I Am Single, And Shall Remain Single

[Moonlight_Phantasy]

Okay, due to some unfortunate discoveries tonight, I have decided that instead of having to get hurt again and again, I am just going to stay single and party.

So anyone up for a little game called, "Hannah needs to get laid?" :grin

[Homicidalheathen]

I am all for a womans right to just get sex for the purpose of getting some just like men do, but don't give up on love. You'd be surprised, in your quest for the perfect stud you just might stubble across the man of your dreams..... :grin

[Head Wreck]

been through what hannah seems to have gone through a lot.

5 years of single life and a lot saner for it

[Nienna]

Heh.. I second this motion.

[Onyx]

I hear you.

(ugly venting ahead)

Personally I'm thinking I am better off staying single and celibate. It just seems impossible to find what I want in a man who is actually interested in sharing his life with me. It seems I will have a pretty good relationship that lasts several years and then I get the "I need some space" thing. Never fucking fails!

It seems the men I'm attracted to aren't interested in anything but sex, and the ones who want more I'm not attracted to at all. It's not often I even meet anyone I'm interested in.

I can't do the casual sex thing either. I don't want anyone touching me and being that intimate with me who doesn't really love me. Casual sex is nothing like the connection when you feel caring and love. It's not even close and it gets boring fast. I don't think it's too much to ask because I devote myself completely to the person I'm with, but love is a rare thing and doesn't come along that often. Casual sex tears out my heart and I just end up feeling much more lonely than before, so I really think I'm better off alone.

My mom thinks I'm making a mistake by not dating and bugs me about it a lot, but she doesn't realize how painful it can be when you want love in your life and end up with nothing that's even close. Sometimes I think she's trying to live out her life through me by pushing me to have a date every night. It's just too much.

It's time I started living for me and not what everyone else thinks I should be. All being part of a couple has given me is pain. The real lasting joys in my life have come from friends and my accomplishments I've made on my own.

[Homicidalheathen]

this saddens me, that you have all given up.......

[Onyx]

For myself, I don't really see it as giving up. I look at it as investing in myself and living for me for a change.

[Head Wreck]

i havent given up.

just sick and fucking tired of being used like a doormat, cheated on, or taken for granted then insisting on trying to bludgeon me to death when chances happen and we pass on the street for first time since i stopped bothering as she wasnt.

tbh. if i get hooked on someone i would prefer it if thier hooked on me too. but for how long.

its like the sonata arctica song "its easier to live alone than fear the time its over"

in any case i'm too used to being single and i've stoped sitting in public with my back in a corner at last

[Anathema]

Okay, due to some unfortunate discoveries tonight, I have decided that instead of having to get hurt again and again, I am just going to stay single and party.

So anyone up for a little game called, "Hannah needs to get laid?"  :grin

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you go hanna!!!

[Homicidalheathen]

That is a good way of looking at things.....

For myself, I don't really see it as giving up.  I look at it as investing in myself and living for me for a change.

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[Scary Guy]

I gave up a while ago, and I hate casual sex.

[Brenda Starrr]

Sex should NEVER be casual. It should be meaningful. I can't get into it if it isn't.

[Nienna]

this saddens me, that you have all given up.......

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It saddens me too. I want to be loved and am at my best when I have someone in my life to love. I've just been crushed a few too many times to believe it'll ever happen for me. It's at the point that I'm not sure I could survive betrayal and abandonment to this extent ever again. (I'm frankly not sure I'll survive it this time.) I've also developed a very healthy trust issue and general feelings of being completely unlovable and undesireable. Sometimes, one just has to be done.

[DarkVampire]

Being single sucks, that is all. =(

[Guest Megalicious]

I'm sorry Miss Hannah =( . Sounds like someone really hurt you =( But such is life the only thing we can do is learn from things ..

Your young, attractive, and funny, have fun =) and just live for you hun!!!

[Nerdcore]

here here * raises glass* to being single and partying !

[Moonlight_Phantasy]

Well the whole getting laid comment was a poor attempt to cheer myself up.

[honeymustard02]

People who give up on things will get exactly what they think they want......NOTHING. :erm

You will get hurt but in the end when you end up with who you're supposed to end up with, it will all be worth it.

Not to mention I don't know how many times I've heard this same dame thing about I'm going to be single and just screw. Then a little while down the line, something weird happens and they run in to their new love.

You can say what you want about this, but in the end I can bet I'll be right and you'll well.....be happy in love.....AGAIN!

[Scary Guy]

People who give up on things will get exactly what they think they want......NOTHING.  :erm

  You will get hurt but in the end when you end up with who you're supposed to end up with, it will all be worth it.

  Not to mention I don't know how many times I've heard this same dame thing about I'm going to be single and just screw. Then a little while down the line, something weird happens and they run in to their new love.

  You can say what you want about this, but in the end I can bet I'll be right and you'll well.....be happy in love.....AGAIN!

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Some people really do want nothing though, and some people don't have any choice either way.

[n0Mad]

The latest Cosmo has an article on the goods and bads of casual sex.

[BrassFusion]

The latest Cosmo has an article on the goods and bads of casual sex.

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I have a feeling that the "goods" would only apply to people who read Cosmo.

[torn asunder]

Sex should NEVER be casual. It should be meaningful. I can't get into it if it isn't.

honestly, i don't see any poblem with casual sex, as pertains to being meaningful (if that makes any sense) and i'm not talking about one-night-stands, either, i mean casual sex with someone you know a bit, maybe are friends with, etc... why should two people have to be "in love" to fully enjoy sex? physical intimacy can be a beautiful thing, if the people involved approach it as such. bad example here, but are you in love with rollercoasters? most likely no, but they can be damn fun, and can be very thrilling/fulfilling. what's wrong with totally immersing oneself in the sensual pleasures of sex, in the giving and receiving of some of the most beautiful sensations in life? i think people are too hung up and repressed when it comes to sexuality, and aside from the std/pregnancy arguments, (meaning, play safe) i don't see what the big deal is about sex for the sake of sex. i think we're meant to enjoy this life, not mentally punish and berate ourselves for what "society" says is morally "wrong".

(to be fair, if it's not for you, more power to you! do what's right for you - i guess i still just don't see what the problem is/why people are so against it...) :fear

[Brenda Starrr]

I should have been more clear. I don't like the idea of one-night stands. Thanks for pointing that out, TA!

[honeymustard02]

Sex shouldn't be casual even if it's with "friends". There are so many STD's out there and all sorts of things you could get and never get rid of. People can have things and not know it. So even if they say they are clean they might not be.

That's my reasoning as to not sleeping with just any body.

You sleep with someone, you're sleeping with all the people before you.

[BillyDeath]

honestly, i don't see any poblem with casual sex, as pertains to being meaningful (if that makes any sense) and i'm not talking about one-night-stands, either, i mean casual sex with someone you know a bit, maybe are friends with, etc... why should two people have to be "in love" to fully enjoy sex? physical intimacy can be a beautiful thing, if the people involved approach it as such. bad example here, but are you in love with rollercoasters? most likely no, but they can be damn fun, and can be very thrilling/fulfilling. what's wrong with totally immersing oneself in the sensual pleasures of sex, in the giving and receiving of some of the most beautiful sensations in life? i think people are too hung up and repressed when it comes to sexuality, and aside from the std/pregnancy arguments, (meaning, play safe) i don't see what the big deal is about sex for the sake of sex. i think we're meant to enjoy this life, not mentally punish and berate ourselves for what "society" says is morally "wrong".

(to be fair, if it's not for you, more power to you! do what's right for you - i guess i still just don't see what the problem is/why people are so against it...)  :fear

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I think casual sex can have to, atleast, a degree. There is a difference between that and one night stands.