Single Again...

[Medea]

Ah here's 1 thing...if you get a 'humpy pal' for those very lonely days.. don't ever think you have fallen for them since they are likely with you for the sex alone.

Boy have I taken forever to learn that !!!

Yeah... that seems to be a bit of my problem right now...

[Soulrev]

I'm single again...and this time I'm setting my standards high...but are my standards just a fantasy...am I actually worth what I want?

Physically fit, into anime/cosplay, video games and comics, talkitive, smart,sarcastic and funny,a dork,geek and nerd...

Hoenestly...is that too much?...am I worth what I want?...Is it just fantasy?...

That sounds like my current g/f right now. Except the anime part. But she can kick ass in Counter Strike or Call of Duty!

My current g/f basically meets all my fantasies. She's beautiful, sexy, smart, has a great sense of humor, laid back, open minded, likes video games (a huuuge plus), likes tattoos, likes hard rock and I'm converting her to Industrial, hates politicians/politics, AND.. She supports my decision to join the military.

I can't ask for much else. I don't know where this relationship might go but I can see it going far. Apparently she can, too.. Time will tell..

Anyways, don't ask yourself or others if "you're worth it?".. Of course you are. Everyone deserves the basic right to what they want in a relationship, girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever. For every person out there there's someone else who's compatible. Guaranteed. Some don't find that one right person for a long time. Some give up before they do, and that's a shame.

[BillyDeath]

I'm living the single single single... LIFE

[Soulrev]

Get good with your self.. love will come along when your ready. It may hit you with a cluex4 upside the head or it may sneak up on you and pounce from nowhere. Set your standards anywhere you want... your head makes standards.. your heart is the one that falls in love. Rarely do they ever agree.

This is true, too.. Make sure you're happy with who you are, first. If you don't love yourself you can't love someone else. It took me a long time to realize that.

Also, make sure you're 110% happy with the person you are with. Don't settle for less. Like I said, there's a match out there for everyone. If you don't want to settle for less, don't.

[Saephyr]

YEY get goo with yourself!

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

That sounds like my current g/f right now. Except the anime part. But she can kick ass in Counter Strike or Call of Duty!

My current g/f basically meets all my fantasies. She's beautiful, sexy, smart, has a great sense of humor, laid back, open minded, likes video games (a huuuge plus), likes tattoos, likes hard rock and I'm converting her to Industrial, hates politicians/politics, AND.. She supports my decision to join the military.

I can't ask for much else. I don't know where this relationship might go but I can see it going far. Apparently she can, too.. Time will tell..

Anyways, don't ask yourself or others if "you're worth it?".. Of course you are. Everyone deserves the basic right to what they want in a relationship, girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever. For every person out there there's someone else who's compatible. Guaranteed. Some don't find that one right person for a long time. Some give up before they do, and that's a shame.

Gee..thx for rubbing it in...

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

This is true, too.. Make sure you're happy with who you are, first. If you don't love yourself you can't love someone else. It took me a long time to realize that.

Also, make sure you're 110% happy with the person you are with. Don't settle for less. Like I said, there's a match out there for everyone. If you don't want to settle for less, don't.

Yea...I'd have to say I'm pretty confident in who I am...but sometimes I'm not too sure..but everyone has their off days,right?...That's why I need someone who's cobnfident in themselves too...I can't battle myself esteem issues if the person I'm with is too...

[BrassFusion]

Yea...I'd have to say I'm pretty confident in who I am...but sometimes I'm not too sure..but everyone has their off days,right?...That's why I need someone who's cobnfident in themselves too...I can't battle myself esteem issues if the person I'm with is too...

If your self-esteem issues are a continual problem, you're not ready for a relationship. Would YOU want to date yourself, if you were someone else?

If the answer is no, fix the things about yourself you don't like, or at least give yourself time to reflect on your positive and negative traits and accept yourself the way you are.

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

Well...the only time I'm not confident is when I go through my off days...but I'm just trying to get rid of those off days, if that's possible...I think I can honestly say I'm confident in who I am and my personality...I feel so free and liberated compared to when I was self concious of myself entirely...the only thing I'm not confident in is my appearance...I'm not the best looking guy out there...my opinion of my looks is actually very low..I think I'm ugly...(I'm not fishing for compliments either so don't bother trying to say "you're cute" you're hot" etc etc) but I have come to accept that...I know that I'm good looking to those that matter...you know? I have accepted my looks though not the best...but I make up for my lack of looks with my personality...and isn't that the most important thing? So in actuality..I'm kinda glad I'm not that good looking..so I know the girls I date aren't dating me for my looks./..but dating me cause they actually like me...does that make sense? Or am I just rambling?

[BrassFusion]

Well...the only time I'm not confident is when I go through my off days...but I'm just trying to get rid of those off days, if that's possible...I think I can honestly say I'm confident in who I am and my personality...I feel so free and liberated compared to when I was self concious of myself entirely...the only thing I'm not confident in is my appearance...I'm not the best looking guy out there...my opinion of my looks is actually very low..I think I'm ugly...(I'm not fishing for compliments either so don't bother trying to say "you're cute" you're hot" etc etc) but I have come to accept that...I know that I'm good looking to those that matter...you know? I have accepted my looks though not the best...but I make up for my lack of looks with my personality...and isn't that the most important thing? So in actuality..I'm kinda glad I'm not that good looking..so I know the girls I date aren't dating me for my looks./..but dating me cause they actually like me...does that make sense? Or am I just rambling?

You're rambling. And you should spend more time checking yourself out in the mirror. It worked for me.

I'm being 100% serious, btw.

[Fierce Critter]

I don't think it's possible to have standards that are "too high".

I do, however, think it's quite possible to be too impatient.

"The one" is worth waiting for. And, unfortunately, sometimes may take quite a while.

But in my experience, the "when you least expect it" or "when you're not looking" thing holds true. I had a couple really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, SERIOUSLY bad relationships in my mid 20's. I'm not just talking we didn't get along. I'm talking about once some time passed, things came up that I couldn't deal with like polyamory (not for me folks, take your objections to a new thread), lying, a criminal lifestyle, slipping me drugged drinks, etc.

My response was to decide I was worthy of better. MUCH better. So I became more determined to not "settle" for that sort of BS. And I was celebate for 2 years. Not only celebate, actively not looking.

The result? Jon appeared quite "out of the blue" and we celebrate our 8 year wedding anniversary this month.

Give yourself time. Keep yourself available. Don't "settle" for something that you know isn't right, making yourself unavailable at the time the "right person" might come by, but go on past because you're "taken".

NEVER feel desperate. At times like that, seek true friends and command a "why we love DBK fest". From the looks of comments you get here, I think there are plenty of people willing to do that for you.

[BrassFusion]

I don't think it's possible to have standards that are "too high".

I do, however, think it's quite possible to be too impatient.

"The one" is worth waiting for. And, unfortunately, sometimes may take quite a while.

But in my experience, the "when you least expect it" or "when you're not looking" thing holds true. I had a couple really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, SERIOUSLY bad relationships in my mid 20's. I'm not just talking we didn't get along. I'm talking about once some time passed, things came up that I couldn't deal with like polyamory (not for me folks, take your objections to a new thread), lying, a criminal lifestyle, slipping me drugged drinks, etc.

My response was to decide I was worthy of better. MUCH better. So I became more determined to not "settle" for that sort of BS. And I was celebate for 2 years. Not only celebate, actively not looking.

The result? Jon appeared quite "out of the blue" and we celebrate our 8 year wedding anniversary this month.

Give yourself time. Keep yourself available. Don't "settle" for something that you know isn't right, making yourself unavailable at the time the "right person" might come by, but go on past because you're "taken".

NEVER feel desperate. At times like that, seek true friends and command a "why we love DBK fest". From the looks of comments you get here, I think there are plenty of people willing to do that for you.

That's all so very right.

[torn asunder]

That's all so very right.

ditto that!

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

I don't think it's possible to have standards that are "too high".

I do, however, think it's quite possible to be too impatient.

"The one" is worth waiting for. And, unfortunately, sometimes may take quite a while.

But in my experience, the "when you least expect it" or "when you're not looking" thing holds true. I had a couple really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, SERIOUSLY bad relationships in my mid 20's. I'm not just talking we didn't get along. I'm talking about once some time passed, things came up that I couldn't deal with like polyamory (not for me folks, take your objections to a new thread), lying, a criminal lifestyle, slipping me drugged drinks, etc.

My response was to decide I was worthy of better. MUCH better. So I became more determined to not "settle" for that sort of BS. And I was celebate for 2 years. Not only celebate, actively not looking.

The result? Jon appeared quite "out of the blue" and we celebrate our 8 year wedding anniversary this month.

Give yourself time. Keep yourself available. Don't "settle" for something that you know isn't right, making yourself unavailable at the time the "right person" might come by, but go on past because you're "taken".

NEVER feel desperate. At times like that, seek true friends and command a "why we love DBK fest". From the looks of comments you get here, I think there are plenty of people willing to do that for you.

Thank you...lack of words right now to elaborate my appreciation right now...I read that and the replies and I got a tear in my eye (I am NOT being sarcastic)...Thank you....(my stupid-ness kicks in...what the hell is polyamory?)

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

(my stupid-ness kicks in...what the hell is polyamory?)

OOOOOOOOoooooooOOOOOOOOooooooooo...nevermind....

[Fierce Critter]

Thank you...lack of words right now to elaborate my appreciation right now...I read that and the replies and I got a tear in my eye (I am NOT being sarcastic)...Thank you....(my stupid-ness kicks in...what the hell is polyamory?)

My pleasure, DBK. We really need to un-shy ourselves and actually TALK to each other one of these weekends!!!

Oh - and I don't talk out my ass about stuff like this. I meant it. Hang in there. You're what, 22? Maybe? Damn. You're not even close to being ripe yet. Save the sweetness you're yet to become for someone worthy of plucking yer juicy ass off the tree.

[Saephyr]

DBK you are 1 of the most confident men I know in your age group.

Don't EVER change that about yourself. you have accomplished a very good thing and you need to knwo you have doen what most fellas have a true eternal battle trying to reach.

Don't stop being you. You are quite a wonderful guy if I do say so myself. ( Ok so I get to keep your check now right? XXX)

[ssid67]

your standard will lower as weeks go by... :whistling

[Saephyr]

your standard will lower as weeks go by... :whistling

Y is that

[ssid67]

idealistic thoughts don't match reality...thats why.

you never know when the love gods will throw you a curve ball.

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

My pleasure, DBK. We really need to un-shy ourselves and actually TALK to each other one of these weekends!!!

Oh - and I don't talk out my ass about stuff like this. I meant it. Hang in there. You're what, 22? Maybe? Damn. You're not even close to being ripe yet. Save the sweetness you're yet to become for someone worthy of plucking yer juicy ass off the tree.

I'm 25 november 11th...

[DeadBurgerKing (10)]

your standard will lower as weeks go by... :whistling

You're right...I can't controll who I fall in love with...

[Saephyr]

idealistic thoughts don't match reality...thats why.

you never know when the love gods will throw you a curve ball.

very true