".... that's bad illustration on my part, sorry) but you also dont have to drink from her shoe either. Just let her go live the life she's created, stop checking up on her, stop measuring yourself by her actions, that makes no sense.

[JaneDead]

you say you are upset because you are alone and she has someone ... but do you actually think this person is lucky to have her in their life? chances are she might do the same to him that she has done to you. not necessarily, but possibly.

and if you were not alone and say she was still in your life- do you think you would be happy and lead the life you should be leading? most definately not.

you are *single* now- doesn't mean you need to be *alone*

you have family, friends, interests... maybe you need this time to figure out who you really are and what you really need and want in life before you can be happy with someone else. otherwise you might be bringing all your old problems/issues into a new relationship and that would possibly cause you more pain and unhappiness.

[n0Mad]

Steven - Do you offer training classes? Because I want to sign up. Seriously. After reading your responses here and in that other broken heart thread, I want to stop getting walked on, taken advantage of, and left in the dust only to come crawling back for more abuse. Stupid nice guy syndrom. Give us some balls man. We need them.

[Lilith]

A good Guy deserves a good girl...........

What is the hardest thing to find? A good Person! (guy or girl)

Good Guy/girl dont finish last, they just take a bit longer because they are interested in quality not quanity. Often it may seemingly be that they finish the race last, but ulitmatly they are the ones to come out on TOP. Yes in this race you may feel as if you crossed the finish line last. But every race is training for the BIG ONE! You want to win the big Prize, forget about this little teaser prizes...

Often it is not how soon you reach your prize but how you trained to get it that makes the prize valuable.

Keep in mind not every one wants the same prize and not every prize is worth the race.

Dont let your training discourge you it was a tool to discover the type of quality prize you do want, the big marathon with the best Prize is certianly around the corner, and you are sure to win casue you have had your training.

I hope all that made sense to more then just me :whistling

[Homicidalheathen]

Yuk! That is just gross! Pregnant with a 50 yr old guys kid! My man is 50 and if he wasn't using a condom I would......would........no I would not whack off his pee pee but might think about it.

Damn this girl sucks.

Do yourself a favor and don't talk to her anymore, or do her any favors.

She deserved FAR WORSE THAN CAT PISS

Sounds like kitty is on your side.

:devil

[Steven]

A good Guy deserves a good girl...........

What is the hardest thing to find? A good Person! (guy or girl)

Good Guy/girl dont finish last, they just take a bit longer because they are interested in quality not quanity.  Often it may seemingly be that they finish the race last, but ulitmatly they are the ones to come out on TOP.  Yes in this race you may  feel as if you crossed the finish line last. But every race is training for the BIG ONE!  You want to win the big Prize, forget about this little teaser prizes...

Often it is not how soon you reach your prize but how you trained to get it that makes the prize valuable.

Keep in mind  not every one wants the same prize and not every prize is worth the race.

Dont let your training discourge you it was a tool to  discover the type of quality prize you do want, the big marathon with the best Prize is certianly around the corner, and you are sure to win casue you have had your training.

I hope all that made sense  to more then just me :whistling

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... I liked it.

[Steven]

Steven - Do you offer training classes?  Because I want to sign up.  Seriously.  After reading your responses here and in that other broken heart thread, I want to stop getting walked on, taken advantage of, and left in the dust only to come crawling back for more abuse.  Stupid nice guy syndrom.  Give us some balls man.  We need them.

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... Had to crack up on this one a little bit Buddy.

I'm afraid that right now my armchair life coaching is limited to DGN via the internet. but the advice is free.

I may one day go to school, become a cousnelor, and write a book called

"What are ya stupid???"

and then the sequel:

"Didint I tell ya to stop being stupid???"

and then they'll make my movie "Tales of a dumb-ass"

but I'll really know I'm somethign when the action figure comes out.

Steve

[n0Mad]

I may one day go to school, become a cousnelor, and write a book called

"What are ya stupid???"

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Well, here's a test for everyone to find out.

Are You Dumb?

[pharoh]

Thanks for everything everyone......what more can a guy have in an extended family lol

[n0Mad]

what more can a guy have in an extended family lol

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A hot sister for me to date?

[pharoh]

what do you got in trade lol

[Lilith]

Thanks for everything everyone......what more can a guy have in an extended family lol

   

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Pharoh no problem! :grin

Ty steven =)

[n0Mad]

what do you got in trade lol

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Magic lessons?