Am I old Fashion?

[Michiko_Dreads]

Okay So Im no longer single.

Im getting engaged next month.

My one requirement for my boyfriend is that he asks my father for my hand.

I told my friends that and they all looked at me like I was nuts.

I feel its the right thing to do if my father is going to give me away.

So heres my question to you guys:

If your daughter was getting married would like her boyfriend to ask for her hand

instead of just getting married without your permission?

[Onyx]

I would love that, both for myself or for my daughter. I think it would be very sweet.

(Not that I would try to tell my kid who to marry). My daughter has a mind of her own, but she does ask my advice quite a bit which I am also quite happy about.

[Rev.Reverence]

ABSOLUTELY

[Brenda Starrr]

The boy had BETTER ask. We have guns, and we're not afraid to clean them in front of him.

[Msterbeau]

Marriage? What?

I'm probably not in a good place to be answering questions about marriage. I don't have plans to do that again, and neither does the person I'm interested in.

As for my daughters.. As long as they're happy I don't really care if they get married. I would like to meet the boy/girl that they shack up with at some point...

[creatureofthenyte]

Okay So Im no longer single.

Im getting engaged next month.

My one requirement for my boyfriend is that he asks my father for my hand.

I told my friends that and they all looked at me like I was nuts.

I feel its the right thing to do if my father is going to give me away.

So heres my question to you guys:

If your daughter was getting married would like her boyfriend to ask for her hand

instead of just getting married without your permission?

I would say that if I had a daughter, of marrying age, it would certainly speak volumes of the guy she's engaged to. I mean obviously if she were 18 yrs old or older, then she could just go get married and not care about that type of thing.

But yeah I would like that alot if my daughter's fiancee came to me to ask for my daughter's hand in marriage. So much tradition like that, has more or less fallen by the wayside these days. It's nice to see that some people still give a damn about stuff like that.

[Michiko_Dreads]

OMG YOU GUYS ARE SO GREAT. YOU GUYS SEE WHAT I MEAN. TO ME TRADITION IS KEY (to a point cuz u have to make your own too).

[Homicidalheathen]

Its not old fashioned really, my kids are now 20 and insist I meet the new boy...and If I or the other twin no likey...then yah...yah know, you marry into one's family. If your close to your dad...and he doesn't like him...will it work? Would you be willing to give up your family to be with someone?

It is the right thing to do if your father does the 'giving you away' thing, yes.

Your parents know you better than you know yourself sometimes and sometimes they see things you don't so...if your father is a good man then sure.

oh and congrats on your engagement!

[TheGimp]

The boy had BETTER ask. We have guns, and we're not afraid to clean them in front of him.

couldnt have said it better myself the guy better ask only seems respectful to do so i plan on asking the father of whoever my bride may be

[Ice Queen (1)]

if he can't do that for you, he won't be willing/able to do much else

[Msterbeau]

I would say that if I had a daughter, of marrying age, it would certainly speak volumes of the guy she's engaged to. I mean obviously if she were 18 yrs old or older, then she could just go get married and not care about that type of thing.

But yeah I would like that alot if my daughter's fiancee came to me to ask for my daughter's hand in marriage. So much tradition like that, has more or less fallen by the wayside these days. It's nice to see that some people still give a damn about stuff like that.

See.. Part of me gets that it's respectful for the boy to ask the parents. But then I think... Why doesn't the girl ask HIS parents if it's OK? And why should a person ask the parents if it's OK? It's their life.. let them do what they think is right. Are we supposed to treat them like property? What happens if a parent disapproves? Do you dump him? I would hope that my children talk about their partners with us and ask for advice when needed, but I have no expectations that that partner should ask my permission. It's not mine to give.

[Oh_My_Goth]

Okay So Im no longer single.

Im getting engaged next month.

My one requirement for my boyfriend is that he asks my father for my hand.

I told my friends that and they all looked at me like I was nuts.

I feel its the right thing to do if my father is going to give me away.

So heres my question to you guys:

If your daughter was getting married would like her boyfriend to ask for her hand

instead of just getting married without your permission?

Dude, HOW long have you known this guy?????

Pleeeeease, get a fucking clue, Kid.....

Live with the guy for at LEAST a year before you even CONSIDER spending the rest of your life with him.....

REALLY...REALLY-REALLY

[Msterbeau]

Dude, HOW long have you known this guy?????

Pleeeeease, get a fucking clue, Kid.....

Live with the guy for at LEAST a year before you even CONSIDER spending the rest of your life with him.....

REALLY...REALLY-REALLY

I didn't want to say anything... but... yeah.

[Oh_My_Goth]

I didn't want to say anything... but... yeah.

I am SOOOOOOO sure many would agree with us

[Michiko_Dreads]

See.. Part of me gets that it's respectful for the boy to ask the parents. But then I think... Why doesn't the girl ask HIS parents if it's OK? And why should a person ask the parents if it's OK? It's their life.. let them do what they think is right. Are we supposed to treat them like property? What happens if a parent disapproves? Do you dump him? I would hope that my children talk about their partners with us and ask for advice when needed, but I have no expectations that that partner should ask my permission. It's not mine to give.

It's more of a respect thing to me because my father is giving me away. Its not asking permission per say it like he has enough respect to ask because Im going to be in the care of another man who isnt my father. If my dad said no I would marry anyway because I love him and its been four years and we are ready. True High School Sweethearts and We are going to be in the Navy together.

But I understand what your saying and thats what my friends say when they look at me like Im nuts. I want my fathers blessings. My dad wasnt a big part of my life and I promised he would walk me down the isle and that when boyfriend and I are ready we would come and he would ask for my hand.

My hubbs a gentleman. He already knew he would have to ask my father.

[Michiko_Dreads]

Dude, HOW long have you known this guy?????

Pleeeeease, get a fucking clue, Kid.....

Live with the guy for at LEAST a year before you even CONSIDER spending the rest of your life with him.....

REALLY...REALLY-REALLY

I've know him for 4 years we have never lived together. We will be engaged until my navy contract (we're both in the navy) is up and then we are getting married. I know I want him and He knows that he wants me.

[Riku Namako]

*chokes* OMFG, wtf.....

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*sigh* to each their own.... but, Absolutely no regrets. Best wishes for you in this one, this is definately one hell of an adventure you're embarking on.

[Gauge]

i would expect my man to ask my dad for my hand. it seems like an honerable thing to do. at the same time if im serious about the guy and hes serious about me and my dad sais no way absolutely not i would expect him to follow my wishes and marry me anyway because in the end im a big girl who can make her own decisions.

[prick]

Im an old fashioned, sentimental fool. I say he should ask.

[freydis]

My husband talked to my grandpa (in lieu of my dad).

It's right.

He should do it.

[Onyx]

If the child and parent or parents are close, everything will have already been discussed, advice asked for and opinions given. HH is right, sometimes our parents know us better than we think and sometimes it takes an outside observer who knows us well to see things we cannot.

It shouldn't be like a guy comes up out of the blue without the parents even knowing him and just asks.

I believe it really has always been mostly a formality in more modern times. I still think it would be very sweet.

[prick]

My ex wifes brother told me he was ready for us to marry. I never even said anything to him about marriage. Probably why she is now my ex.

[zenaleigh]

I made my ex husband ask...and yes MADE...no bj's for you goes along way when blackmailed

[TheGimp]

[Miranda]

To me it isn't even about permission. I just want to be part of the wedding and would definitely want to help where I could. I could only hope it was a marriage I could feel good about or I'd have to be honest and tell my child how I felt. Doesn't mean that would stop them of course.