Are You Happy?

[Sybil]

I probably the most miserable I have ever been in my life, but it's not due to my relationship. Michigan is not my home and well I miss home and thats why I so fucking unhappy.

:counts down the days::

Poor grrl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

*HUG*

I hated Michigan when I first moved here from Alabama. Total opposites MI and AL..

Where is your home? (I just hijacked my own thread..

[LuluVox]

Poor grrl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

*HUG*

I hated Michigan when I first moved here from Alabama. Total opposites MI and AL..

Where is your home? (I just hijacked my own thread..

(furthers the jack) Sybil, you're from Alabama?! I'm from Rome, Georgia -- it's like two seconds from the AL border. I miss the South sometimes, which is weird to me because I always thought I hated it while I was there.

[Sybil]

Happiness isn't something that you just wish out of the void, it takes time to get there and I have done some stupid shit the past 8 or 9 months that I wish I could go back and wipe out, but thats life, I am back on the track to where I want to be, I have a great circle of friends, I am out doing things again and I don't feel like I am babysitting anymore, so ya things are increasingly getting better and I have learned alot of life lessons in the past year or so...so I guess it wasn't a total loss. I honestly couldn't ask for much more.......except maybee a mexican pizza lol

HIGHFIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(..esPECially the mexican pizza... ..totally just made my stomache grOOOWWWl..)

[Sybil]

Oh... you mean in relationships... heheh... this is akward. :D

No... not just relationship wise.....

I was asking happiness.. whether single.. dating married..

I was asking a question about the "quality of each persons life" Are you Happy?

If yes if no........ also daily advice.. we can all share with one another and possibly do someone some major good!!!!!!

Like your other post about your life..

R O C K E D...

perfect A+ post!!!!!!!

..you probably helped 10 people.

Life is hugely about attitude.

We make choices.. mistakes.. and take what comes after.... attitude and change and love and ..... if you added all of our ages together, there is years and years and years worth of experience on DGN.

I want to learn something from each person here.

Thanks for posting CIX!!!!!!!!

LOVED IT.

..made me tear up and i feel proud of you too...

You "own" your life.

Its refreshing to hear such honesty.

[Sybil]

Happy?

Happy? there's one that requires some definition dont you think? there are so many different levels of understanding when it comes to that word....

I love my wife and yes on paper we are "happy". We are close.

But I love me first, and i dont mean that in a self centered manner or selfish way, I just mean that the older i get the more I realize how I cannot contribute much to anyone or anything when I'm not secure with ME.

and being secure with me means dealing with me. all of me. I'm almost 41. I'm still dealing with me. But - I've been doing it long enough now that even the process itself - makes me "happy".... I said to a lovely and fair freckled friend yesterday that even wrestling with something is a form of progress - because your engaged with it - you have to look at something to wrestle with it, and that is part of the healing process. I admire people who deal with their shit. Doesent mean they always find an answer, but I admire the effort that humility requires, and humility is dealing with yourself.

I sometimes wish we'd learn to give ourselves permission to strip everything down to the core of who we are and then slowly work up from there an issue at a time. But this world doesent really allow you that - its too chaotic, unless of course you say fuck it and rebel and dont listen to the world but then you've got some mighty big balls for ignoring the crowd dont you????

so there you go, takes balls to be happy.

*blinks away the tears*

Well....

Very passionate answer.

And thanks for taking it a little deeper with a definition.. thanks for being so honest!!!!

(i think i am going to print out this thread... all the things here are very special... feel like i am learning a little something FROM and ABOUT you.. all!!!)

Thanks for this, again.

It does take balls to be happy.. to WORK things out.. to suffer through things and still smile at the end of the day.

[Msterbeau]

So..

Are ya happy?

[Homicidalheathen]

Cix has replaced me??? Wah!

Marc deserves so much more. Peeps hook him up!

[Sybil]

(furthers the jack) Sybil, you're from Alabama?! I'm from Rome, Georgia -- it's like two seconds from the AL border. I miss the South sometimes, which is weird to me because I always thought I hated it while I was there.

HOLY SH......

really?!?!?! were you born down there?!?!

i was born in AL and lived there til i was 15..

OH I HATED IT HERE when i started school... and it was just horrible..

*laughs*

I was too sensitive for Michigan at first.. haha thru WAY TOO MANY mistakes and experiences i have learned to cope.. and enjoy people.. and situations.. even when i hate it i can find the sarcastic enjoyment in it..

hahaha

make sense?!?!?!

how cool though... i wonder if we were neighbors?????????

small f'in world, huh?

[Sybil]

aww..

*runs to hug Marc..*

COME H O M E!!!!!!!!

[creatureofthenyte]

The novelty of hearin multiple people say: Holy shit You got a haircut!! is wearing off I think.

[freydis]

Yeah. I am.

[Fierce Critter]

Copy/pasted directly from my response in the related poll.

I'm going to own up and have the courage to admit things haven't been totally perfect for us here and there for a while.

But recently, things have MUCH MUCH improved, and I think some of our best times are ahead of us.

Shit happens. Outside influences intrude. Battle lines are drawn. Saves are made, losses are mourned.

And in the end, I think we'll end up very happy, cantankerous old geezers together. It'll be 9 years this October. I don't see a future with us NOT together.

Overall, I believe we're happier than most. We've struggled since day 1 due to lots of variables. And I think that makes it easier actually to attack problems that come along - we're used to it, basically.

Every hurdle we jump just gives us a little relief when we clear it sucessfully - which, thusfar, we always have. And come out the stronger, with more understandings & lessons learned.

In the end, as the saying goes, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.

And we ain't dead

[Sybil]

Happy.

At this point in life, I scorn happy. Happy has largely come to mean complacent for me, and I'm tired of acting complacent, if not exactly feeling it. What I can do to change, I am doing.

If that's a cryptic answer, I apologize, it's the best I can give.

"What I can do to change I am doing"

*screams and cheers and woots!*

*clears throat*

Good for you man.

[Sybil]

Copy/pasted directly from my response in the related poll.

I'm going to own up and have the courage to admit things haven't been totally perfect for us here and there for a while.

But recently, things have MUCH MUCH improved, and I think some of our best times are ahead of us.

Shit happens. Outside influences intrude. Battle lines are drawn. Saves are made, losses are mourned.

And in the end, I think we'll end up very happy, cantankerous old geezers together. It'll be 9 years this October. I don't see a future with us NOT together.

Overall, I believe we're happier than most. We've struggled since day 1 due to lots of variables. And I think that makes it easier actually to attack problems that come along - we're used to it, basically.

Every hurdle we jump just gives us a little relief when we clear it sucessfully - which, thusfar, we always have. And come out the stronger, with more understandings & lessons learned.

In the end, as the saying goes, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.

And we ain't dead

Happy 9 years coming up!!!!!

I hope its the best year yet.

[ShyTears]

I'm in an incredibly bipolar relationship (probably because we both ARE).

but overall, I'd say I'm happy.

[violentivy]

My marriage is about the only thing in my life that always consistently makes me happy even when everything else goes to shit.

[EAF (1)]

No...I don't think I am really happy right now...i'm content with most things, but I feel incomplete in many ways still I guess...

[DarkVampire]

Are You Happy?

Certainly not.

[nilhil_glory]

i am single no prospects anymore

my life quaility is at 35%

i truly am not happy nor am i unhappy im in the endless rut of the inbetween

and i have no advice

and i dont feel violent enough to hit anything

[jcheeka]

some days happy some days not too much shit to deal with. My daughter is the the thing that makes me smile the most

[Crazed Vampyress]

I am single. I used to date and found that in relationships i am very unhappy. and i dont mean cuz i was with someone who made me unhappy, i mean im nucking futs and i made myself crazy in those relationships, every one of them, so i decided to stop dating. ive been happy ever since. im not saying i could never find someone special. (i actually have someone very very special who happens to live very very far away but is always close to my heart) i just dont like the rules and games in dating. im not a huge fan of monogamy. and i would rather spend my time getting to know interesting people on the 'friend' path then putting that effort into impressing or attracting a perspective mate. if a friendship happens to turn into more, cool. if not, cool. all is well. i am very content with my choices.

[Hellion]

Happy that I have a decent job,certain good friends and relatives,and no f%$king drama.

[SuZQZ]

I am happy and discontent at the same time... does that make sense?

[Msterbeau]

I am happy and discontent at the same time... does that make sense?

To me it does.

[Kit Kat P]

I am happy and discontent at the same time... does that make sense?

sounds like we're in the same rowboat