I give up on relationships

[thewhiterecluse]

Yep I give up, I'm becoming a monk.

[Nerdcore]

hehe im in the same boat as u dear...

welcome to the club..

[sass_in_the_pants]

Trappist monks make beer.

I'm just sayin...you might be giving up some earthly goods, but not al of them...

[thewhiterecluse]

Well it falls under the same catagory as trust and honestly. Monks are known for being true to their way of life and honest to their God.

[littlepinkkitty]

monks dont do sexy time alone or otherwise

[thewhiterecluse]

Sexy time alone, I'm better off with my hands.

[Msterbeau]

monks dont do sexy time alone or otherwise

Are you sure?

[Troy Spiral (13)]

I think probably 90% of us have given up on relationships... multiple times. But the relationships just seem to keep coming back.

[Rev.Reverence]

I know allot of monks that do the nasty!

[thewhiterecluse]

I am better off alone. I still have myself and thats all I need.

[Oh_My_Goth]

Love is all around.....No ends.....No beginnings.....Don't be so hasty, go with the flow.....

[know_buddy_kares]

I can tell you one thing... you're now on the right path now that you've given up. I mean totally give up, don't even think of any possibility of ever hooking up with someone. Just go out, have fun and meet new friends. And trust me... it'll happen unexpectedly... but only when you totally stop thinking about it.

[thewhiterecluse]

I am through, bottom line. From the last and only 3 that kind of just happened in the past 5 years they all ended the same way.

[EAF (1)]

Hey even if your relationships suck right now just look at it this way, at least you've ever had a relationship at all...some people never have...

[thewhiterecluse]

If I could take back all of my relationships and be a virgin again, I would. I would then wait until marriage. But what's done is done. I've had two good relationships and one of them was ruined by parents finding out we were making love (we were way to young then). The other one was ruined because we simply lived to far away and neither one of us could drive. But we are still best friends till this day. I love her so much, she's always been there for me as my friend. She's the only one who really ever makes since. That's just it though, we weren't really meant to be together but we will always be friends. When I was younger love was so much more simple and honest, much more innocent also. Luckily I have only had 6 relationships total, but I did try the "friends with benefits with two". So yeah, 8 total "lovers" for me. I'm not really proud and honestly I am kind of ashamed. But anyways, the friends with benefits didn't work out, one got really clingy and jealous. Back then I was even more an asshole, because I was afraid of social status with her. I cared to much what other people thought. The other one we remained friends and she eventually got married. So yeah, that is the story of my love life. The other 4 simply didn't work out because we either, rushed it and or were completely different people who never really found that understanding for one another.

[hunhee]

heh .. trust me, relationships are way simpler when the heart isn't involved. Unfortunately, you can't have a relationship without the heart. It's a cache-22.

You're very right, love in it's infancy (young love) seems more simple, because it is. You were a more simpler person then than you are now, you now have more thoughts you've thought, ideals that you've pinned for yourself, experiences that you'd probably wished that were different.. meaning you have more expectations, thus making things more complex.

When I became single again, I thought I'd find that special someone that just made everything complete, and that I wouldn't settle for anything less than exactly what I wanted. The thing I didn't realize was that you have to be a complete whole person yourself before you add any unknowing party into your circle (this is for a healthy nurturing relationship).

I always hear these romantic movies spouting about how you have to find that one other person that completes you, this is a fallacy. You have to complete yourself, and THEN if you meet someone, they should enhance you and make you even better. They should also make you feel better about yourself. If the person you're with doesn't do this for you, you've got to be honest with that person and tell them it's not the right fit. Unfortunately herein lies the hard part, a lot of times, you're the type of person who doesn't want to hurt people, but trust me, it hurts more if you continue to live the lie, and the longer you put it off, the more hurt you will stand to cause in the long run.

KBK has a good point, just hang out with friends, go out with people as friends, somewhere you will find someone that you get along with, even if it's non-sexual, if it's fulfilling, you've succeeded.

I think we've all had this "give up" mentality. Unfortunately, our carnal human needs overrule (I don't mean need for sex, I mean our need to socialize, but sex is one of these factors that makes us socialize).

My best guess as to why we feel we need this bullshit is because for some reason, we have a need to feel "special" to someone. That need to feel "special" propels us to do really stupid shit with unfitting people sometimes.

[thewhiterecluse]

I understand now and I don't let it get in the way of my social needs. I still have friends, my real friends, whom I communicate on a day to day basis with. These people help me stay sane when I need someone to talk to. These people care about me for who I am and not who I have to be. The only problem is, I discovered who they are after I moved away. They will always be the roots of where I am from and will always be my truest of friends. Distance is unable to break our bonds, so therefore we will always remain true to each other. I discovered who still cared about me and missed me after I moved. As painful as it is to look back, I know now only to look forward happily with my new beginning knowing who my real friends are.

[Jordan]

monks dont do sexy time alone or otherwise

I would agree with kitty, there is someone for everyone. It comes when you least expect it.

[thewhiterecluse]

Eh, I'll live, I'm not the type of person who is "I have to have someone I'm so lonely, wwaaaahhhh!" I'll live, I'm kind of a loner anyways so it doesn't really bother me.

[Michiko_Dreads]

I gave up on a love relationships. I currently make friends and bang friends. No strings attached. I love it. Im over the whole I can only bang the person Im in love with or in a relationship with. I just make friends and I tell them straight up, Im not looking for love just friendship and if we go futher than friends and fuck well then lets fuck. I hate relationships. THEY ARE A MOTHERFUCKING WASTE OF MY TIME. I agree. FUCK relationships. Just have FUN, DRINK, PARTY AND FUCK.

[Homicidalheathen]

Heh I remember saying that. Until all my friends started settling down. I would find myself alone on holidays and late at night...

I got so lonely...

I never wanted kids then I questioned the existence of god and thought...will there be anything left of me when I die?

I had wasted 5 years partying....during which time my friend had a kid and it GREW. 5 yrs later I realized what I was wasting....missing...and settled down. That kid...I had not seen it since it was a baby and I could have sworn only 2 yrs had passed....it had been 5!

Just keep your mind and heart open...thats all i am saying.

I gave up on a love relationships. I currently make friends and bang friends. No strings attached. I love it. Im over the whole I can only bang the person Im in love with or in a relationship with. I just make friends and I tell them straight up, Im not looking for love just friendship and if we go futher than friends and fuck well then lets fuck. I hate relationships. THEY ARE A MOTHERFUCKING WASTE OF MY TIME. I agree. FUCK relationships. Just have FUN, DRINK, PARTY AND FUCK.

[thewhiterecluse]

Just keep your heart strong, nobody is worth ruining your emotions for and if it seems like it's not going to work out with the person break it off and try to just be friends. But if they go to the extreme and start talking bad about you before you can explain yourself then fuck them, they were never worth it.

[brandywine0880]

I was swimming with my best friend a few days ago when we brought up my ex. He and I separated around this time last year. It's kind of a joke because I claim he cursed me by leaving his stank on me, and now I can't even get a decent date. Anyways, as we swam around I got really upset, like this question hit me hard. I asked my friend, "I wonder if he really loved me? I wonder why it matters so much?" The end result isn't what concerns me. It's all the things we did along the way to get there. But like I said, why should this even matter to me anymore?

[thewhiterecluse]

I was swimming with my best friend a few days ago when we brought up my ex. He and I separated around this time last year. It's kind of a joke because I claim he cursed me by leaving his stank on me, and now I can't even get a decent date. Anyways, as we swam around I got really upset, like this question hit me hard. I asked my friend, "I wonder if he really loved me? I wonder why it matters so much?" The end result isn't what concerns me. It's all the things we did along the way to get there. But like I said, why should this even matter to me anymore?

It's okay, I thought my ex from 5 years ago cursed me. Before May of 2007 I hadn't had a girlfriend in 4 years or even a date. I thought I was just flat out cursed and hideous. I realized that I needed to make some changes with myself and to visualize what kind of person I wanted. I figured not to worry to much on it because it's a very slow process finding the right someone. I dreamed and still do that the someone I have in mind will come true.

[Pandora]

If I could take back all of my relationships and be a virgin again, I would. I would then wait until marriage. But what's done is done. I've had two good relationships and one of them was ruined by parents finding out we were making love (we were way to young then). The other one was ruined because we simply lived to far away and neither one of us could drive. But we are still best friends till this day. I love her so much, she's always been there for me as my friend. She's the only one who really ever makes since. That's just it though, we weren't really meant to be together but we will always be friends. When I was younger love was so much more simple and honest, much more innocent also. Luckily I have only had 6 relationships total, but I did try the "friends with benefits with two". So yeah, 8 total "lovers" for me. I'm not really proud and honestly I am kind of ashamed. But anyways, the friends with benefits didn't work out, one got really clingy and jealous. Back then I was even more an asshole, because I was afraid of social status with her. I cared to much what other people thought. The other one we remained friends and she eventually got married. So yeah, that is the story of my love life. The other 4 simply didn't work out because we either, rushed it and or were completely different people who never really found that understanding for one another.

Come onnnnn, without our past who would we be? Empty shells. We would be boring, inexperienced, naive. Our past prepares us for our present and our future.

I wasn't looking and Boom, it's happened for me. Granted it's the early days of our love (though we've been together almost 8 months) and there will be some rough times in the future, but I can't imagine being with anyone else, Ever. No one here knew me a year ago, but Trust me I really didn't think this would be happening for me. I was wrong.

You'll find your love too. Maybe not today, but live your life with purpose and hope and joy will come knocking.