I give up on relationships

[Msterbeau]

I've given up on relationships, BUT... I'm definitely not going celibate.

Time, my friend.... just give it time. And do some heavy thinking about yourself... Often our troubles with others start from within. Make adjustments there before blaming the world for your problems.

[hunhee]

Luckily for relationships, they are non-corporeal, so they NEVER GIVE UP!!! *dons mad scientist look* MuauaHAHAHAH

[Simon Bar Sinister]

To paraphrase Mark Twain, giving up on relationships is easy - I've done it dozens of times.

[TygerLili]

I don't think "giving up" on relationships is the answer, but sometimes everyone needs to take a relationship hiatus for a while, particularly after a string of bad relationships. It's good to just take time to reflect on those relationships, and ponder what you're doing wrong, or why you keep picking people you're not compatible with. It helps you figure out how to avoid those mistakes in the future.

I gave up on a love relationships. I currently make friends and bang friends. No strings attached. I love it. Im over the whole I can only bang the person Im in love with or in a relationship with. I just make friends and I tell them straight up, Im not looking for love just friendship and if we go futher than friends and fuck well then lets fuck. I hate relationships. THEY ARE A MOTHERFUCKING WASTE OF MY TIME. I agree. FUCK relationships. Just have FUN, DRINK, PARTY AND FUCK.

While I think you're too young to completely give up on relationships, I think you are kind of on the right track. If it's not what you want right now, then don't tie yourself down. You can always change your mind later if something starts to develop. So many people rush into serious relationships because they think that they can't have sex unless they are committed to the person, then wonder why things fall apart so quickly. If you want sex then just have sex. As long as you're safe about it, why wait for a relationship, or commit to someone you're not sure about. I usually make guys wait at least 3-4 weeks before they are even allowed to refer to themselves as my "boyfriend."

[JaneDead]

i did not read any of this. not even the original post. because i am only going to go on the topic title:

I give up on relationships

i have had a few bad relationships (my only serious ones were ALL bad) and i blamed them... i blamed myself... the what ifs and whys... blah blah blah.

the stress, the depression, the loneliness, they suck, i suck ... and then i realized:

i have never really tried to be with someone who would compliment me. who has the same goals in life as i do. goals that will make a relationship work.

i was with people that were "bad for me" (whether they are bad people in general or not is not the point ) and by doing that i was "bad for them" as well.

there was anger and pain and fighting and not understanding each other and lack of communication. the happiness goes away and then so does the love...

but

that does NOT MEAN RELATIONSHIPS CAN NOT WORK! because they can. and they do. and they are not always easy but if you do it right you can be with someone for 50, 60, 70 years... if you want.

and i have met people who have proved this. not many people, but enough for me to realize that a good, great, fantastic relationship can happen and you can be with someone who loves you and you love them. REALLY love them.

i thought i found that a couple of times but i was wrong.

but it does not make me want to give up- it makes me want to try harder!!!

[hunhee]

hehe.. "and I'm doing this as HARD as I can"

Sorry, back on topic.

Relationships.. can't we all just get along? (or have mad sex?)

Actually relationships DO work.. my parents are living proof, they're going to be celebrating their.. 43rd or something anniversary, and they were together (dating) four years before they got married.. so like yeah, relationships can work, and they can last, and they are very much in love with each other...

[thewhiterecluse]

*Sigh* Who ever said that it happens when you don't expect it. I give them kudos on that. I'm not saying that it has happened but someone has major potential right now.

[JaneDead]

*Sigh* Who ever said that it happens when you don't expect it. I give them kudos on that. I'm not saying that it has happened but someone has major potential right now.

i don't think it happens when you don't expect it.

i think it happens to people when they have a healthy outlook on it instead of "woe is me, i won't ever get anyone".

having positive energy radiating from you is going to attract others to you instead of make them want to run away

[phee]

i don't think it happens when you don't expect it.

i think it happens to people when they have a healthy outlook on it instead of "woe is me, i won't ever get anyone".

having positive energy radiating from you is going to attract others to you instead of make them want to run away

Or when you are really unhappy and are threadstalked by a hot chick on a goth board..... not that I would know

[hunhee]

Or when you are really unhappy and are threadstalked by a hot chick on a goth board..... not that I would know

How'd you know I was threadstalking you? My ninja skillz suck. :(

[TrixieGothGirl]

Yep I give up, I'm becoming a monk.

It's too bad that you feel so jaded for one so young. I do think though that as you get older, you will find the person that's right for you. Just my two cents worth. *hugs*

[asphyxian_doll]

I gave up...and im still giving up....and now everytime i find hope, something happens that makes me give up again!

and somehow giving up is extremely attractive....because i get hit on wayy too much.

[TygerLili]

The average person gives up on relationships 3.4 times throughout their life.

Ok, I totally made that up, but I'd bet it's pretty close to the truth.

[TrixieGothGirl]

I forgot to add something to my post. This Saturday (Aug. 16th) will be my 22nd wedding anniversary. Has it been easy being with someone for that long? HELL NO. Is it worth all the bs we've put each other through? You better believe it. If you love someone bad enough you'd go through hell fire itself for that person. We've had our bad times, but our good times (and counting) far outweigh the bad.

[asphyxian_doll]

Ok.

Im just tired of co-dependency and the toxic people i have had to deal with throughout my life.

I just don't date anymore, due to the fact that I am picky, and Its not that i wouldn't be willing to be with someone

no matter how hard it gets,

its just my views on love, and relationships are completely different from most, and i am much happier single.

I don't do well in relationships, and the people i tend to chose are never on the same page, and/or are toxic.

[Head Wreck]

i dont have the dependancy to be with someone just for the sake of that BS.

wasting both our times

[thewhiterecluse]

Yep I'm starting to agree with the idea of being alone. It's better to keep your sanity by yourself than to let someone else make you lose it. Oh wait a second, I'm already insane, damn.