The Perils Of Dating

[Homicidalheathen]

I don't envy guys. The wooing.....time......energy and moods.....

Women are sooo demanding.

Men are deffinatly easier to please.

Here to all you guys go through......I had no idea it was so hard. It is soo much easier for women.

I talk to guys who take out personal ads with no responses...women, just get swamped, no matter what they look like or anything.

[Msterbeau]

I don't mind a bit. Except when I do.

[creatureofthenyte]

It takes a helluva lot more effort for guys to be successful at dating then it does for women.

You really have to want it very bad.

That's why its sooooo frustrating.

Why do we have to jump through sooo many goddamn hoops!!???

Despite the sound of what I just said, I like to try to keep a positive outlook on things in life.

However, when this topic comes up....

I begin to think about all that effort it takes....

And the fact that it will either pay off,

or it won't...

It really makes me question whether its really worth it anymore...

I see and hear about all the drama that can & does go on, and it makes me think being single isn't bad.

Definitely have to have nerves made of steel.

Until I meet someone good, I will be single.

For me anyway,

I believe, and this is My mindset on this;

The man and the woman have to want the relationship,

and have to equally commit to making it happen,

cuz if the equal commitment isnt there,

then they are just wasting time.

[Homicidalheathen]

Opening doors, paying for things....

I usually dont work so hard at pleasing anyone because it never pans out. But I will for girls, its wierd.....its like expected or something.

And I AM one.

[creatureofthenyte]

Opening doors, paying for things....

Opening doors, paying for dates...

That's 2nd nature for me.

[BrassFusion]

Opening doors, paying for things....

I usually dont work so hard at pleasing anyone because it never pans out. But I will for girls, its wierd.....its like expected or something.

And I AM one.

maybe you'll have more success dating women if you don't date stupid stuck-up bitches?

[SuZQZ]

maybe you'll have more success dating women if you don't date stupid stuck-up bitches?

Kudos! Well put!

[Msterbeau]

maybe you'll have more success dating women if you don't date stupid stuck-up bitches?

That... and no effort in = no good results.

[Kit Kat P]

I actually agree w/ HH. I told my gf that if we broke I'm sleeping w/ men again cause they are soo much easier (sorry guys) to deal w/. Although I got my gf cause I told her I wouldn't date her, maybe I'll just do that again.

[Head Wreck]

sorry ladies. i'm done chasing. either your interested or not. i might be interested but i wont move now. balls in your court, you want the heaqd wreck you put some effort in and COMMUNICATE. its that thing us men aparently do so badly but its hard and silly looking talking to thin air

[BrassFusion]

sorry ladies. i'm done chasing. either your interested or not. i might be interested but i wont move now. balls in your court, you want the heaqd wreck you put some effort in and COMMUNICATE. its that thing us men aparently do so badly but its hard and silly looking talking to thin air

i tried communicating, but you never return the perfurmed letter bombs

(if i can't have the head wreck... no one else can!!)

[TygerLili]

Women can be a pain(not that I've ever actually dated one, but just in general), but men are no picnic either.

Beyond that I'm not getting into the sex bashing because one particular man is irritating me right now, not necessarily the lot of them.

[Msterbeau]

i tried communicating, but you never return the perfurmed letter bombs

(if i can't have the head wreck... no one else can!!)

Did you put some anthrax spores in there too?

[BrassFusion]

Did you put some anthrax spores in there too?

time will tell

[FarrIL]

Women can definitely be a royal pain in the keester, especially if they EXPECT the guy to do things.

If I've got money, I let the guy know that I can pay if I have to. More often than not, the guy still pays for whatever was being purchased (( and since I dont expect a guy to get me an item of interest, like an article of clothing or such )), it's usually food, a drink or club cover.

I hold open the door if I get there first, but sometimes my guy still insists he hold open the door while I go inside.

But dating a stuck-up bitch...... dump her ass. If she automatically assumes that you're paying, tell her "This isnt how it's always going to be".... maybe she'll keep a little extra cash in her pocket, instead of splurging 250 bucks on a pair of jeans.

[Head Wreck]

i like the word splurge.

i allways wanted a splurge gun as a kid after watching buggsy malone.

back on topic.

ignore me i'm bitter and twisted.

[know_buddy_kares]

I got to the point where I realized, you know what, girls are just as worthless as guys. So why the fuck should I jump through so many damn hoops and put up with all the bullshit? Wake up call for me, I don't. I'll show I've an interest, but if they expect me to chase further, they're out of their fuckin mind. they can let one of those more worthless people chase after them, I'm not wasting my time. And when I do get a girl.. I have a zero tolerance policy for head games and needless drama. I have no problem being single actually, and If a girl can't behave herself and act as civilized as me, then I have no problems forgetting about her.

[CatsEyeOfTheWiccan]

The Dating Rules I expect:

If nervious on first date, start with Ice Breaks Like (Intrests, Music, Something seems intresting)..but note: if the date looks board on the topic switch it..before snoze in there brain thought patterns.

Hold the door open for the ladies and use your maners and clean your face while you eat your food.

Cheap dates and going on first dates don't nesery have to cost anything. Take a walk, go sit down somewhere and talk get to know eachother.

Don't bring up past relenshonships unless they bring up something tarouble that has happen and you can relate on that subject.

Be Thoughtfull, if you have a romantic side..

Look into the womans eyes and not there boobs or down at your shoes..guys you must do this or elese you look like that all you care about is T & A.

Also, don't glance at other woman in the room or any other objects in the room..rember the main focus on this date is you and her and nothing else expect food or what you are doing together.

Be senstive to eachothers feelings and no playing head games..games should only be played is Monopoly, Sorry or Go Fish or something game like that.

That is my advice..and I am dieing breed alot people tell me passing on some helpful hints.

-CatsEye

[Head Wreck]

I got to the point where I realized, you know what, girls are just as worthless as guys. So why the fuck should I jump through so many damn hoops and put up with all the bullshit? Wake up call for me, I don't. I'll show I've an interest, but if they expect me to chase further, they're out of their fuckin mind. they can let one of those more worthless people chase after them, I'm not wasting my time. And when I do get a girl.. I have a zero tolerance policy for head games and needless drama. I have no problem being single actually, and If a girl can't behave herself and act as civilized as me, then I have no problems forgetting about her.

he describes the conclusion i came to 4 years ago better than i did

[know_buddy_kares]

he describes the conclusion i came to 4 years ago better than i did

Ironicly, my path to comming to this conclusion started in august of 04... close to 4 years.. but don't feel bad dude, I sorta have a one track mind and I don't let shit rest until i figure it out completely.

[Morbid Side]

For just one day I would like to think like a woman.

[Head Wreck]

feel bad, nah, i now have mental stability. its a rather grand state.

i'm just not adept at putting things into words

[hunhee]

Hmm.. I don't know why, but maybe I'm just not in the practice of dating or any of this bullshit, OR I'm just not a normal girl.

I never expect anyone to open the door for me, in fact, I sometimes find it rather awkward.

When paying for dates, I always expect to pay my half, and I don't mind paying for the guy depending on the situation. Don't get me wrong, it's nice to have someone else pay, but I always think that something is expected from it, and I don't want to feel like I owe anyone or that anyone should expect THAT from me. I actually feel uncomfortable if someone else pays.

I would consider myself pretty low maintenance, I wouldn't expect to see you every day, I have my own shit going on, and I really don't have a lot of time to fit the "dating" shit in. So expect not to hear/see me all the time. I am not compromising my friends for a relationship, never again.

I tend to obsess over guys that are not interested in me. I hate the whole line "you're too good for me".

Forget the whole, "Don't talk about past relationships" bullshit. I WANT to hear about this stuff, this is usually a good indication of your character judgement. I'm not interested in spending my precious time with someone whom I don't feel worthy. I've learned that my time to me is more precious than gold.

I have found that I am the acception to many rules.

Some of the stuff you guys talk about makes me fear the whole dating thing. *shivers*

[creatureofthenyte]

I got to the point where I realized, you know what, girls are just as worthless as guys. So why the fuck should I jump through so many damn hoops and put up with all the bullshit? Wake up call for me, I don't. I'll show I've an interest, but if they expect me to chase further, they're out of their fuckin mind. they can let one of those more worthless people chase after them, I'm not wasting my time. And when I do get a girl.. I have a zero tolerance policy for head games and needless drama. I have no problem being single actually, and If a girl can't behave herself and act as civilized as me, then I have no problems forgetting about her.

HW 2nd's this, and I 3rd this.

[Homicidalheathen]

Well she is a bit um shallow and didn't show up anyway but I had a good time without her.

maybe you'll have more success dating women if you don't date stupid stuck-up bitches?