Should I? Should I Not

[honeymustard02]

There's a guy at work.

He's our LP guy. (lose prevention)

He's cute as hell and funny and nice and smart blah blah blah....BUT he's shy.

The other day we were talking and he was telling me drunken embarrassing stories of his past. Mentioned an Ex girlfriend and everything.

Well I just think he's making conversation but my friends say hes flirting and opening the door. Mind you the only time he talks like this to me is when no one is around. If someone else is around he won't speak about personal stuff. He'll give vague answers.

Im lost on this flirting stuff really. I dont see when someone is flirting or I dont believe they would with me.

Now Im like lost on should I kind of eek in there and risk making an ass of myself. Or pass on this as him just being friendly?

[n0Mad]

Just say something like, "Hey, wanna hang out sometime? I've been meaning to check out that new coffee shop so we should meet up there sometime." And just take it from there. Build on your friendship and see where it goes.

[Destroit]

Meh, I'd give it some time and see what happens.

Well then again, how long has this been going on for?

There's certain signs to look for too, like simple shoulder touches for instance, body language, etc. Go into some more detail and maybe we'll all be able to see a better picture and give you more sound advice.

[honeymustard02]

Well since it's at work there's really no touching. So that's the sucky part.

Theres the whole turning to me and like pay attention to only me. But when someone else walks up he almost spooks and takes off.

Not to mention I pick on him a little (nicely) and his feathers get ruffled SOOOOO fast it's sooo cute.

[Homicidalheathen]

I have a strict no date people at work policy.......

But thats for me. Do what your heart tells you.

[Head Wreck]

she who dares wins

[creatureofthenyte]

If you want him, just open yer mouth and say so. Good luck though. I think its a double edged sword getting involved with someone you work with though. If things go well, then you get to see them every day in and out of work. But if they don't go well, it turns into: Oh good grief, I gotta go to work and see him/her again.

Nevertheless, I say go for it, and even if nothing comes of it, its better to have given it a shot then to sit around wondering what if.....

[honeymustard02]

I think Im going to go for it.

See we work together, but he does something completely different. So he really is hardly around me unless he needs something or chooses to be. So that's a plus.

I just am really interested in him and he seems open to something. We'll find out.

I need to be less then a wuss. What's the worse that can happen, he says no.

[creatureofthenyte]

I don't think you're being a wuss. I think youz gots guts!

Do you know how Rare an occurrance it is, for a woman to persue and ask a guy out these days?

Its just "not" done, well except in your case.

That guy better say yes and go for you, he's a jackass if he doesn't.

[Homicidalheathen]

It can be very awkward to.......one of you could lose your job..........but.........I do know one happy couple where it was worth it. She hated her job anyway, they are married now and she works someplace else.......but they had both worked at some place in

Troy where its against the rules.....you should read the employee rules first.

[TygerLili]

The working together thing would be an obstacle for me, too. But you could always just try hanging out with him outside work, and see where things go. At the very least, everyone needs another friend to hang out with, right?

[Msterbeau]

Kill him and eat his flesh. That is all...

[odims_sphere]

No. You shouldn't. You should ask me out instead. Turning someone down would give me the ego boost that I need to get through the day.

Wow that's extremely rude. If you're joking , (which I hope you are), please make it a little more clear that it's a joke, for example "j/k", "joking", or some sort of smiley that would clear it up.

If you're not joking might I remind you of Rule number 1:

Play Nice. Unlike a lot of boards, we like to try and keep ours jerk-free.

You should feel comfortable to express your opinions freely, even if they might be unpopular opinions - we're not going for a homogenized, dull community here. But when voicing an opinion, always do so with tact and avoid inciting others.

[odims_sphere]

Of course I was joking. You think anyone admits that sort of thing seriously or openly? I figured that it would have been an insult to the reader's sense of humor to think that such obvious sarcasm needed a J/K at the end to reassure them.

Thank you for clearing it up. We sometimes have to keep in mind that what we write and think does not always translate well into text.

I now consider this matter closed and no need for further discussion on the matter.

I now return you to your regularly scheduled thread.

[honeymustard02]

Well see we work at the same place. But he is provided to our company from another company. I am also going to be switching to a shift where I wont see him at all. Right now it's iffy because his job somewhat connects with mine.

As said above, even if it is just hanging out it will be cool. He plays video games and I can't find enough guys for that

Also asking a guy out.....I just figure I should just go for what I want. I know there's a lot of guys who are just too shy for it or whatever.

He wasnt at work yesterday so I'll keep ya posted on what happens!

[creatureofthenyte]

[Miranda]

I think you should ask him to hang out with you too. Life is too short for "What If?" You are absolutely correct, all he can do is say "No". Hope things work well for you.

[jadnifer]

The worst he can say is, "I'm sorry, but I'm not interested."

I have asked guys out before. Yes, it's a scary thing, but if they say yes then bonus for you. If they say no you still talk to them and you still have a friend.

The best way would be asking him to go out and do something simple, like going for a cup of coffee.

The work thing can be iffy, but if it's what you really want, go for it, full steam ahead!!

[sass_in_the_pants]

Okay, I'm dying to know.

What happened? And if the answer is 'nothing yet' I give you until Friday. Come on girl, it's an at-work relationship! Of course there's going to be deadlines!!!

[honeymustard02]

Lmao the pressure the pressure!!

Nothing yet. I talked to him today but I couldnt work up to it. *sigh* But he was my accomplise in stealing our boss' candy :D

I have to get my check to tomorrow so I'll TRY then.

[pharoh]

Personally, I have found dating co-workers to be bad ju ju.....HH is right with this stuff and I think you should tread lightly, you haven't hung out with this guy outside of work (didn't read it so I am assuming), so he could be a totally different person as well.

I had a stalker for almost a year when I boofed a chick I worked with after the ex fiance and I broke up some years ago, wasn't cool at all......

If you made your mind up just be careful.

[honeymustard02]

Ok so as an update.

I managed to ask him to a movie.

Turned me down :/

Oh well......

[hunhee]

That boy has issues.. Maybe he was busy that day/time or didn't want to see that particular movie.. trust me, it has more to do with him than you, because you're HOT (i say that in a non-bi way) :D

I actually quit a job once because my immediate supervisor and I were getting a little TOO close, and I think the feeling was very very mutual. I wasn't ready to give up my current, and I wasn't about to interfere with his current, so I felt leaving the position (besides the fact I got a better offer) was to my better interests.

[honeymustard02]

Well I know he wasnt in on the movie, but he didnt seem interested in the plan period.

Although that day he talked to me a LOT until like another guy was around then he'd like leave.

IDK man........Too many good guys but none of them seem to be interested in more then getting in my pants.

[hunhee]

Well I know he wasnt in on the movie, but he didnt seem interested in the plan period.

Although that day he talked to me a LOT until like another guy was around then he'd like leave.

IDK man........Too many good guys but none of them seem to be interested in more then getting in my pants.

haha I know that one all too well. Hang in there, lots of good guys out there that want more than just what's in your pants