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I was told that I lack confidence and need to be more than just a nice guy. They said that I am the best at the job I am doing but they don't think that I am really ment for that position. I am supposed to push myself harder to learn a skill that will get me through the rest of my life. This was all said in a very forceful way by a person who has a very aggressive personality and also happens to be an owner of the place I work at. I have a few issues with this situation. 1. The reason I don't want to work the position he thinks I am ment for is because I shut down when there is a lot of yelling and aggression around me. I forget everything that I know a just start shaking and just want to curl up in a ball. 2. I have been through college and cosmetology school and I have worked at many different skilled trades but nothing seems to fit for me. Even the carnival performing wasn't a good fit long term. 3. The job I am currently working is so understaffed that it's not funny. There are pretty much only 2 of us that work the position on a regular basis and a girl who has only worked 3 days so far and is only there until her college classes start back up this fall. 4. Everyone else who is working the position they want me in has gone to school for that trade and have spent years developing their skills. Although I have worked in multiple restaurants before, I have a different style of doing things than they do. I never went to school for it and all of my skills are from experience in much smaller businesses that were more of a home style comfort food establishments. I just feel that I am confident as a person and in the job I am currently doing. My issues with aggression are from events in my past that I haven't been able to fully recover from, and I don't know if I really want to. I do subscribe to the theory that I am responsible for how I feel and how I let things affect me so I am the only one to blame for this. When I comes down to it, I think I am a good person and want to always be a good person. I don't know where I want to be in 5 years and I don't know where life will take me. I had plans and aspirations in the past and tried my hardest but failed. I now live day to day and am fine with how things are going at the moment, things could be better but I have been through worse. I think I just need some advice or someone to help me figure out how to keep being a nice guy but still get people to understand that success isn't all about money and fancy things to me. I am successful in my own way. I have friends and family who care for me and an amazing girlfriend who stands beside me through good and bad. That is success. Sorry for the long rant. I just had to get my thoughts out of my head on this issue.