How Would You Feel?

[LadyKay]

How would you feel if someone told you they were going to buy you a gift? Then right after they tell you this, they go on to tell you that they hardly have any money left over after they pay their bills and how many bills they have to pay. Keep in mind that they offered to buy you a gift all on their own. You said nothing about wanting them to buy you anything. Would this make you feel uncomfortable?

[Raev]

How would you feel if someone told you they were going to buy you a gift? Then right after they tell you this, they go on to tell you that they hardly have any money left over after they pay their bills and how many bills they have to pay. Keep in mind that they offered to buy you a gift all on their own. You said nothing about wanting them to buy you anything. Would this make you feel uncomfortable?

I don't know if uncomfortable is the word I'd use. Irritated would be more like it.

[Rev.Reverence]

...I'ld be confused, & might tell them they just crossed the line..into the idiot zone...& that they should take a step back, & get some priorities!..

[AstralCrux]

I'd feel that they weren't trustworthy. If someone said they wanted to give me a gift, they could make me a card and make dinner (since they didn't specify the gift) and I wouldn't question the gift. Hell, make me a cookie and that counts. So, this person- not so smart and not so good long term.

[KatRN05]

I agree with the above comments. Don't say you are gonna do something, especially telling someone you are gonna buy a gift and then totally backtrack on it and complain about all the bills ya gotta pay. I'd be irritated. Just don't buy me anything at all then.

[Tyger]

...I'ld be confused, & might tell them they just crossed the line..into the idiot zone...& that they should take a step back, & get some priorities!..

I don't know if uncomfortable is the word I'd use. Irritated would be more like it.

I would think telling someone that they are gonna get you a gift is silly. And that gift should be surprises in the first place.

[phee]

I would just tell them to wait.

[creatureofthenyte]

I would tell them to keep it; I don't need it.

I would be quite irritated.

If you tell someone you're buying them a gift, you better show up with it, or keep yer damn mouth shut fool!

[pomba gira]

I would question their motivations. And I would tactfully suggest that if they're in that bad a way, maybe the gift should wait.

Sounds like this is the kind of "gift" that comes with numerous and very long strings attached.

[taysteewonderbunny]

How would you feel if someone told you they were going to buy you a gift? Then right after they tell you this, they go on to tell you that they hardly have any money left over after they pay their bills and how many bills they have to pay. Keep in mind that they offered to buy you a gift all on their own. You said nothing about wanting them to buy you anything. Would this make you feel uncomfortable?

I wouldn't take it personally. It may be that the person is a bit ditzy and unaware of the incongruity of his statements. It may be that this person has a martyr complex. It may be that this person lacks a little tact and is actually making a preemptive apology for the cheapness of the gift. In any case, the problem is his, not yours, and real gifts do not come with the expectation of reimbursement--so don't reimburse.

[Simon Bar Sinister]

How would you feel if someone told you they were going to buy you a gift? Then right after they tell you this, they go on to tell you that they hardly have any money left over after they pay their bills and how many bills they have to pay. Keep in mind that they offered to buy you a gift all on their own. You said nothing about wanting them to buy you anything. Would this make you feel uncomfortable?

I would've said something along the lines of, "motherfucker, you're practically living on water and ramen and reading by candlelight - and you're talking about getting me a gift?! what the fuck's wrong with you? if you're going to piss away money, why don't you get something you actually fucking need? No wonder you're always fucking broke."

just a lil' bit of that SOTG tough love.

[torn asunder]

I would've said something along the lines of, "motherfucker, you're practically living on water and ramen and reading by candlelight - and you're talking about getting me a gift?! what the fuck's wrong with you? if you're going to piss away money, why don't you get something you actually fucking need? No wonder you're always fucking broke."

just a lil' bit of that SOTG tough love.

heh... although quite a bit more blunt that i'd be, i tend to agree with this.

[TygerLili]

I'd feel that they weren't trustworthy. If someone said they wanted to give me a gift, they could make me a card and make dinner (since they didn't specify the gift) and I wouldn't question the gift. Hell, make me a cookie and that counts. So, this person- not so smart and not so good long term.

Agreed. A gift doesn't have to cost a lot of money, especially if you know the person well.

I would think telling someone that they are gonna get you a gift is silly. And that gift should be surprises in the first place.

Good point.

[AmieLamie]

Ugh, I hate when people do that.

Why the heck would they do that? They look so stupid!

I would feel uncomfortable and very annoyed.

And just to make them feel just as weird I would say "Well, I can't WAIT to see what you got me!"

and keep saying things like that every time I see them until the time they are supposed to give it to me.

[joshthe007]

Edited February 8, 2010 by joshthe007

[asphyxian_doll]

That isn't uncomfortable.

That's annoying.

I'd mention it to them.

"Hey don't worry about that gift, just pay your bills, and try offering me something out of sincerity...."