Goodbye - It Was Fun!

[Spooky Girl]

I was told at City Club that DetroitGothic.Net was a good place to meet new people and was an inclusive community shaped around the goth scene. Well all I've noticed is how nasty some people are, especially Brassfusion. I even received messages from people to 'watch what I say around her or you'll get called names'. This does not sound very inclusive to me. Good Bye.

[torn asunder]

I was told at City Club that DetroitGothic.Net was a good place to meet new people and was an inclusive community shaped around the goth scene. Well all I've noticed is how nasty some people are, especially Brassfusion. I even received messages from people to 'watch what I say around her or you'll get called names'. This does not sound very inclusive to me. Good Bye.

every community has conflicting personalities - but the majority of people get along fine... do what you feel you must, but don't let your thoughts of one or two people color your judgement of the rest of the community! hope you change your mind & stick around...

[hellequin]

god, this makes me sad!

i agree with everything torn asunder said. I recently started posting and i've found that most people here are sensible, smart and just plain nice.

There will always be others who really irk you on forum boards. I've found the best way to deal with irksome folk is the ignore/block function that most forum boards have. If a person's comments are that upsetting, why see them at all? I think life's too short to get worked up over persistently hateful folk, so why have them in your life in any way shape or form, hence.... the ignore list. Again, Why let them get in the way of making friends with some good hearted people?

*shrug*

It's just an option.

*wave*

[Homicidalheathen]

your leaving because of brass ass? Whatever. Don't let it bother you and stick around! I have made some good long time freinds on here, found new music.....bunch of stuff.

Its worth staying for believe me. She doesn't bite after all.....at least not that I know of!

[Msterbeau]

Sorry you've made up your mind so quickly. But like the real world, there are all kinds of personalities and there will always be some that don't rub you the right way. A little patience in getting to know people may give you a better perspective. They still may piss you off from time to time, but you may also learn a thing or two if you open your mind to what's being said rather then how it's said. I've had my share of conflicts with a couple people here, but I stayed anyways and I think I can say that despite our differences there's a genuine level of respect for each other's opinions. Also... The name calling does get handled in private.

[kellygrrrrrl]

hey man, I've had some poeple put it to me like it is....I can only appreciate that!

Yeah...you might learn a thing or 2!!!

[Head Wreck]

okay!

who told her about me and the cedar balls! do you have to scare away everyone with stories?

seriously, i'm sorry this board dint work out well for you, i have found DGN a great place to be a part of the past few years, and such outing of members is generally very not nice.

i hope you will reconsider and i apologise for the unamed aspects, and i dont want to know names tbh, as this indeed does sadden me that this has gone on

[JaneDead]

i have definately felt this way about this board (but i don't blame brassfusion, i blame PHEE!) ... and 5... 6 years later here i am still.

[Reaper]

I was told at City Club that DetroitGothic.Net was a good place to meet new people and was an inclusive community shaped around the goth scene. Well all I've noticed is how nasty some people are, especially Brassfusion. I even received messages from people to 'watch what I say around her or you'll get called names'. This does not sound very inclusive to me. Good Bye.

If it was fun, why are you leaving?

[Onyx]

I doubt you will find any place on the net or in real life where you don't have a conflict with someone, sometime. That's one of the things that make the world an interesting place.

It seems strange that you would leave so soon.

If anyone on the board is causing you distress you should discuss it with that person. I haven't seen anyone call you any names!

If you can not work it out then you are welcome to contact any of the moderators and we will do what we can, though we are not babysitters and we do expect that most problems can be handled by those involved without our intervention.

[Homicidalheathen]

I hate to see attractive together young women leave because even though its not a dating service, there are plenty of fine young single men on here.

But I am busy playing matchmaker this week and have spring fever....

My mind is on amore'!!!!!

[bean]

god, this makes me sad!

i agree with everything torn asunder said. I recently started posting and i've found that most people here are sensible, smart and just plain nice.

There will always be others who really irk you on forum boards. I've found the best way to deal with irksome folk is the ignore/block function that most forum boards have. If a person's comments are that upsetting, why see them at all? I think life's too short to get worked up over persistently hateful folk, so why have them in your life in any way shape or form, hence.... the ignore list. Again, Why let them get in the way of making friends with some good hearted people?

*shrug*

It's just an option.

*wave*

EXACTLY!!

[Fierce Critter]

Ditto JaneDead.

Been on here going on 6 years now.

I have discovered the "ignore" feature is a wunnerful thing.

I myself have enjoyed what I've read from you thusfar. Ignore the turkeys and stick around for the cool cats.

[BrassFusion]

ip check, please?

[Brenda Starrr]

What is this???

I came here a few years back as a Baltimore native who had NO clue about forums and the people who use them. Yes, there's drama. Yes, there's some rudeness. But doesn't "real life" have that, too? You'll meet people throughout life that you won't agree with. What makes this any different? Are you going to quit life as well?

How goth.

Not everyone here will grate your nerves. Just relax. And keep in mind that calling people out is against board rules. If you have issues with someone, take it to PMs. Thanks.

[the eternal]

Ok, I was just checking for a second, because I HAVE to take another break form DGN(nothing dramatic, just get your ass back to work stuff)

but I feel compelled to chime in.

Look, first of all, I don't like you calling out BF by name as I dont see what she's said to you to warrant that.

Second of all, Ive gotten into heated arguments with a few people.

Early on, one person actually told me (in a PM)

"No one likes you. You have no friends. Troy's (the boards founder) laughing at you. Take a glass of shut the f*&% up."

You know what, 1 yr and a half later, I'm still here.

Why?

Because I realized 2 things (I like numbering, BTW)

1. I was really pushing his (not everyones) buttons

2. I took myself, and my pet political issues wayyyyy too seriously. Now I dont get nearly as involved in that stuff.

And there are SO MANY nice, wonderful people.

My life has changed so much.

I'm in love with someone who makes me so happy, who I want to spend my life with,

and it's all because of DGN.

________________________________________________________________________________

______

HONESTLY, think of your workplace.

Do you get along with everyone, or do you have one co-worker you'd like like to put thru a wall every now and again.

How about your family?

Your extended family?

The people next you at the movie theater?

I'm a deeply emotional, opinionated, progressive who gets frustrated and disillusioned every day with humanity.

If I found a place that was always supportive of me all the time, I would think there's something wrong.

Like I went into a coma and woke up in the Matrix.

I mean really...

There are people on here:

Me, HH, BF, Gaf, a few others that will say things that'll raise eyebrows from time to time,

and that's great!

If you ever felt threatened by her or another person, contact a moderator.

(I have to really wonder what your motivation in calling her out was??

You had to know that would make a statement based on little factual grounding, unless BF has superpowers that I dont know of)

If you're honestly worried about what future thing may/may not happen to you, you need to get out more.

The world is full of lots of kinds of people, and unlike TRW, at least on DGN, if anything gets out of hand, mods make them STOP.

As much as goths (not that there are many actual goths on here ) are painted as all the same, same clothes, same ideas, this is a very wide ranging group

Just find your own niche on here, try not to take things too seriously, and have some fun.

How f*&^%ing boring would life be if everyone was the same?

[Brenda Starrr]

What eternal said!

[Hellion]

Sometimes I wish I could DELETE certain people like I delete something on the computer,push a button and they disappear.

(starts gathering names)

[Shade Everdark]

Are you going to quit life as well?

How goth.

Where do I turn in my letter of resignation for life? Anyone know?

/threadjack

Not everyone here will grate your nerves. Just relax. And keep in mind that calling people out is against board rules. If you have issues with someone, take it to PMs. Thanks.

That's about as succinct as it gets. Unfortunately, I have the feeling that we're wasting our collective time posting here, to try to convince Miss to stay.

[Scary Guy]

As far as brass goes, yeah she can be a total raging bitch sometimes, but we still get along despite our differences (and actually hang out unlike most of the board). She's one of the few who's actually given me a fair shake despite how much of an asshole I am. She's about as opinionated as I am but she's also just as open minded. I'm sorry she's rubbed you the wrong way but she's done that to everyone on the board and one point or another and I believe her to be kind of a mixed blessing of an asset as well as a deficit.

You seem nice as well, and I still like the name. I totally agree with the previous posts that state in each community there are assholes. I'm probably considered one of those by most actually. But despite that I still wish you wouldn't be so quick to judge and that you'd stick around.

ip check, please?

Proxies? But I think this one is legit anyway.

[Spooky Girl]

Ok, I was just checking for a second, because I HAVE to take another break form DGN(nothing dramatic, just get your ass back to work stuff)

but I feel compelled to chime in.

Look, first of all, I don't like you calling out BF by name as I dont see what she's said to you to warrant that.

Second of all, Ive gotten into heated arguments with a few people.

Early on, one person actually told me (in a PM)

"No one likes you. You have no friends. Troy's (the boards founder) laughing at you. Take a glass of shut the f*&% up."

You know what, 1 yr and a half later, I'm still here.

Why?

Because I realized 2 things (I like numbering, BTW)

1. I was really pushing his (not everyones) buttons

2. I took myself, and my pet political issues wayyyyy too seriously. Now I dont get nearly as involved in that stuff.

And there are SO MANY nice, wonderful people.

My life has changed so much.

I'm in love with someone who makes me so happy, who I want to spend my life with,

and it's all because of DGN.

________________________________________________________________________________

______

HONESTLY, think of your workplace.

Do you get along with everyone, or do you have one co-worker you'd like like to put thru a wall every now and again.

How about your family?

Your extended family?

The people next you at the movie theater?

I'm a deeply emotional, opinionated, progressive who gets frustrated and disillusioned every day with humanity.

If I found a place that was always supportive of me all the time, I would think there's something wrong.

Like I went into a coma and woke up in the Matrix.

I mean really...

There are people on here:

Me, HH, BF, Gaf, a few others that will say things that'll raise eyebrows from time to time,

and that's great!

If you ever felt threatened by her or another person, contact a moderator.

(I have to really wonder what your motivation in calling her out was??

You had to know that would make a statement based on little factual grounding, unless BF has superpowers that I dont know of)

If you're honestly worried about what future thing may/may not happen to you, you need to get out more.

The world is full of lots of kinds of people, and unlike TRW, at least on DGN, if anything gets out of hand, mods make them STOP.

As much as goths (not that there are many actual goths on here ) are painted as all the same, same clothes, same ideas, this is a very wide ranging group

Just find your own niche on here, try not to take things too seriously, and have some fun.

How f*&^%ing boring would life be if everyone was the same?

Just to be clear here when she calls someone a 'douchebag' when she tells someone they don't love themself, when they break POSTED RULES OF THIS WEBSITE ......you don't see a PROBLEM with that? Seriously? Then why have rules at all?

Mods please answers this: Does Brassfusion break the posted rules of this website? If the answer is yes then I would like to know what your responsibility is to the offended then. Thank you.

[Spooky Girl]

As far as brass goes, yeah she can be a total raging bitch sometimes, but we still get along despite our differences (and actually hang out unlike most of the board). She's one of the few who's actually given me a fair shake despite how much of an asshole I am. She's about as opinionated as I am but she's also just as open minded. I'm sorry she's rubbed you the wrong way but she's done that to everyone on the board and one point or another and I believe her to be kind of a mixed blessing of an asset as well as a deficit.

You seem nice as well, and I still like the name. I totally agree with the previous posts that state in each community there are assholes. I'm probably considered one of those by most actually. But despite that I still wish you wouldn't be so quick to judge and that you'd stick around.

Proxies? But I think this one is legit anyway.

So you admit she can be a raging bitch (your words). This is against the rules of the website, is it not?

[Brenda Starrr]

Just to be clear here when she calls someone a 'douchebag' when she tells someone they don't love themself, when they break POSTED RULES OF THIS WEBSITE ......you don't see a PROBLEM with that? Seriously? Then why have rules at all?

Mods please answers this: Does Brassfusion break the posted rules of this website? If the answer is yes then I would like to know what your responsibility is to the offended then. Thank you.

We handle things as they come. No, calling someone a "douchebag" isn't cool with us. Get real. But, feel free to leave if you don't like how we handle things, or whether or not we do it in a timely fashion. And forgive us mods if we miss something!

OH! Crucify me now!!!

[bean]

:laughing

[Spooky Girl]

We handle things as they come. No, calling someone a "douchebag" isn't cool with us. Get real. But, feel free to leave if you don't like how we handle things, or whether or not we do it in a timely fashion. And forgive us mods if we miss something!

OH! Crucify me now!!!

Answer my question: Does Brassfusion continually break the rules of this site and insult several people?