Careful What You Wish For....

[Homicidalheathen]

So my cousin married a lady. (She is female) And now, they are fighting over the house...it looks like she may have to sell it and pay her wife off.

And her wife never worked.

Personally I think they should have just lived together.....but I guess she had to make a statement.

And now for that, she is getting taken BIG TIME.

I am all for same sex marriage in general.....but marriage at all.....well.....dunno anymore.

[BrassFusion]

i think the problem is most people are more concerned about just getting married than who they're getting married to.

[odims_sphere]

<--- guilty of that!

[Steven]

i think the problem is most people are more concerned about just getting married than who they're getting married to.

exactly.

and for all of this hoopla about equall rights for same sex couples.....this is one of the reasons I've said that our own traditional marital processes need a much deeper focus to make it viable again before we broaden the scope.

but hey - if'n ya wanna inherit all of the bullshit that traidtional failed marriges go thru.....its all yours baby.

I still dont beleive that marriage as a vehicle in and of itself is a failure.

I think the people who are getting married who lack the skillsets and depth oc commitment to the process itself is the failure.

But thats a whole other tired Oprah...so have at it folks... (this May 23rd marks my 20th anniversary, and it aint cause I'm lucky)

[JaneDead]

i think the problem is most people are more concerned about just getting married than who they're getting married to.

bingo

[BrassFusion]

exactly.

and for all of this hoopla about equall rights for same sex couples.....this is one of the reasons I've said that our own traditional marital processes need a much deeper focus to make it viable again before we broaden the scope.

but hey - if'n ya wanna inherit all of the bullshit that traidtional failed marriges go thru.....its all yours baby.

I still dont beleive that marriage as a vehicle in and of itself is a failure.

I think the people who are getting married who lack the skillsets and depth oc commitment to the process itself is the failure.

But thats a whole other tired Oprah...so have at it folks... (this May 23rd marks my 20th anniversary, and it aint cause I'm lucky)

it's not broadening the scope, and it's not gay folks "inheriting" the rights from straights. gays aren't younger than you or less mature than you or somehow a secondary group of people. they're you. we don't have business "improving" marriage before we allow gays to participate.

and of course, not all marriages are inviable. it's what you make of it

[kellygrrrrrl]

<---- also guilty

[Steven]

<---- also guilty

great minds....or youthful ideals.

I was young too when I got married. I survived it. Then I figured out that survival was the worst thing in the world to do in a marriage.

[Steven]

gays aren't younger than you or less mature than you or somehow a secondary group of people. they're you.

Honestly now Love, do you really beleive that this statement applies to me?

[BrassFusion]

yeah, you're human, right?

[Steven]

yeah, you're human, right?

ok, my turn: wtf???

[BrassFusion]

Sometimes I'm right then I can be wrong

My own beliefs are in my songs

A butcher, a banker, a drummer and then

Makes no difference what group I'm in

I am everyday people

Then it's the blue ones who can't accept

The green ones for living with

The black ones tryin' to be a skinny one

Different strokes for different folks

And so on and so on and scooby dooby dooby

Ooh sha sha

We gotta live together

I am no better and neither are you

We're all the same whatever we do

You love me you hate me

You know me and then

Still can't figure out the scene I'm in

I am everyday people

Then it's the new man

That doesn't like the short man

For being such a rich one

That will not help the poor one

Different strokes for different folks

And so on and so on scooby dooby dooby

Ooh sha sha

We got to live together

There is a yellow one that won't

Accept the black one

That won't accept the red one

That won't accept the white one

Different strokes for different folks

And so on and so on and

Scooby dooby dooby

Ooh sha sha

I am everyday people

[Steven]

Sometimes I'm right then I can be wrong

My own beliefs are in my songs

A butcher, a banker, a drummer and then

Makes no difference what group I'm in

I am everyday people

Then it's the blue ones who can't accept

The green ones for living with

The black ones tryin' to be a skinny one

Different strokes for different folks

And so on and so on and scooby dooby dooby

Ooh sha sha

We gotta live together

I am no better and neither are you

We're all the same whatever we do

You love me you hate me

You know me and then

Still can't figure out the scene I'm in

I am everyday people

Then it's the new man

That doesn't like the short man

For being such a rich one

That will not help the poor one

Different strokes for different folks

And so on and so on scooby dooby dooby

Ooh sha sha

We got to live together

There is a yellow one that won't

Accept the black one

That won't accept the red one

That won't accept the white one

Different strokes for different folks

And so on and so on and

Scooby dooby dooby

Ooh sha sha

I am everyday people

do you actually have the vinyl?

because you must if you want me to take you seriously.....

[BrassFusion]

do you actually have the vinyl?

because you must if you want me to take you seriously.....

i'm 24, gramps, i have ONE vinyl that i bought at flipside on a whim and i haven't seen it in at least ten years

[Steven]

i'm 24, gramps, i have ONE vinyl that i bought at flipside on a whim and i haven't seen it in at least ten years

I've got the one with Sly Stone in the full white jumpsuit doing the karate kick in platforms. and a whiole buncha others.

[Medea]

exactly.

and for all of this hoopla about equall rights for same sex couples.....this is one of the reasons I've said that our own traditional marital processes need a much deeper focus to make it viable again before we broaden the scope.

but hey - if'n ya wanna inherit all of the bullshit that traidtional failed marriges go thru.....its all yours baby.

I still dont beleive that marriage as a vehicle in and of itself is a failure.

I think the people who are getting married who lack the skillsets and depth oc commitment to the process itself is the failure.

But thats a whole other tired Oprah...so have at it folks... (this May 23rd marks my 20th anniversary, and it aint cause I'm lucky)

That's interesting, Steven. This May 23rd marks what would have been my parents' 27th anniversary.

Also, I agree with you that marriage is not taken as seriously as it should anymore. If I do get married, I plan on trying my damndest to make sure that I am with someone I can spend my entire life with, and to work on it when things get tough.

[Steven]

That's interesting, Steven. This May 23rd marks what would have been my parents' 27th anniversary.

Also, I agree with you that marriage is not taken as seriously as it should anymore. If I do get married, I plan on trying my damndest to make sure that I am with someone I can spend my entire life with, and to work on it when things get tough.

I'm glad to hear this. And I'm sorry for your loss Medea. But I'm glad you have good thoughts to fall back on....

[Homicidalheathen]

Yah, sorry you didn't get to celebrate it with them.

I too think people say I love you too easy....marry too easy.....and it is trivialized these days.

One marriage per life for me.....this is it.