Sometimes things can make you feel awkward

[Michael8402]

With fathers' day coming soon, I thought it would be a good time to talk about things in your life that might make you feel awkward.  The reason this came to my mind is that fathers' day always makes me uncomfortable.  I never really had much of a relationship with my father growing up and we still don't really talk much.  We aren't on bad terms or anything, just never connected in any way shape or form.  He actually has stated that he never wanted to have kids in the first place so I guess that explains a bit.  My stepfather has been pretty cool and tried to teach me some things mainly because he never had a son.  We struggle a bit because I was already an adult and married when he married my mother, at least he tries and is always there to offer help or advice when I need it though.  Another odd thing is that my girlfriend's son has made it a point to say "Happy Father's day" to me and I have only known him for 3 years.  This may not sound like a big deal but he is 21 years old and I am actually only 10 years older than him, my girlfriend being 12 years older than me does cause odd moments.  lol.

I understand that a lot of the awkward feeling is just me caused by deep seeded psychological scaring.  I am divorced and never had children, we tried but she couldn't have children due to medical issues.  My lack of a real connection with my parents doesn't help either.  I almost feel like I would be a terrible father because of the way I grew up.  I simply wouldn't know what to do as a parent.

I have have tried to gracious when her son calls me and I do make sure to call both my father and my stepfather. I just can't help but feel almost uneasy or out of place though.  Any thoughts?

[Corvus]

With fathers' day coming soon, I thought it would be a good time to talk about things in your life that might make you feel awkward.  The reason this came to my mind is that fathers' day always makes me uncomfortable.  I never really had much of a relationship with my father growing up and we still don't really talk much.  We aren't on bad terms or anything, just never connected in any way shape or form.  He actually has stated that he never wanted to have kids in the first place so I guess that explains a bit.  My stepfather has been pretty cool and tried to teach me some things mainly because he never had a son.  We struggle a bit because I was already an adult and married when he married my mother, at least he tries and is always there to offer help or advice when I need it though.  Another odd thing is that my girlfriend's son has made it a point to say "Happy Father's day" to me and I have only known him for 3 years.  This may not sound like a big deal but he is 21 years old and I am actually only 10 years older than him, my girlfriend being 12 years older than me does cause odd moments.  lol.

I understand that a lot of the awkward feeling is just me caused by deep seeded psychological scaring.  I am divorced and never had children, we tried but she couldn't have children due to medical issues.  My lack of a real connection with my parents doesn't help either.  I almost feel like I would be a terrible father because of the way I grew up.  I simply wouldn't know what to do as a parent.

I have have tried to gracious when her son calls me and I do make sure to call both my father and my stepfather. I just can't help but feel almost uneasy or out of place though.  Any thoughts?

i feel for you, my wife is 11 yrs older than me, and my oldest is only eight yrs younger lol. 

 

I had a great dad, but everything got thrust on me so fast that i dont know how to parent well. That's one of my wife and Is biggest issues, because I tend to be too firm and sometimes harsh. I try my best, but sometimes its hard tk be patient, eslecially with the oldest.

Theystill dont call me dad, nor do I ever suspect they will. The oldest will on occasion, but it's generally when she wants something lol.

You will llearn, it all comes with time.

[Michael8402]

I don't think I even try to act like a dad though.  Since he is already 21, I try to act like he is just one of the guys when he visits.  He lives with his father in PA and we didn't even see him that much before we moved.