Single

[CatsEyeOfTheWiccan]

All good opinions and advice. I never really thought of DGN for a hook up. Hmmm who knows. I am a member of okcupid and some other places. I just was in a state of shock recently breaking up. Right now feeling more comfortable being single.

Thanks everyone ...

Call me sometime we need talk..

-CatsEye

[TheVampireZoey]

All good opinions and advice. I never really thought of DGN for a hook up. Hmmm who knows. I am a member of okcupid and some other places. I just was in a state of shock recently breaking up. Right now feeling more comfortable being single.

Thanks everyone ...

well you never know where you 'll meet someone hack i meet CatsEye on a goth sight not this one but findagoth.com

[TygerLili]

Actually, in an obscure, six-degrees-of-separation kind of way, I guess you could say I'd never have met my boyfriend or my ex if DGN had never existed.

[Shade Everdark]

Actually, in an obscure, six-degrees-of-separation kind of way, I guess you could say I'd never have met my boyfriend or my ex if DGN had never existed.

Well, you know that ex of yours was a complete asshole. I'm not sure why you ever put up with him so much.

Jeez, what a slimeball!

[Rayne]

Actually, in an obscure, six-degrees-of-separation kind of way, I guess you could say I'd never have met my boyfriend or my ex if DGN had never existed.

Me too. Me too! :grin

[DarkVampire]

*Wonders where the ladies are at.*

:whistling

[torn asunder]

Yeah! Where all the white women at!

" 'scuse me, while i whip dis out!!"

[Homicidalheathen]

My friend said yahoo personals is working for her....think about it...if someone is smart enough to use a computer and well off enough to be able to pay for a service that has better screening.....then.....maybe your better off?

Just a thought.

Also, I have a friend who uses chat lines and all she gets are sleeze balls who want shallow hookups. They are free to women so its like they are pimps in a way.

[TygerLili]

Well, you know that ex of yours was a complete asshole. I'm not sure why you ever put up with him so much.

Jeez, what a slimeball!

Yeah, I hate that guy.

[Head Wreck]

okay. enough with the blazing sadles referances allready

[torn asunder]

okay. enough with the blazing sadles referances allready

...and now for something...

COM-pletely different!!

[Troy Spiral (13)]

I tend to avoid this forum (the "relationships" forum) just because for whatever reason i have trouble reading about peoples problems without getting attached. Often i wont post in here for like a month and then all the sudden 10 troy posts... then none again for a month or something.

Anyhow. Stay single for awhile, keep your options open. Sometimes you'll end up taking whatever comes along just due to the shock of being alone all the sudden and then be stuck in a difficult situation. Try not to think that you HAVE to be in a relationship to be happy. Its not true. Its a learned behavior.

Better to be single and free to do what you like then be responsible for another person that you'd rather not be with and just sort of ended up with by default.

After being single (and getting comfortable with it) its a lot easier to make wise decisions about who to hook up with. Its really hard to be objective until your not feeling like you "need" a relationship.

I know people that just go from half-ass relationship to half-ass relationship year after year , its really i think a bad way to go.

Anyhow , didn't mean to preach. Hope things work out for you. Not sure if you accept random hugs but here is one anyway.

*hug*

[Vampyro]

Personally, I'm fed up with meeting people online, EVERYONE i hooked up with over the internet has turned out to be severly fucked up in the head. Don't worry about being single, the idea of it being sucky is an illusion. NOW, you have your own agenda, you can sleep when you want, wake up, and not have to worry about catering to someone elses schedual, snores, mess, ect. FREEDOM! It was sorta ironic, right when i got to the point where i LOVED being single and had no intentions of hooking up, i hooked up. Needless to say I've never been happier with this one, and now after so long about needing a certain amount of personal space, i find myself not having enough time with her. Things'll work out, have patience and know when the time is right, and when you're ready for it, it happens. Never worry about if or when, it will happen when it's just the right time. In the mean time, focus harder at work, it keeps your mind off it, and possibly will get you a raise, hang out with friends, talk to family, do things that make ya feel good and you'll be alright.

[tabycat]

Sorry to hear about your break up I am going through that myself although we weren't together as long the love was everything to me... still is. He and I actually met online and he moved 700miles to be with me. I think there is nothing wrong with online things cause people can lie regardless of where you meet them. It sounds like you're not ready to move on just yet as you pretty much said it yourself. I know I am not ready to move on yet I have this desire to be close to someone... unfortunately it's the person who no longer wants me. I feel so pulled as I am sure you do... still upset over the break up but damn it you don't want it to keep you down. best of luck to you hun xox

[tabycat]

Here's your quote for the day:

Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.

--Dag Hammarskjold

i like that...

[Msterbeau]

My friend said yahoo personals is working for her....think about it...if someone is smart enough to use a computer and well off enough to be able to pay for a service that has better screening.....then.....maybe your better off?

Just a thought.

Also, I have a friend who uses chat lines and all she gets are sleeze balls who want shallow hookups. They are free to women so its like they are pimps in a way.

In my experience, the bar is pretty damn low for figuring out a computer enough to get on the internet and post a profile.

[Mzdeadlyspell]

I just am realizing a lot of things at this point. Sometimes I mistake for a bad relationship as love, etc. I just feel sad, because we have gone back and forth for over two years. Now that I am single, it just is harder to adjust to not having the phone ring so much, or the text messages, etc. I have put several ads up on yahoo, and even craigslist. But for now I am just going to get involved in work, and try to get back into shape.

For those dealing with similiar situations or break ups, we should start a support group!

Troy= thanks for the random hug...that is very thoughtful...

And those that are in good relationships, I admire that and look forward to something like that one day.

Thank you again.............it is lonely out here but nothing I can not deal with........

I still believe...........

[Mzdeadlyspell]

Yes, I have a friend who had some luck looking for places to live on Craigslist, so I figured why not. My ad is on there about a week or so ago. I just don't know about how the results of it will be. The responses have been nice, but then again, I am not the most social person these days.'

[Draco1958]

All good opinions and advice. I never really thought of DGN for a hook up. Hmmm who knows. I am a member of okcupid and some other places. I just was in a state of shock recently breaking up. Right now feeling more comfortable being single.

Thanks everyone ...

I'm also on OK Cupid. Just beware, I've ran across a couple of wackos there. I may hate being single but I have no interest in talking to someone for the first time for 5 mins in an IM, not learning anything about them, getting no indication of any common interests then being invited over for sex. Especially when one comment is "if I don't get it often enough, I hurt myself". Way too scary.

[Head Wreck]

"if I don't get it often enough, I hurt myself". Way too scary.

sprained wrists are a bitch

[torn asunder]

sprained wrists are a bitch

[Mzdeadlyspell]

Yes I know to be careful. I am finding some people want to meet right away without even sending a picture. WARNING! I am doing fine, just now getting used to this being single thing. The craigs list thing is going okay, but slow. I guess I just need to get out there more, and go clubbing, and what not. Just been staying in too much lately.

okcupid was pretty good for a while with me. I just got burnt out on it after a while.

[n0Mad]

okcupid was pretty good for a while with me. I just got burnt out on it after a while.

Really? For me at least 90% of the women on there are ones I'm not really interested in. Those that I might be never write me back. Those that do are really awesome but then up and vanish. For the past several months it's been the same people in the top 50. Not much new. They have some of the best quizzes around but as far as meeting people it's rather disappointing. Then again, it is free. But if I have no luck with free sites than I sure as hell aren't going to pay for a site to also have no luck. :confused