F*cking Women

[Homicidalheathen]

I used to have a problem I admit. I was anhorexic for much of my adult life. The lack of fiber and well, solid food is quite possibly what let to my accute divers and ulcerative colitis.

Now these teen girls are pissing me off.

Did they not learn anything watching us get sick???

You do not have a fat ass.

You do not eat one meal and get cellulite.......I can't tell you ate a meal.......there is nothing there damnit!

Stop counting calories and enjoy food while your metabolism is still fast enough to enjoy the occasional candy bar.

And no, you won't gain weight from spraying on perfume. Ok, she was joking but still.......

Why are we all so fat obsessed?

I mean, be healthy.......not fat.....not thin.

Its rediculous to see someone at their peak in life who wont wear a frickin bathing suit. And looses out on fun because of what........

A pound or two?

Just saying.

And I bought cosmo yesturday.......ok, I admit....the pink and word sex on the cover got to me again.....

So I showed the man a pic of a model in it posing for clothes ads and even he said she looked near dead.....

Her legs are like pencils.

[phee]

Heh... I am more obssesed with my own fat that Rayne will ever be about herself

[Daevion]

pencils are not hot......curves are key......Hollywood has distorted self image beyond repair...there is no hope for the human race

[BrassFusion]

if you're gonna blame women for being body-obsessed, better also blame men and society as a whole for perpetuating it.

[Onyx]

Yeah, it's crazy.

There are a lot of men and women who are not body-obsessed like this though. It's the extremes that get the attention. Healthy, sane people don't make the news.

[Homicidalheathen]

My kids tell me stories of girls going to the bathroom to barf after lunch break. I honestly thought things were getting better but no.

I also heard of a 9 yr old swallowing cotton balls and drinking orange juice to stay full.....

That has to mess up your insides something awful.

[pomba gira]

if you're gonna blame women for being body-obsessed, better also blame men and society as a whole for perpetuating it.

True dat. Women don't just pull these ideas out of thin air. I hear men saying really cruel things about "unattractive" and "overweight" women all the time. Like those horrible Toby Keith songs they play on Bob & Tom... those are the one thing they run that cause me to turn off the radio in disgust. Altho women certainly perpetuate it too... everytime we make a comment like "eeyew, why is she wearing that" what we're really doing is condemning another woman for not measuring up to the accepted ideal of beauty. We ALL need to take responsibility for being part of the solution rather than part of the problem, and remember how much impact a casual comment can really have.

And, HH- I really believe things are getting better, in terms of more people becoming aware of how unrealistic these standards of beauty are, and the negative impact all this has on girls and women. But the pendulum is only just now starting to swing back (so to speak), so it will take some time to really see a difference. The whole obssession with being thin didn't pop up overnight (altho in cultural terms it's a very new phenomenon- less than 50 years), so it's not going to go away overnight, either. There are little rays of hope here & there, though- like the Dove "Real Beauty" campaign, that Slimfast "Hips not hipbones" spot, and more plus size clothing retailers actually using plus models. Yeah, I know most of those "plus" models are only a 12 or 14, but hey it's a start- maybe 5 years from now Lane Bryant will use models like the ones on Hips and Curves.com or even Big Gals!

I just hope that for once our society can hit a happy medium, and not go too far in the opposite direction to where naturally "willowy" women are made to feel unattractive.

[bean]

The idea that the thinner you are, the more value you have has been reinforced by society over and over again. When you hear/see something enough, you begin to believe it and want to fit that mold.

[Vampyro]

pencils are not hot......curves are key......Hollywood has distorted self image beyond repair...there is no hope for the human race

Dude I have to agree, In every angle and aspect and situation we've mastered in, it's all gone horribly wrong and infestid with stupidity...

...we are all just going to brain dead ourselves to death!

[Fierce Critter]

Sigh.

It really is a societal thing. That's where the obsession comes from.

I want to be healthier, and for me, that means losing weight. And that is all. I really couldn't care less about what society thinks of me. But I wasn't always this strong. Especially in high school and prior.

And I do wish I didn't have this stomach. Because I have a sense of aesthetics. And while I think big can definitely be beautiful - it helps if one is proportional. I could be the weight I am and be happy if I didn't have to buy jeans that are HUMONGOUS on my legs because I have to buy something that fits my disproportional gut. Sad thing is, even if I lose the weight I've set as my goal for this year, I'll still have the belly, and clothes still won't lay right on me. :(

It's my own eyes that I judge myself with. Not society's. Not everyone is this strong.

[Scary Guy]

My kids tell me stories of girls going to the bathroom to barf after lunch break. I honestly thought things were getting better but no.

I also heard of a 9 yr old swallowing cotton balls and drinking orange juice to stay full.....

That has to mess up your insides something awful.

Don't worry this is just Darwinism in action. People will either learn and get over it... or they won't.

"Little Anna would not eat,

a skeleton from head to feet.

Afflicted with societies ills,

sometimes it is only the mirror that kills.

It hangs there still." - Jill Tracy - The Proof