Omfg, Single Again

[Ash Sangre]

(Screams)

Alright, im tearing my hair out. I have been in the same relationship for 6 years. and I was recently engaged. Now the brat is telling me i need to lose some weight before he will be with me, so we broke up, yea, ok, I could lose about a million pounds, but when your diabetic, your medicine makes you gain, and lose, gain and lose, a damn yoyo. Is that really a reason to break up with someone? Honestly. I guess I have to starve myself and be a stick figure before i can be with someone.......

I am never, EVER, dating again, this is such mental torment, I have a damn low self esteem as is, now its sh**. (Sigh) will it ever end?

I may be fat, but i am not ugly, shouldnt that matter in the least?

Any help in what i should do........

HELP

[BrassFusion]

I weigh 245 lbs, and I get less long-term quality ass now than I did when I was 280.

So... no. Not to any specific question, just the whole post. No. =)

[Ash Sangre]

yea, well, I used to weight like 360 4 years ago, and I went down to like 170, now I gained some back, and i feel all yucky, but the thing is. with this guy ive been with, I rarely get any, I mean any!!!. I have had sex with this guy like 10 times in 6 years, maybe im just too damn ugly ya know, but the funny thing is, my ex, (Who is now GAY) seemed to care more, told me I was georgous, and gave me you know what allll the time, but I was like 16 then soooo. I dunno, I have had the worst life..................... Sheesh. Like i said, maybe ill just starve myself...... Hopefully itll work, everyone likes a thing lady........

But the thing is Brass, your like, really pretty, so yer one of the luck BBw's:)

[Onyx]

Well, it sounds like you two weren't right for each other anyway. I know it sucks, but now you can move on to someone who actually wants to have hot sex, and lots of it

[Ash Sangre]

lol, if there are any

[Klaus]

lol, if there are any

In all honesty, I looked at your Myspace. and i'm not just trying to make you feel better, but honestly i think you are really pretty and i would be honored to have wild passionate sex every night of the week hell even the next morning and even after lunch! but aside from the sex, like i said you are very pretty and i think SOMEONE who will remain nameless deserved to get kicked in the nuts.

None the less, im totally sorry that he was a complete ass. I think you are beautiful as you are 175lbs or 947lbs.

Guys suck ass! We are complete and utter fucking ass holes that are so stuck up and only want the oh I'm 3 pounds and i wear size 00 and i have like FF tits. I hate our sex. i really do. maybe thats why I'm better friends with Girls... mainly cuz I'm NOT an ass.

Guys.... Complete asses i tell ya

none the less if you wanna vent, check me out. ill listen.

Nick *hug*

P.S. i added you to Myspace

[saechalyn]

Nick, you are the sweetest thing!

Any help in what i should do........

You should be GLAD you got rid of someone who never wants to have sex! I know it's not easy, but Onyx is right- you are better off without him!

[Klaus]

Nick, you are the sweetest thing!

I'm honest too.

and as far as being the sweetest thing, my blood is actually chocolate.

[BrassFusion]

starving yourself will NOT HELP!!! that's all i was trying to say.

and thanks for calling me pretty. receiving compliments never gets old, wouldn't you agree?

and yeah, i agree with onyx/everyone else on this. if the guy only got physical that often over SIX YEARS, he's gay too.

obviously your gay-dar is broken. i'd look into that first. going on a diet in this situation would be like dropping the roof and bumpers off a hot rod before replacing the burnt-out headlamps.

[pharoh]

Ummm I think if you want to lose weight, you should do it for YOU.....and not anyone else. If he is that supperficial about appearence, then why you even bothering with this guy?

Being single is a good thing, it lets you work on you (if you want). It's a time of self reflection, self improvement, and self involvement. I don't think I will be ready for a relationship any time soon, and I am ok with that.

Let me ask you this:

Did you get along without knowing this person before?

Can you get along without this person after knowing them?

I think you know the answers to those questions.

Take care of yourself -Al

[Der Nister]

I know what you're saying cuz I've been there. I've had one woman not want to be with me anymore because I had gained weight and one woman had issues with me because she was large and I wasn't.

It just sucks that there are people that can't see reality the way it is. You'll find someone that is smart and mature enough to not be hung up on physical looks/shape/size or whatever because you know - are they fucking perfect looking? The answer is more than likely - uuuum fuck no they aren't perfect looking and they don't have any right to judge you.

You deserve better.

If you keep that last part in mind you'll be on the road to being more happy.

[Draco1958]

(Screams)

Alright, im tearing my hair out. I have been in the same relationship for 6 years. and I was recently engaged. Now the brat is telling me i need to lose some weight before he will be with me, so we broke up, yea, ok, I could lose about a million pounds, but when your diabetic, your medicine makes you gain, and lose, gain and lose, a damn yoyo. Is that really a reason to break up with someone? Honestly. I guess I have to starve myself and be a stick figure before i can be with someone.......

I am never, EVER, dating again, this is such mental torment, I have a damn low self esteem as is, now its sh**. (Sigh) will it ever end?

I may be fat, but i am not ugly, shouldnt that matter in the least?

Any help in what i should do........

HELP

Let me start out by saying my ex was 5'2" and weighed 165. I found her beautiful everyday. Going by the pics you have posted, you are very beautiful. If he can't see the beauty, he's not worth your time. Accept his failure to accept you as his problem not yours. Move on, someone will see the true beauty you have to offer and will accept you for you. That person will love every curve and will use them to tease you, turn you on and show he truly loves you for you.

[Daevion]

"...I have had sex with this guy like 10 times in 6 years..."

Holy shit!!! I can barely wrap my mind around that....is this even possible?!

Are you sure you didn't mean 10 times in 6 days?

[pharoh]

"...I have had sex with this guy like 10 times in 6 years..."

Holy shit!!! I can barely wrap my mind around that....is this even possible?!

Are you sure you didn't mean 10 times in 6 days?

LoL ya I know what your saying bro. I maybee single and shit, but that don't mean the pharoh doesn't need his lovins

[Reaper]

lol damn, I did half of what that guy did in 6 years in one night! A bum for sex sucks. Gotta have that extracurricular fun you know!

[Homicidalheathen]

You have GOT to be kidding. Someone was shallow enough to use you for a few but not deep enough to marry you? God. Can we string him up by his balls and whack the crap out of him now?

You are better off without someone who doesn't understand your body limitations. What an ass.

He liked you enough to bump boots with you for this long......WFT????

I say we tar and feather his balls then rip off the feathers.

[torn asunder]

let's be nice, people - she may still have feelings for him, (6 years is a long time) and you're all calling him names & shit!!

anyway, all i can add is, be strong, be true to yourself, and don't accept into your life what you know you don't deserve, and you deserve the best!! people will always treat you the way you let them, so just don't let them!

take care :-)

[creatureofthenyte]

That which does not kill you, will only make you stronger.

Like everyone else that has replied so far, I too am sorry to read that you had this happen to you.

I think you will be better off for it.

Maybe this was long overdue.

Also, like everyone else so far, has said, You ARE Beautiful.

I've only seen pics in your avatar and I was blown away.

However, please don't permanently decide not to date anymore.

There IS someone good out there for you, someone who will love you for you and not what the scale says.

People care about and judge people on things that really shouldn't matter and that is very unfortunate.

Please don't give up.

When you find a good guy and you are happy with him, the victory you achieve will be bittersweet.

And some day, this "man" that left you will see you with your good guy and will have to live with the fact that he let you go.

Keep your head up, and believe in yourself and don't give up!

[Hellion]

Ash You are way better than he is anyway,you deserve better,cheer up,hope things get better for you in the future.

[Ash Sangre]

Hehehe, your a doll

[Ash Sangre]

"...I have had sex with this guy like 10 times in 6 years..."

Holy shit!!! I can barely wrap my mind around that....is this even possible?!

Are you sure you didn't mean 10 times in 6 days?

Lmao, yea, I am not kidding. lol

[Ash Sangre]

Alright people, ya'lls really nice, and thank you for being responsive in whatever way possible, its good to read all of this. In reply to anyone using names with him, Its all good. Ive had a few choice words myself, and theres probably at least one person on this board who has had some choice names for him as well. The thing is, this guy has problems I guess. Sex is a huge issue, you have to be in some sort on intimate relations to keep a relationship going for that long, ive held off a loooong time. Hes a great guy, he took care of me when i was ill and what not, but i dont think he understands what it means to be involved with someone. Its probably better that hes single for awhile, and I hope he becomes a happier person. As for me, Im going to try an get healthy weight wise, because i know there will be a place for me in what i want to do professionally when i become thinner. I think one of the reasons why I quit going to CC is because he was making comments about how beautiful the ladies were, (AND THEY ARE) slim, sexy and all that. So i felt like, sheesh, why go with him when hes looking at others instead of me, so it kind of gave me a complex, and dammit, i loved going there. I have issues like all larger women about my looks. So I kind of hide from the social world:) But alas, my story needs to end here. I hate complaining:) But again, thanks to all those who sent me the nice messages....

I hope to meet you all one day

Ash

[Klaus]

I think one of the reasons why I quit going to CC is because he was making comments about how beautiful the ladies were,

i loved going there.

I hope to meet you all one day

Ash

Come back! if your not with him, then he cant say that so and so over there is not or not (plus i know ike 95% of us wanna meet you too)

Ive never been and hope to go Saturday but i don't know. none the less it would be awesome to see you there and in the end whichever decision you choose, i hope it makes you happy.

All my love and best wishes!

Nick

Aka: the sweetest guy ever (who is so sweet, he has chocolate blood)

[saechalyn]

I think one of the reasons why I quit going to CC is because he was making comments about how beautiful the ladies were, (AND THEY ARE) slim, sexy and all that. So i felt like, sheesh, why go with him when hes looking at others instead of me, so it kind of gave me a complex, and dammit, i loved going there. I have issues like all larger women about my looks. So I kind of hide from the social world:) But alas, my story needs to end here. I hate complaining:) But again, thanks to all those who sent me the nice messages....

What you have to remember is that most of the "slim, sexy" girls have their own set of complexes....they want a smaller nose or a higher forehead or bigger boobs or smaller boobs or a higher butt or firmer thighs or different hair or they wish they were taller or then there's the annoying ones who complain they are "fat" because they are size 6 instead of a 2. Most people have something they don't like about themselves.

It's fine to want to be at a healthy weight and to work towards it, but don't let it stop you from living in the meantime!

[torn asunder]

What you have to remember is that most of the "slim, sexy" girls have their own set of complexes....they want a smaller nose or a higher forehead or bigger boobs or smaller boobs or a higher butt or firmer thighs or different hair or they wish they were taller or then there's the annoying ones who complain they are "fat" because they are size 6 instead of a 2. Most people have something they don't like about themselves.

It's fine to want to be at a healthy weight and to work towards it, but don't let it stop you from living in the meantime!