Im Not Mean!

[LadyKay]

I'm not mean! I just get irritated at people annoying me! I can't even talk to people anymore without them saying to me that I am being mean to them. I hate having to repeat myself to people, and when I have too I get annoyed! Then I am told I am being mean! I'm not mean! Just don't annoy me and everything will be all right!

Oh this has nothing to do with anyone here. It is something that happen at work today. I guess I have to work on my people skills. Sorry, bad day at work.

[Amerist]

Work. The only place where thou cannot explain, in a calm and civil tone, that "mean" would involve very sharp cutlery and lemon extract, and being that neither of the implements were present nothing "mean" had yet begun.

[Destroit]

It's okay, I'm mean too. I mean how dare people not understand EXACTLY what I mean the first time I say it? There's only so many hours in a day, ya know? I wanna be like "if you didn't hear, understand, or pay attention to what I said the first time, please, just nod and smile". Takes the fun out of speech when people ask you to repeat yourself over and over again.

[Shade Everdark]

So be mean to them, and give them a reason to think so.

Me, I'm not mean. I just hate everyone.

[LuluVox]

Ugh. I was recently called rude and insensitive to a former friend's feelings simply for honestly voicing the way she made me feel (smothered). So apparently telling the truth equals being mean. Ya can't win.

[torn asunder]

So apparently telling the truth equals being mean. Ya can't win.

that's because people have been "wussified" by the whole "PC" movement...

[LuluVox]

that's because people have been "wussified" by the whole "PC" movement...

(resisting overwhelming urge to make a Mac v. PC joke)

Yeah, you're right. It was just really confusing to be asked for my opinion by this person, then getting crazied all over when I told her.

[saechalyn]

Some people define "mean" as "anything that isn't exactly what I want to hear, when I want to hear it, in the tone I prefer to hear it in"

[Msterbeau]

I'm not mean. I'm an asshole.

[LadyKay]

You guys are great! I love you all. I knew I would be understood here. I have finely found my own kind. Okay mushy stuff over with now back to being mean.

[Destroit]

You guys are great! I love you all. I knew I would be understood here. I have finely found my own kind. Okay mushy stuff over with now back to being mean.

Who the fuck has a hug fest like that? Wuss...

[Hellion]

So be mean to them, and give them a reason to think so.

Me, I'm not mean. I just hate everyone.

Drama at work sucks,I totally am with you on that post,I hate most people these days

[sass_in_the_pants]

It is like SO mean of you to think you're not mean.

[creatureofthenyte]

What does it all Meeeean????

[Scary Guy]

Yeah, you're right. It was just really confusing to be asked for my opinion by this person, then getting crazied all over when I told her.

Welcome to the world of men. If someone asks you your opinion and they have a set of breasts, they don't want the truth they want to hear what they want to hear. If I cared more about that I probably wouldn't die alone lol.

I like being mean... and bitter, don't forget bitter.

[honeymustard02]

I know your pain.

I have the same issue. I hate talking to people, them not paying attention.Then asking me to repeat myself. Then I get told Im mean because I either refuse and tell them its not my fault they didn't listen. Or I kind of repeat in that whole you're a retard who should have listened voice.

*hug* So don't worry, you're not alone in your boat.

[Sybil]

Oh this has nothing to do with anyone here. It is something that happen at work today. I guess I have to work on my people skills. Sorry, bad day at work.

aww..

everyone has hard work days.

Poor Girl.

(did your parents ever tell you, "it takes one to know one"... hehehe point at people and say this.)

[LuluVox]

Welcome to the world of men. If someone asks you your opinion and they have a set of breasts, they don't want the truth they want to hear what they want to hear. If I cared more about that I probably wouldn't die alone lol.

I like being mean... and bitter, don't forget bitter.

Well, people have said that she acted like we were dating (being possessive with me) to the point that I was beginning to sympathize with her exes, so that makes sense!

[Troy Spiral (13)]

Lack of tolerance is going to be seen as "mean". You might not WANT to be seen as mean, but its not really what you want that matters , it what you do to others. If you come off as very short, and insensitive/intolerant (getting annoyed easily) then your quickly going to develop a rep for being a mean person.

I've had a very short temper in my past. Its something i had to change, the world wont change to suit my desires, unfortunately. Being social has its benefits, but one of the downsides (if you want to call it that) is you do have to tone down selfish desires and harsh responses if you don't want to be disliked.

People annoy the hell out of me sometimes, but the trick is not to express that annoyance. Rarely does it do any good. Its just a wasted or even hurtful emotion to express most of the time.

Try to honestly understand the other persons point of view. No, i mean REALLY understand their point of view. Once you do its hard to be annoyed with them. Once you really empathise fully with someone, you basically "become" them in a sense, and its very difficult to stay mad at someone you fully empathise with.

As much as we might like to intellectualize everything and have everything be based around "common sense logic" sometimes that just needs to be set aside and caring / concern / tenderness take its place.

[Scary Guy]

Oh I see their point of view, I just don't care about it.

[creatureofthenyte]

Lack of tolerance is going to be seen as "mean". You might not WANT to be seen as mean, but its not really what you want that matters , it what you do to others. If you come off as very short, and insensitive/intolerant (getting annoyed easily) then your quickly going to develop a rep for being a mean person.

I've had a very short temper in my past. Its something i had to change, the world wont change to suit my desires, unfortunately. Being social has its benefits, but one of the downsides (if you want to call it that) is you do have to tone down selfish desires and harsh responses if you don't want to be disliked.

People annoy the hell out of me sometimes, but the trick is not to express that annoyance. Rarely does it do any good. Its just a wasted or even hurtful emotion to express most of the time.

Try to honestly understand the other persons point of view. No, i mean REALLY understand their point of view. Once you do its hard to be annoyed with them. Once you really empathise fully with someone, you basically "become" them in a sense, and its very difficult to stay mad at someone you fully empathise with.

As much as we might like to intellectualize everything and have everything be based around "common sense logic" sometimes that just needs to be set aside and caring / concern / tenderness take its place.

Ah yes Troy,

Walk a mile in their shoes and then we won't be mad at them.

Good point.

But,

sometimes,

people just get on ya last nerve,

and or they catch ya on a bad day,

and WHAM!

a can of shutthefuckup gets opened and poured all over them.

It is good to show restraint in most cases as you suggest,

but sometimes,

enough is enough,

ya can only take so much.

[sass_in_the_pants]

Try to honestly understand the other persons point of view. No, i mean REALLY understand their point of view. Once you do its hard to be annoyed with them. Once you really empathise fully with someone, you basically "become" them in a sense, and its very difficult to stay mad at someone you fully empathise with.

So true, so true. It's funny, my mom and her sister fight like cats and dogs. They're always snipping at eachother. They're both over 60 now, you'd think they would have figured out how to kiss and make nice. And the reason they still snip at eachother is because they just don't 'get' eachother. When my aunt is genuinely trying to help, it comes off as snotty and pretentious. When my mom is trying to help, she comes off as condescending. Maybe they just should stop trying to help eachother. In the end, neither of them really tries to 'interpret' what the other person said and so they put their own little spin on eachother's comments and end up right back where they started, which is thinking that the other person is a bitch.

Sigh.

Parents. When will they ever learn?

[saechalyn]

Oh I see their point of view, I just don't care about it.

*snicker*

[LuluVox]

Oh I see their point of view, I just don't care about it.

Amen and hallelujah. It's hard to care when said person's point of view is fueled by their own denial and nothing remotely resembling rational thought.

[Scary Guy]

Amen and hallelujah. It's hard to care when said person's point of view is fueled by their own denial and nothing remotely resembling rational thought.

Agreed, at lest make it interesting enough for me to be entertained by it.

"My toaster quit working so I hit it, then I named it (after a woman I used to like) because apparently she likes to be hit too so it makes sense"

Apparently she's engaged to this abusive asshole which my friend is abusive too, but it's more of an annoying abusive and not a "why do you make me do this to you" type of abusive.

Point is at least his problems aren't dull and boring like a good majority of my other friends.