Long Distance Relationships

[thewhiterecluse]

I did a long distance relationship one time and it drove me crazy, never again. It's one thing if you live in the same state and have to go awhile for awhile but it's another if she lives several hours away from where you live.

[TygerLili]

The thing is, you go through ups and downs. I'll have a few weeks where I feel like it's no big deal, that it's kind of nice to have my space and alone time and not have to plan around another person, to have the apartment to myself, to not have to deal with the extra mess, or to have to worry about meal planning for two people. Then something shifts, or I see cute, happy couples together and it makes me melancholy and jealous, and I just think it's really fucking unfair that I can't have that, that the situation is making me prematurely old and bitter, and that maybe LDRs are just a huge waste of time and energy. I'm not getting down on my relationship itself, but I hate the general concept.

Also, if you're in any way a jealous or insecure person it will NOT work. It will just cause you all kinds of grief. You have to be cool eith the fact that your SO is going to go to clubs and bars with out you, that they are going to meet and hang out with attractive members of the opposite sex, that they are probably going to flirt with others, and that they're going to have opportunities to cheat on you that you'll have to trust them not to take. If you don't trust them 100% then don't even bother.