Dating People Younger Than You...

[creatureofthenyte]

Relationships and or Dating, like life, are a series of choices.

If you choose to do something with this girl, and she chooses to do something with you, then its a choice made mutually between the two of you.

At the very least, she's legal lol.

As Im sure you know now, you have entered this topic into the DGN "Court of Gothic Opinions"

If you choose to do something with this girl, thats your choice, and hopefully a choice you can live with.

If you make a choice, and, can look yourself in the mirror and still feel good about it, then rock on.

Myself personally, if I were in that situation, I dont think I could "do anything" with a 19 yr, much beyond satifying any physical urges that may come up.

Even then, I don't know if I could even do that because, I believe that the mere fact that, me being 31 and she being 19, it would turn me off. I doubt that I could relate to, on an intellectual level, a girl that much younger then me. What would she and I talk about ? I don't listen to most current popular music, and I dont follow most current popular fashion trends.

So, to sum it up, I very well could feel physically attracted to a 19 yr old, but not likely on the mental attraction there, and for me Ive Got to have both, or I just can't do it.

I would listen to, and seek out just as you have, opinions from other people. But also just like you, I would still be the one that makes the decision on what to do.

[Guest Game of Chance]

i usually find that hearing others' thoughts on something will indirectly guide me to what it is i believe/want. kind of like when you can't decide what you want out of a vending machine, so you hit two buttons. inevitably,before you find out what you got, you'll find yourself saying, "oh, i hope i got [X]" (if only you'd know that earlier, fool!!)

heh...I can see that, right on.

[Guest Game of Chance]

Uh, yah. That's prooty mooch wut I said.

And I'm not sure what capitalization is supposed to accomplish other than making you feel a false sense of confidence in all your actions. Objectivity is key, and humility (in small doses) is key to objectivity.

No. It wasn't at all what you said.

[BrassFusion]

No. It wasn't at all what you said.

Me: "Sometimes it's important to ask other people for advice, even if you don't follow it."

You: "NO, sometimes it's important to ask other people for advice, even if you don't follow it."

[SouthernFriedGhoul]

I'll admit that lately I have a weakness for younger guys. Those 19 year-olds can really mess me up--in an fun, exciting way... :peanutbutterjellytime

[Saephyr]

PREACH SFG!

[SpidersMoment]

i'm 21, still young if you ask me. I love the older guys cuz they have more experiance, and *SOME* have found thier goals and plans. Which helps me. seriously.

You can call me a leech on emotions or whatever, but if someone is determined about something, it kinda makes me think, and i kinda become set on what i want in life.

Not to mention the sex. Younger boys(even the ones my age) dont really know much, just get in, get out, play WOW...err something like that *snicker*

[Guest Game of Chance]

Me: "Sometimes it's important to ask other people for advice, even if you don't follow it."

You: "NO, sometimes it's important to ask other people for advice, even if you don't follow it."

Perhaps you're right. Honestly, this is what I read: BrassFusion, "Self-serving arrogance even if I don't what I'm talking about, self-serving arrogance even if I don't know what I'm talking about, self-serving arrogance even if I don't know what I'm talking about "

I'm writing this post in the nicest way possible, but the tone of your posts frankly (always) rub the wrong way. I have a complete lack of objectivity whenever I read your posts, mostly because I don't care for the way they're presented.

I'm not looking to start a war, I'd just rather be frank.

[Steven]

All this talk about maturity... when I was 19, I dated the world's least mature 29-year-old. Ugh.

Maybe asking us for advice is one way to find out what your "Will" really is. You're not omnipotent. Just the fact that you tried to find justification through others should give you an insight to how you really feel. It's no sign of weakness.

interesting display ......I too considered this asking of others advice when your will is well....your's. I would assume that your will requires nothing except to be carried out, bada bing bada boom.

[Steven]

Uh, yah. That's prooty mooch wut I said.

And I'm not sure what capitalization is supposed to accomplish other than making you feel a false sense of confidence in all your actions. Objectivity is key, and humility (in small doses) is key to objectivity.

.... She's on a roll.....

[Steven]

Perhaps you're right. Honestly, this is what I read: BrassFusion, "Self-serving arrogance even if I don't what I'm talking about, self-serving arrogance even if I don't know what I'm talking about, self-serving arrogance even if I don't know what I'm talking about "

I'm writing this post in the nicest way possible, but the tone of your posts frankly (always) rub the wrong way. I have a complete lack of objectivity whenever I read your posts, mostly because I don't care for the way they're presented.

I'm not looking to start a war, I'd just rather be frank.

I find this all very refreshing.

Because YOUR posts always rub ME the wrong way, and I don't care for the way they are presented either as they have a tendency to be flavoured with a dash of elite alloofness as the final studied authority and yet I too try to be as objective as possible and I would guess that others do as well.

and I'm not looking to start a war either. But I DO find this repetitive dynamic interesting when its seemingly exemplified between you and other DGN'rs as well. And I'm just trying to be frank. but you can call me Steve cause I dont really answer to Frank.

Before I make troy or some other moderator nervous: THAT IS ALL

[pharoh]

Guys we all at one time or another might have rubbed each other the wrong way, but so what? Families don't always get along

back on topic.......I likes me a woman alittle older than me, cause alot of the women I have dated/screwed/whatever that were younger than me, are very immature, but thats not all of them, I have found some that are pretty cool as well.

[Steven]

ok so here's like a half jack: does "maturity" - or beter yet - HOW does "maturity" manifest in sexual compatibility???

[pharoh]

Well IMO I think older women look for younger men (for energy, and other virality), and younger women look for older men (experience and selflessness)

Men I think the younger the better in MOST of thier eyes. But there is a certain MILF factor now adays. Really it all breaks down to the individual.

Ideally I want someone who is a 50/50 of giving and taking. I don't like women that are always selfless because of my personality, but I like to be taken care of once in awhile too

[BrassFusion]

Perhaps you're right. Honestly, this is what I read: BrassFusion, "Self-serving arrogance even if I don't what I'm talking about, self-serving arrogance even if I don't know what I'm talking about, self-serving arrogance even if I don't know what I'm talking about "

I'm writing this post in the nicest way possible, but the tone of your posts frankly (always) rub the wrong way. I have a complete lack of objectivity whenever I read your posts, mostly because I don't care for the way they're presented.

I'm not looking to start a war, I'd just rather be frank.

I can be arrogant at times, but I could easily take a lesson or two from you. And if you can't appreciate what I have to say because you find my wit threatening, understand that I don't feel threatened by you. I wonder what that could mean.

That is all.

[Saephyr]

Perhaps you're right. Honestly, this is what I read: BrassFusion, "Self-serving arrogance even if I don't what I'm talking about, self-serving arrogance even if I don't know what I'm talking about, self-serving arrogance even if I don't know what I'm talking about "

I'm writing this post in the nicest way possible, but the tone of your posts frankly (always) rub the wrong way. I have a complete lack of objectivity whenever I read your posts, mostly because I don't care for the way they're presented.

I'm not looking to start a war, I'd just rather be frank.

HI FRANK AND WELCOME TO THE BOARD...YOU LOOK LIKE SOMEONE WE KNOW THOUGH

[Saephyr]

Well IMO I think older women look for younger men (for energy, and other virality), and younger women look for older men (experience and selflessness)

Men I think the younger the better in MOST of thier eyes. But there is a certain MILF factor now adays. Really it all breaks down to the individual.

dAS CUZ YOU WANT US ALL TO SPANK YOU pHAROH AND THEN PUTS you TO bedDY byeBYE WIT mamas paddle!

[SpidersMoment]

^^^ exactly

[TygerLili]

Not to mention the sex. Younger boys(even the ones my age) dont really know much, just get in, get out, play WOW...err something like that *snicker*

Yeah, but when you get older, and know what you like, you can sort of train a younger guy to do things the way you like. Usually with older guys, if they weren't doing it that way before they met you, they're not gonna start now. Besides, not all older guys know what they're doing, either.

Both have their good and bad points, but I have to admit that right now I'm enjoying being the "older(by less that 4 years, wow) woman".

[pharoh]

^^^ exactly

So what???? :innocent

[Steven]

HI FRANK AND WELCOME TO THE BOARD...YOU LOOK LIKE SOMEONE WE KNOW THOUGH

I don't know what your talking about m'am.....

[holliwood66]

I used to date much older men when I was much younger than I am now *17,18, 19* and

it was fun, except none of them took me seriously in the least *surprise!*

I've dated a few years younger and a few years old since then...but always within 1-3 years of

my age at the time.

I've met some younger men who really have their lives together, and some older men who are 35-going-on-14. I prefer mature men who know what they want, have aspirations, and have had at least 2 real relationships. I am done training - what a pain in the ass!

Heh...tho the younger ones are better for marathon sessions...heheheheh

[Guest Megalicious]

I only other real relationship I've had (besides the one I'm in now) my SO was younger. Not by much in age but a hell of alot in personality.

I look back at it and wondered how the hell I stayed with him for 7 years without going completely crazy.

I have had both older and younger men, and I would have to say that the older man that I've had in my life is far superior to the younger .. even in the bedroom

[celestial]

I think older chicks are great, the know what they want and where they want to. theres the option of emotional ties, no girly girly stuff, right to the point. Its great....im21

[torn asunder]

Simple answer.... 2 girls for every boy!!! Then you get the older (experienced) and younger (trainable) at the same time!

dingdingding!!!!

we have a winner!! :peanutbutterjellytime