my dad and me

[jynxxxedangel]

As someone who has been disowned by their family, I feel for you deeply, luv.

There is no worse pain than not having a home to go home to during the holidays.

[vampireprincess]

As someone who has been disowned by their family, I feel for you deeply, luv.

There is no worse pain than not having a home to go home to during the holidays.

my holidays have sucked and the worse part my Christmas is going to suck i love holidays but not this year

[jynxxxedangel]

my holidays have sucked and the worse part my Christmas is going to suck i love holidays but not this year

If you have no place to go for Yule, you are more than welcome to come and hang out here.

[vampireprincess]

If you have no place to go for Yule, you are more than welcome to come and hang out here.

really where do u live?

[GothicRavenGoddess (3)]

darling, look, so many things have gone from bad to worse, in your life... you are still here... so many people would have eneded it, but you, you still stand strong. I sill love you, girly, no matter what others have told you. Don't listen to the negative. Look, already you have people reaching out to you. Your dad's an asshat.. you will always love him, but you don't need him in your life. You know that he's just going to bring you down... and if you let him, then he wins at making you less than a person. You can be great in life.. you got a scholarship, that's amazing... so what, you got pregnant. Seems to me he's using that as an excuse to be an asshat...

I have been twice in my life, and I cry every year on the day of their conception, the day they would have been born, and the day I lost them. Its a long hard road, and now I may never have kids. Losing a child, no matter how much it "fucks your life up" is never easy... but don't you, for one second, listen to your dad, when he calls you those nasty names. You are human, and no matter how much they want you to be perfect, you never will be.. you aren't a god... people like that are idiots. you are beautiful, no matter how much they tell you you aren't. you have made it farther than most have, remember that.

oh, and I want you to know that it doesn't matter what anyone has told you, I haven't lied to you...and there are some pretty honest people on here, as well.. prick is a good guy, and so is gimp. both are good guys to vent to. I know, believe me.

Keep your chin up, and take a damn complement.. don't put yourself down... just say thanks and smile.. cuz if so many ppl say you are pretty, you aught to believe them.

I love you!!!! IM me sometime...

[jynxxxedangel]

really where do u live?

I live out towards Commerce Township.

[ChokingGlassTears]

he kicked me out when i got a pregnant! and then disowned me! and it sucks i miss my dad so much and am a daddysgirl

I understand completely on how you are feeling and what exactly you are going through. Yes, it is hard loosing that love and hope from a parent. But now you need to proove to him that you won't dwell on his hurt! It is going to be hard at first but he will see! My father and I don't have the best of father and daughter relationship. When I was 15 I had became pregnant, and He said he wanted me to either dicontinue the pregnancy or he would dis-own me well I chose the baby over me! was it right I don't know. But to make a long story short I lost the baby anyways! but I never went back! I made him feel like crap I had gotten emancipated, through the courts, got a job, and still finished school. I haden't talked to my father for nearly 3 yrs and then my mother had passed away. Yes it is hard to forgive and forget about the past but my father relised that he was truely wrong in the long run!

Sometimes you need to walk away from the hurt and let the hurt come back to you. But you need to do what you think is best for you and the baby now. Once again I am so sorry that a parent has to be so cruel and hurtful!

[vampireprincess]

darling, look, so many things have gone from bad to worse, in your life... you are still here... so many people would have eneded it, but you, you still stand strong. I sill love you, girly, no matter what others have told you. Don't listen to the negative. Look, already you have people reaching out to you. Your dad's an asshat.. you will always love him, but you don't need him in your life. You know that he's just going to bring you down... and if you let him, then he wins at making you less than a person. You can be great in life.. you got a scholarship, that's amazing... so what, you got pregnant. Seems to me he's using that as an excuse to be an asshat...

I have been twice in my life, and I cry every year on the day of their conception, the day they would have been born, and the day I lost them. Its a long hard road, and now I may never have kids. Losing a child, no matter how much it "fucks your life up" is never easy... but don't you, for one second, listen to your dad, when he calls you those nasty names. You are human, and no matter how much they want you to be perfect, you never will be.. you aren't a god... people like that are idiots. you are beautiful, no matter how much they tell you you aren't. you have made it farther than most have, remember that.

oh, and I want you to know that it doesn't matter what anyone has told you, I haven't lied to you...and there are some pretty honest people on here, as well.. prick is a good guy, and so is gimp. both are good guys to vent to. I know, believe me.

Keep your chin up, and take a damn complement.. don't put yourself down... just say thanks and smile.. cuz if so many ppl say you are pretty, you aught to believe them.

I love you!!!! IM me sometime...

thank you! u always help sumway,,,,,,,,, my dad been a dick...and it so hard to lose your kid,,,,,it hurts and i always put my self its hes fault for putting me down all the time.......

i love yo 2 and i will IM you

[vampireprincess]

I understand completely on how you are feeling and what exactly you are going through. Yes, it is hard loosing that love and hope from a parent. But now you need to proove to him that you won't dwell on his hurt! It is going to be hard at first but he will see! My father and I don't have the best of father and daughter relationship. When I was 15 I had became pregnant, and He said he wanted me to either dicontinue the pregnancy or he would dis-own me well I chose the baby over me! was it right I don't know. But to make a long story short I lost the baby anyways! but I never went back! I made him feel like crap I had gotten emancipated, through the courts, got a job, and still finished school. I haden't talked to my father for nearly 3 yrs and then my mother had passed away. Yes it is hard to forgive and forget about the past but my father relised that he was truely wrong in the long run!

Sometimes you need to walk away from the hurt and let the hurt come back to you. But you need to do what you think is best for you and the baby now. Once again I am so sorry that a parent has to be so cruel and hurtful!

thank you so muc u all are helping me so much

[vampireprincess]

I live out towards Commerce Township.

where that? and i dont have a ride out there

[Destroit]

Hopefully, sometime down the road your father will come to his senses and realize that he was being a huge douche bag boner. Maybe he's acting this way because he doesn't know what to do? 'Cause he's trying to hammer it in your head that he doesn't want you to get pregnant again and risk messing up your life? Who knows?

But what I will say is, whatever his goal, he definately went about it all wrong. You messed up, hell even if you're using birth control there is always some degree, even if it's miniscule, of the chance that it will fail. That's called life, and it happens, he's just overreacting and being a dick. Some parents, also, CANNOT handle the thought of their kids ever growing up and doing anything "adult", so everytime the kid tries to branch from childhood into adulthood through actions, they're scorned horribly by their parents (who, hypocritically, do these "adult" things like sex, drinking, smoking yet tell their kids they're horrible for doing it).

I'll never fully understand people, I'm sure that we weren't meant to, but you need to push past the hurt that your father set out for you and PISS HIM OFF by being totally successful and rubbing his face in the fact that he was, needlessly, a hurtful dick. Do you still have a good relationship with your mom after this? Maybe you should concentrate on strengthening your bond with her for awhile and leave your father alone to sort of "think about" what he's done. If he sees you and mom getting closer because of all this, it may make him realize that he was being a dickhole, and have him come to his senses.

You must also be prepaired for the worst case scenario that, maybe, your father will never come around to his senses. That's a horrible thing to think about, but it's always best to plan for reality, no matter how unpleasant that reality may be in the end. I hope you follow through with life and become successful on your own...without dad's help. It will make you a stronger person in the end with a richer character, I'm sure of it. Life's challenges and troubles mold us into the people we become.

[Brenda Starrr]

i wish i was still A mom i had a miscarrige 2 months ago,,,,and he still hates me,,,,,,and he said he glad i had one.....and i am pround that i get to go to college and wish the best for the people who are in school......... and im not talking to my dad till he has something nice to say! i am still not over my miscarrige,,,i used to rub my belly evrynite and i still do it and i cry when i do it,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,and thanks for the hug i need it,,,,and i am a fuck up in my dads eyes,,,,,,,,, i guesss i mad to many mistakes for him

*hugs*

I don't know you. But, I'm the Mom of 2 teens. I can assure you of one thing: I could NEVER do that to either child. I try my best to keep them from doing things that could put them in a rough situation, like what you've been through. But I couldn't disown my own flesh and blood. I just wish I knew what to do to help you....

This just isn't right. But you have people here who care.

[vampireprincess]

Hopefully, sometime down the road your father will come to his senses and realize that he was being a huge douche bag boner. Maybe he's acting this way because he doesn't know what to do? 'Cause he's trying to hammer it in your head that he doesn't want you to get pregnant again and risk messing up your life? Who knows?

But what I will say is, whatever his goal, he definately went about it all wrong. You messed up, hell even if you're using birth control there is always some degree, even if it's miniscule, of the chance that it will fail. That's called life, and it happens, he's just overreacting and being a dick. Some parents, also, CANNOT handle the thought of their kids ever growing up and doing anything "adult", so everytime the kid tries to branch from childhood into adulthood through actions, they're scorned horribly by their parents (who, hypocritically, do these "adult" things like sex, drinking, smoking yet tell their kids they're horrible for doing it).

I'll never fully understand people, I'm sure that we weren't meant to, but you need to push past the hurt that your father set out for you and PISS HIM OFF by being totally successful and rubbing his face in the fact that he was, needlessly, a hurtful dick. Do you still have a good relationship with your mom after this? Maybe you should concentrate on strengthening your bond with her for awhile and leave your father alone to sort of "think about" what he's done. If he sees you and mom getting closer because of all this, it may make him realize that he was being a dickhole, and have him come to his senses.

You must also be prepaired for the worst case scenario that, maybe, your father will never come around to his senses. That's a horrible thing to think about, but it's always best to plan for reality, no matter how unpleasant that reality may be in the end. I hope you follow through with life and become successful on your own...without dad's help. It will make you a stronger person in the end with a richer character, I'm sure of it. Life's challenges and troubles mold us into the people we become.

ya me and my mom are close she the one that took me in when he kicked me out,,,,,, if it wasnt for her i wood be on the street and shit......and my mom and me are close........ i just am a daddy girl.... i dont know....me and my mom dont get along that well.....she always hits me me but then she says sorry and i give in.,,,,,becaUSE she all i have,,,,,, now with out my dad...... im trying to forget all the thing he said to me,,,,but its hard to...

[Simon Bar Sinister]

i wish i was still A mom i had a miscarrige 2 months ago,,,,and he still hates me,,,,,,and he said he glad i had one.....and i am pround that i get to go to college and wish the best for the people who are in school......... and im not talking to my dad till he has something nice to say! i am still not over my miscarrige,,,i used to rub my belly evrynite and i still do it and i cry when i do it,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,and thanks for the hug i need it,,,,and i am a fuck up in my dads eyes,,,,,,,,, i guesss i mad to many mistakes for him

With all due respect to the guy (read: none), FUCK HIM.

[vampireprincess]

With all due respect to the guy (read: none), FUCK HIM.

yea i know.,,,,,,,,

[Brenda Starrr]

Don't disrespect him. He's completely freaked out. Imagine being a parent for one second. Imagine the fear when your "little girl" comes home and tells you something bad. It could be anything.

I didn't tell my Dad that I lost my virginity to rape. EVER. He would have been devastated, then killed Scott, THEN prison.

I waited at least 4 years to tell Dad that the same asshole was beating me. Again, the whole prison thing.

I was deathly afraid that he would berate me for staying with Scott. I had the WORST self esteem EVER. I didn't think I could EVER do any better. I believed I was ugly and not worth anything to anyone. What I never realized what just how valuable I was to my Dad. I was so SURE he would have been pissed as shit at me for some reason. Like I asked for it. Of course, that's silly.

My Mom and I had to keep him from his gun, and the eventual prison sentence(s) that would occur.

What I'm trying to say is that he's probably terrified of losing his little girl. So much, that he's pushing you away to deal with his feelings. I don't think he means to. Has he ever been like this toward you before? Most Dads don't want to hear that their daughter has even kissed a boy, much less had sex! I know that I might polish a gun or two when my daughter starts dating....

I know it's hard, but be patient. I bet he'll come around. It may be tomorrow, or next week...who knows? Just DON'T allow people here or anywhere say things like "FUCK HIM" and whatnot. Give it time. He's scared.

[Raev]

*hugs*

Wish I could say/do/type more to help..but all I can think of is *hugs*

[Homicidalheathen]

congrats on the scholarship thats hard to get

there are programs for expectant mothers in school, go talk to a councilor

some colleges offer single mothers cheaper on campus housing as well

I hope you prove him wrong by raising your child successfully on your own and doing well

[vampireprincess]

Don't disrespect him. He's completely freaked out. Imagine being a parent for one second. Imagine the fear when your "little girl" comes home and tells you something bad. It could be anything.

I didn't tell my Dad that I lost my virginity to rape. EVER. He would have been devastated, then killed Scott, THEN prison.

I waited at least 4 years to tell Dad that the same asshole was beating me. Again, the whole prison thing.

I was deathly afraid that he would berate me for staying with Scott. I had the WORST self esteem EVER. I didn't think I could EVER do any better. I believed I was ugly and not worth anything to anyone. What I never realized what just how valuable I was to my Dad. I was so SURE he would have been pissed as shit at me for some reason. Like I asked for it. Of course, that's silly.

My Mom and I had to keep him from his gun, and the eventual prison sentence(s) that would occur.

What I'm trying to say is that he's probably terrified of losing his little girl. So much, that he's pushing you away to deal with his feelings. I don't think he means to. Has he ever been like this toward you before? Most Dads don't want to hear that their daughter has even kissed a boy, much less had sex! I know that I might polish a gun or two when my daughter starts dating....

I know it's hard, but be patient. I bet he'll come around. It may be tomorrow, or next week...who knows? Just DON'T allow people here or anywhere say things like "FUCK HIM" and whatnot. Give it time. He's scared.

he wants to take me to dinner? he wants to talk to me....i told him how i felt now he wants to talk and hangout,,,,, what should i do?

[vampireprincess]

congrats on the scholarship thats hard to get

there are programs for expectant mothers in school, go talk to a councilor

some colleges offer single mothers cheaper on campus housing as well

I hope you prove him wrong by raising your child successfully on your own and doing well

i had a miscarrige recently and im so sad and missing it,,,,,,,, but i know,,,,,,,,,,,,it going to be hard

[Rev.Reverence]

he wants to take me to dinner? he wants to talk to me....i told him how i felt now he wants to talk and hangout,,,,, what should i do?

You do not want to become estranged from your family unit...then...you will be bitter like me...

...GO TALK TO YOUR DA'....

[vampireprincess]

*hugs*

Wish I could say/do/type more to help..but all I can think of is *hugs*

a hug is good i need them rite now.......

[vampireprincess]

You do not want to become estranged from your family unit...then...you will be bitter like me...

...GO TALK TO YOUR DA'....

but im mad at him! but i miss him,.,,,,im going to tell him how i feel about what he doing to me

[Rev.Reverence]

but im mad at him! but i miss him,.,,,,im going to tell him how i feel about what he doing to me

Honest communication...that's all you owe any other person on the Earth...

[vampireprincess]

Honest communication...that's all you owe any other person on the Earth...

im going to tey to make thing right but i know i cant because i got pregneat and he hates me he wants to talk about how i am going to get the rest of my stuff and how school going and stuff