Polys And Monos

[Simon Bar Sinister]

3-person civil union in Brazil: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-latin-america-19402508

[Riochat]

3-person civil union in Brazil: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-latin-america-19402508

thats about damn near my ideal.....

[Simon Bar Sinister]

I think marriage is silly - at best - but, if your society is going to have it, there's no justification for not allowing more than two consenting adults to marry each other.

[Riochat]

I think marriage is silly - at best - but, if your society is going to have it, there's no justification for not allowing more than two consenting adults to marry each other.

not against marriage... as long as people are open minded to the fact that tastes, opinions etc grow/change through life and people need to be openminded and supportive of this

[Illuminatrix]

The concept of marriage boggles me.

But on topic, terms of committed relationships, I see no problem in having more than one partner if everyone puts forth the required effort. It seems to have more benefits and less pressure.

[kat (1)]

I'm mono when with someone, in a relationship ..holy hell I can barely deal with one persons crap, how do you polys deal with multiples...I am guessing lots of zanax.

Edited September 18, 2012 by kat

[torn asunder]

I'm mono when with someone, in a relationship ..holy hell I can barely deal with one persons crap, how do you polys deal with multiples...I am guessing lots of zanax.

takes the right people...

[theremper]

This is a topic very near to me as my wife and I are poly. She has a boyfriend that lives with us and it works out just fine. I on the other hand find it difficult to meet people and making that connection.

Yes there is work involved but the reward out ways the work.

[Class-Punk]

I'm monogamous. I usually warm up to people very slowly and get pretty attached. I'm not a misanthrope, but I have a feeling where knowing and trusting one woman really well, is way better than being with a lot of women who could stab you in the back an endless number of creative ways. I'm single and my reply to most drama already is usually deathly silence because its all so stupid, even when its fun.

I don't think "people change" is much of an argument against monogamy. It could be arguable that the people more likely to change over time are polygamous, since they crave change in romantic relationships. From my perspective, one isn't better than the other because it pretty much all depends on personality.

[Shaun]

Maybe its cause I read to much Heinlein growing up but the idea of poly relationships doesn't bother me at all. If you haven't read any of his stuff most of his adult books involve group marriages (like 10-15 people sometimes). I don't think I could ever manage one myself though. Too much potential for hurt feelings or jealousy. That's more of a personal failing though.