2nd Best

[raven_madison17]

Lately..my boyfriend has been hanging out with a group of asian's.

Which I have no problem with. He love's asians. So you know, I think he's happy.

But lately, he's just to busy to talk to me because he's with his asians.

I've been the only one tryin to call him and everything, after he promised to always talk to me when he gets the chance, but he has to call me back later because

he's hanging out with his asians. I have to wait for call from him til one in the morning.

And everytime I get the chance to speak to him, all I hear about is his asians. How they do this or that.

He never asks me how I feel anymore, how my day was.

And when I tell him I want to talk to him because Im down or depressed or lonely,

he has to wait until he's done hanging out with his asians.

I feel like I've been pushed aside and 2nd best to these asian's of his.

And I hate it.

Has anyone ever felt 2nd best to anyone and anything. I know I sound like a baby and whiny and everything, but it really does hurt when they tell you that your first, only to be pushed aside like you were nothing before.

[jynxxxedangel]

I recently went through an experience like this. Your best bet is to let him go, before he shows his ass anymore than he already has.

He's made his choice already. Being cool and hanging out is MUCH more important than having a shortie who actually cares about him.

P.S. Be glad you found out the shape of his heart now, rather then after you moved in with him, or married him. You've saved yourself a lifetime of regret.

[Miranda]

Actions speak louder than words and if he is not making you feel cared about and is supposed to be your lover/man, then there's a major problem. I'm not sure where the Asian part ties in , aside from them being Asian. Is he Asian? I think you have to direct your anger at the individual who is deliberately upsetting you, not his friends. His friends can't force him to not call. Maybe they don't have a woman but he needs to keep remembering he does. I'd let him know exactly how I felt, regardless of how it made me look because I am just honest about what I am feeling. If he cares for you he will attempt to change and get with the program. If after the talk, you see no improvement whatsoever, time to walk away. Moving on isn't always easy but there is nothing worse than feeling alone when you have a lover. Sometimes you have to dump what needs to be dumped. *hugs*