I've Come To The Conclusion....

[GOREgeouslyDecorated]

like at first it's kind of funnie, but when he keeps going and I stop laughing he just doesnt seem to get that it bothers me - and he knows that I'm sensitive about my weight right now 'cos this is the heaviest I've ever been - but I'm also taking steps to improve myself... not for him, but for me - idk - some times I think he gets a kick out of emotionally damaging me... the whole thing is hard to explain... he treats me like gold and says some or the sweetest things to me, like the shit you only hear in romantic movies, but then he also likes to poke fun at me about things that I'm really insecure about...

[Morbid Side]

You deserve better then that.

[SuZQZ]

he happened to come across a blog I wrote and apologized - he didn't realize how much it was upsetting me... so he'll prolly cut it out or I'll take the 'break-up' jokes advise, LOL

Glad to hear that he apologized and now knows how his "jokes" hurt you. He sounds a lot like my dad. Good guy, but can be really inconsiderate sometimes. He just doesn't see that he's doing it. He makes jokes or takes teasing too far, then gets hurt when people get pissed at him. Honestly, he just doesn't see where he's the one taking things too far.

I hope your bf is able to curb his teasing/joking now that he sees how it affects you and you guys can keep moving forward.

[bean]

... that your boyfriend can only make so many fat jokes before they stop being jokes to you

:'(

time for a lifestyle change....

It's not funny the first time.

Punch him in the nuts.

[Smothered Hope]

Controllers use verbal abuse to subtly undermine their victim's perceptions, to manipulate them into doing what they want, to foster dependency, to isolate them from truth, from outside contact and even from their own children. They may withhold information while lying to their victim.. Controllers create confusion, emotional pain and mental anguish, while periodically "rescuing" their victim by seeming to offer the balm of love that alleviates the victim's pain drawing the victim ever closer. Controllers gain and maintain power over people while often presenting a perfect persona to the world.

I just grabbed this randomly off google, search "verbal abuse" and you might see some simularities.

I hope this doesn't refer to you, but if it does, seek help and/or conseling rite quick.

[Smothered Hope]

I like Bean's Idea better

[bean]

ETERNAL, READ THIS NOW NOW NOW!!!:

Controllers use verbal abuse to subtly undermine their victim's perceptions, to manipulate them into doing what they want, to foster dependency, to isolate them from truth, from outside contact and even from their own children. They may withhold information while lying to their victim.. Controllers create confusion, emotional pain and mental anguish, while periodically "rescuing" their victim by seeming to offer the balm of love that alleviates the victim's pain drawing the victim ever closer. Controllers gain and maintain power over people while often presenting a perfect persona to the world.

I just grabbed this randomly off google, search "verbal abuse" and you might see some simularities.

I hope this doesn't refer to you, but if it does, seek help and/or conseling rite quick.

this is what his ex has done for many many years. she still does this shit now.

I like Bean's Idea better

[Steven]

It's not funny the first time.

Punch him in the nuts.

have to admit.

I chuckled hardy.

10 points for Bean.

[bean]

have to admit.

I chuckled hardy.

10 points for Bean.

Yay! I made a funny and won points!

[bean]

he happened to come across a blog I wrote and apologized - he didn't realize how much it was upsetting me... so he'll prolly cut it out or I'll take the 'break-up' jokes advise, LOL

That's good he apologized. Hopefully he actually feels bad and really will cut that shit out. If he doesn't,

Punch him in the nuts.

[Rayne]

Seriously. You don't have to put up with it. There's no reason for a guy to act like that to ANY woman, let alone his gf.

I lived in that for awhile. It's not worth it. Not even a little bit. My first marriage, was hell when I look back at it. I just didn't know it then. One of the hardest things I have ever done was walk out that door. But I did it and as unsure about it as I was then, there's no questions now, I feel so much better that I did.

.... Oh, and I'm all for Bean's idea.

[phee]

I make fat jokes... but they are all about me.... having nothing to do with my honey

[xbittergracex]

some times I think he gets a kick out of emotionally damaging me...

...he treats me like gold and says some or the sweetest things to me, like the shit you only hear in romantic movies, but then he also likes to poke fun at me about things that I'm really insecure about...

w-what? did anyone else catch this??? Sweety, this is not a good relationship. There is no way in hell "sometimes I think he gets a kick out of emotionally damaging me" should ever enter your brain if you are with someone you care about.

And people come on....if any of you ever get the feeling that ANYBODY gets a 'kick out of emotionally damaging' you....friends, family, bf/gf...ANYBODY.....its time to walk away. I feel for you GOREgeouslyDecorated, because you are beautiful and that is not cool.

I was in a physically, sexually, and emotionally crippling relationship before....and you know what.....he said really sweet crap to me that you hear in movies....but you know what...it was just that....CRAP. He HAS to say that stuff so you can forget about the fat jokes he makes. Fuck him. Move on girl. You totally deserve better, and I don't even know you.

[GOREgeouslyDecorated]

he happened to come across this thread last night and now he feels like a dick 'cos he didnt realize how much it bothered me - but on the up side we had AMAZING make-up sex :-D

[Shade Everdark]

It's not funny the first time.

Punch him in the nuts.

Ahhh!

Cockpunch! Run away!

[Steven]

I make fat jokes... but they are all about me.... having nothing to do with my honey

smart man.

nothin sucks more than a good punch in the Huevos

[Destroit]

DAMNIT!

Bean Water stole my answer... *sniff* I'm SO telling on you!

...no fair. You owe me hugs/cookies at DGN bowling now .

[jadnifer]

I am sorry to have to be so blatantly honest about this hun but I was in a relationship that was almost the twin of yours. It is NEVER going to end. You need to find someone that cherishes you for your heart, NOT your body.

I have someone now that treats me like a princess and would never once even think about making a fat joke. If I would hve stayed with that butthole of an ex that I had, I would never have the man that I have today.

Just a little something for you to think about.

[bean]

DAMNIT!

Bean Water stole my answer... *sniff* I'm SO telling on you!

...no fair. You owe me hugs/cookies at DGN bowling now .

I was keeping the answer warm for you..you can have it back...

How about hugs and potato pancakes (latkes)?

[Steven]

I was keeping the answer warm for you..you can have it back...

How about hugs and potato pancakes (latkes)?

Holy shit Id go for it.

them tater cakes that Bean makes is dang good.