Calling Men

[littlepinkkitty]

So a girl calls a guy she is sort of seeing and he doesn't answer so she leaves a brief message asking for him to call her back...... He doesn't do that or takes his sweet ass time to do it. How long after the phone call is it okay to send a text asking whats going on and why hasnt he called? And what should the text say? Why are boys so bad at phone stuff?

[Rev.Reverence]

...8-10 hours..or a day...sometimes, shit happens, & one must put his bros before his...ahem...well, you know what I'm sayin'...you know?

[TheLordOfSins]

Yeah, I'd just relax and wait it out. I mean, if you had plans or if it were important, by all means! But, if it's just casual, just let it be for now. I'd wait atleast a few hours.

[Msterbeau]

Yeah... Give it a few hours at least. Sometimes shit happens. If, on the other hand, he has a lame excuse. Forget him. If he doesn't care enough to do what he says he's going to, he's not worth it.

[littlepinkkitty]

Yeah... Give it a few hours at least. Sometimes shit happens. If, on the other hand, he has a lame excuse. Forget him. If he doesn't care enough to do what he says he's going to, he's not worth it.

And what would the proper text be to send that wont scare him away but to get why he didnt call?

[Rev.Reverence]

And what would the proper text be to send that wont scare him away but to get why he didnt call?

"Yo, wazzup?"

[littlepinkkitty]

"Yo, wazzup?"

and should that be the next day or what?

[Simon Bar Sinister]

yes, unless it's life-or-death

[Rev.Reverence]

and should that be the next day or what?

Yes...tomorrow...& since he did, forget you even called...

[Msterbeau]

And what would the proper text be to send that wont scare him away but to get why he didnt call?

Don't worry about scaring him away. If what you say scares him... there's no use in worrying about him. He's either not into you or not compatible.

I'd wait until tomorrow. Text him and ask if he got your message. See what happens from there.

I can't stress enough, if the guys are playing head games.. and you want something serious, they are not the ones you need to be hanging out with no matter how cute they are nor how well you guys click. You need to find the guy that's in the same head space you are about relationships.

[n0Mad]

Don't worry about scaring him away. If what you say scares him... there's no use in worrying about him. He's either not into you or not compatible.

I'd wait until tomorrow. Text him and ask if he got your message. See what happens from there.

I can't stress enough, if the guys are playing head games.. and you want something serious, they are not the ones you need to be hanging out with no matter how cute they are nor how well you guys click. You need to find the guy that's in the same head space you are about relationships.

X10²³

[littlepinkkitty]

when the heart is involved it makes it harder....... stupid feelings

[Msterbeau]

when the heart is involved it makes it harder....... stupid feelings

The heart can be a bit of a pain sometimes... Better to feel pain occasionally then to feel nothing all the time, though.

[Msterbeau]

when the heart is involved it makes it harder....... stupid feelings

Also :

[torn asunder]

The heart can be a bit of a pain sometimes... Better to feel pain occasionally then to feel nothing all the time, though.

still mostly disagree...

and i echo these guys - wait a bit.

Edited December 2, 2009 by torn asunder

[littlepinkkitty]

waiting sounds like a good plan.....agonizing but good

[Msterbeau]

waiting sounds like a good plan.....agonizing but good

Read a book. Do some yoga. Poke obnoxious old men on Facebook.

[n0Mad]

When you can't be fully happy and secure by yourself, you will never be happy and secure with someone. Don't try to be two halves that make a whole, but rather two wholes that exist perfectly well apart but are so much more together.

Doesn't exactly relate to the above; just general relationship advice.

[Raev]

Read a book. Do some yoga. Poke obnoxious old men on Facebook.

Yes.

[StormKnight (1)]

Read a book. Do some yoga. Poke obnoxious old men on Facebook.

The Storm Knight's Guild agrees with this statement.

[TygerLili]

If there's no emergency and you don't have plans together, then I think within 24 hours is a reasonable amount of time to return a call from someone you're "kind of " dating, or just started dating; maybe 48 if you call the person at a time when you know they have a lot going on, but definitely not longer than that.

When I was dating, if a guy took longer than that, I'd blow him off for a while, and make him wonder if I was still interested in him. One of three things would happen. 1) He would call me back with some excuse (real or lame) why he couldn't have called me sooner, and depending on whether or not his excuse seemed valid I'd give him another chance. 2) He would call me back after several days asking why he hadn't heard from me, and I had to decide whether he was playing games or just clueless about women, and whether I wanted to deal with that. 3) He'd never call me back, and I figured he wasn't that interested and it was his loss. Almost all of them called back, though. Most guys will get insecure and wonder if you're not into them if you suddenly become unavailable.

[littlepinkkitty]

I am not that brave. I always assume hes mad at me or sick of me and then i am terrified he will never call me again. I feel forgetable..... i know i like him more then he likes me and that spells disaster for me. People make it seem like everything i say to him has to be scripted or i will scare him. I have to be patient.

[Raev]

I am not that brave. I always assume hes mad at me or sick of me and then i am terrified he will never call me again. I feel forgetable..... i know i like him more then he likes me and that spells disaster for me. People make it seem like everything i say to him has to be scripted or i will scare him. I have to be patient.

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Edited December 3, 2009 by Raev
sent PM instead

[Msterbeau]

I have to be patient.

You do.

You have to learn to have confidence in yourself. You can't give your power to make rational decisions away because of fear.

[EnViOuSPoPpEt]

I am not that brave. I always assume hes mad at me or sick of me and then i am terrified he will never call me again. I feel forgetable..... i know i like him more then he likes me and that spells disaster for me. People make it seem like everything i say to him has to be scripted or i will scare him. I have to be patient.

Patience is overrated.

You can be patient for so long...

And if he is playing games you don't need someone like that.

Your heart will suffer in the long run.