How Long Have You Known

[Homicidalheathen]

I have hung out with this one lady since we were babies. Seriously. My mom and her mom are friends. Thats like at least 41-42 yrs, just saw her the other day and I know besides my significant other, that is someone I can count on no matter what forever. I am pretty sure about a few more but with her yah we always are down for each other no matter what even though we have grown so different over the years. We have nothing in common really but still have a great time hanging out like when we were kids at slumber parties.

[Gaf The Horse With Tears]

well... my friend that I was close to from babies age died when we were 25....

I am still in contact with my first girl friend from age 11... so 30 years there....

but my best friend was from high school... so... 23-25 years

[Shade Everdark]

I've known my closest friend for about 10 years, give or take. Of course, she lives in Texas and I have lived either here in Michigan or back in Wisconsin for all of those 10 years, so, uh....yeah.

[saechalyn]

I have 2 close friends from college, so 11 years. I was in contact with some high school people until about last year but I chose to end those relationships.

[Nienna]

I met my best friend in Kindergarten, so I'd say about 24 years now. We're totally opposite people but love eachother like sisters. My other close girlfriend I've known for umm... like 14 years. I'm still very close with my high school BF too.. 12 years there and counting. I guess I just keep people. The average time that I've known most of my friends right now is 10 years.

[Scary Guy]

This assumes one has friends.

But seriously, I still talk to a couple people from high school. Not that I'd call many of them "friends" but it's good to keep in touch.

Actual friends I've known about 6-7 years, mostly like minded people from the club. A few who own hearses but those are kinda new.

[SuZQZ]

I've known my best friend for 20 years. We do anything for each other, including 3 am phone calls to move! We have different tastes in movies and music, etc., but that never mattered. We laugh over the same things and have the generally the same values so we've been able to appreciate our likes and respect the areas we differ in views on.

[Msterbeau]

I have occasional contact with a woman friend I started out knowing in first grade. So that would be about 34 years...

[kellygrrrrrl]

me and my friend Jen have been BF's since I was in 9th grade.

thats 15 years now.

[Fierce Critter]

I SERIOUSLY envy people who have long-term friends. People who kept friends they hung out with in high school. Elementary school even.

I have no friends. (Steven - in advance, I think you for your anticipated rebuttal to that, but you know what I'm talking about here )

Jon is my only friend. And I will have been married to him 9 years this Thursday.

And I blame myself. As I mentioned in the "judgment" thread, I was a horribly judgmental person growing up. And if I felt the least slighted or not someone's first choice of what to do with a day (I'm going to a picnic with Debbie today. WHY? AREN'T I MORE FUN THAN DEBBIE?), all of a sudden my "friend" was not worth my time.

I SOOOOOOOOO regret that, I can't even put it adequately into words.

I had a "best friend" in elementary school. Tricia. And Tricia was a BlueBird (Campfire Girls equivalent of Brownie). And I wasn't. And as she got more active with the Bluebirds, I saw less and less of her. Then I moved from Lincoln Park to Taylor when I was 8. I had Tricia over for a sleepover once after moving, and after that, we lost touch.

I had some friends in elementary school. The ones I was most friendly with ended up going to a different high school, and again, we lost touch.

I was such a loner in high school. I had a lot of people who knew who I was, because I was one of the few crazy punk girls. But I didn't know them.

And I was a tight-assed, conservative little twat. So if someone showed signs of doing things like drinking, or having sex, all of a sudden I was too good for them.

I made some friends over the years once I learned to loosen up, lower my standards reasonably, and accept people for who they are, and learned to share my friends with others. But by then, it was too late. I was no longer living a life that really exposed me to very many people. It's gotten worse since marrying Jon. I don't work out of the house anymore, so I don't meet people via co-workers. I don't belong to any clubs or guilds or anything like that. I just plain don't meet people.

I have met some very, very cool people through DGN. This is really, really sad & pathetic, but I really can't think of anyone I have as a friend right now who isn't on or from DGN.

I've hung out with a couple DGN'ers, and had a couple express a wish to get together with me outside of the occasional meet-up at CC. But let's add this fucking depression to the mix, and now even though I want to make friends, hang out and have fun, I have a lot of trouble making or going through with plans to get together with people. I never used to be rude and just skip out on things like I am now, and I hate it. I generally try not to plan things with people now because I could be having a "good day" when the plans are made, and by the time the day comes to get together, I'm having a "bad day" and just want to stay home on this fucking computer.

I just recently tracked Tricia down online. And e-mailed her and she was very happy to hear from me. But mutedly so. She now is divorced with a couple kids. So she has that "I have kids now and not a lot of time" thing going on that is preventing us from getting together. Also, I'm sure she remembers the bitch I used to be, and I don't blame her for not really wanting to hook up.

You know, I'm really social. I love going to CC and talking to people. I enjoy it more than dancing there now. And I want to have a nice place to live and invite people over for parties and stuff. But I have issues and mental problems to work out before I think I can send out invites.

[Nienna]

Critter - I can sort of relate, but instead of pushing people away I cling like saran wrap. LOL In social situations, I won't talk to strangers unless a friend introduces me to them first. It sucks.

So in my round about way I guess I'm saying I get what you're saying. LOL

[Falstaff]

Weird. After reading through this, I noticed that I only have 2 friends that I've known for less than 10 years.

[Homicidalheathen]

that made me sad. How did he/she pass, if you don't mind my asking.....?

well... my friend that I was close to from babies age died when we were 25....

I am still in contact with my first girl friend from age 11... so 30 years there....

but my best friend was from high school... so... 23-25 years

[Nienna]

Weird. After reading through this, I noticed that I only have 2 friends that I've known for less than 10 years.

I'm in a similar boat, there's more than 2, but no many of them CLOSE friends. I'm lucky to have them, but I can't help but think there's something wrong with me that I'm just not meeting new people.

[torn asunder]

heh... oldest friend? (not age, but longest known, right?) first, define "friend"... someone you hang out with on a regular basis? or someone you talk to ocassionally? aside from gauge, i don't hang out with anyone, even semi-regularly, so i'd have to say zero years, zero months, and zero days...

[sass_in_the_pants]

Does my sister count? I've known her my whole life and I like that girl to pieces.

And there are four girls I have been friends with since birth. One of them, Michelle, she and I even shared an apartment for a few years. My mother stood up in her mother's wedding. She stood up in my wedding, and I will stand up in hers. Once my girls are old enough, her girls will babysit for them.

I dunno. I meet good people. I try to hold onto them.

Funny thing...Guy asked me my relation to 'aunt Helene'. It's like this. Helene's mother was neighbors with my GRANDMOTHER back in Pennsylvania when they were kids. They all liked eachother so much, they moved to Chicago together. And they all still liked eachother enough to move to Detroit together in the 50s. Helene and my mom became friends. Her kids and I are friends. It's just strange to thing that the friendship between our two families goes back ninety-eight years. You don't see that much nowadays I would imagine.

[odims_sphere]

Phee is the oldest friend I still hang out with regularly, and that's been since what... '93ish? so uh... like 14 years.

[GothicRavenGoddess (3)]

I have known my best friend sherry for 8 years now. i haven't seen her in the same amount of time, but we keep in touch online. im gonna go see her this summer. we are exact opposites, she's all about color, and i am not, she's always happy, and i am happy being depressed (my best poetry comes when im depressed)... it keeps going.. but i love her to death, and consider her my sister.

[Nienna]

Does my sister count? I've known her my whole life and I like that girl to pieces.

And there are four girls I have been friends with since birth. One of them, Michelle, she and I even shared an apartment for a few years. My mother stood up in her mother's wedding. She stood up in my wedding, and I will stand up in hers. Once my girls are old enough, her girls will babysit for them.

I dunno. I meet good people. I try to hold onto them.

Funny thing...Guy asked me my relation to 'aunt Helene'. It's like this. Helene's mother was neighbors with my GRANDMOTHER back in Pennsylvania when they were kids. They all liked eachother so much, they moved to Chicago together. And they all still liked eachother enough to move to Detroit together in the 50s. Helene and my mom became friends. Her kids and I are friends. It's just strange to thing that the friendship between our two families goes back ninety-eight years. You don't see that much nowadays I would imagine.

This is awesome actually!

[know_buddy_kares]

I've known mine all the way back since high school. There's a few others i'm close to as well but haven't known all that long yet.

[Head Wreck]

one friend from i gues the age of 4 years old

[bean]

15 years - my best friend

[Scales]

With family I have one cousin I am close with and I've known almost all of my life.

I have a friend I've known since early high school or middle school who introduced me to skating and ozzy; I hang out with him just about every week, we caused so much trouble back in school, it was great. I have another friend I've known since high school who thinks of me as his brother, and his gf and him are pretty cool. So I hang out with these two guys and the one's gf sometimes during the weekends.

Then I have two other close friends I met in High School, and I hang out with them, sometimes for days, we film funny crap.

So as far as the close friends I've known a long time, that I keep in touch with in person, that's it.

[Draco1958]

33 years for one friend and I. Went to Highschool together. Been thru thick and thin. I'd do whatever I could for her and her family and she would do the same for me. 21 years for 3 other friends. I don't have alot of friends. I have some from here and slowly am making more I am happy to say.