Seeking New Friendships Is Like Dating

[LadyKay]

It seems to me that seeking out new friendship is kind of like dating.  I meet someone and maybe we will meet somewhere for lunch or something. I always hope that they like me well enough to hang out with me again and form into a friendship. But most of the time it seems to be a one time thing and they show no more interest. So I thought, this is almost like dating. You ask someone out. You go out. Then if you like them you want to have another date with them and you hope it forms into something more. Seems that way to me anyway. 

Edited December 8, 2016 by LadyKay

[TronRP]

It would be nice if you were close enough to hang out with us.  Because I have been getting to know you through DGN, hanging out in real life would be just that much cooler...

[LadyKay]

Yeah I am stuck in Ohio for the time being. 

[TronRP]

[Maureen Falcon]

I agree entirely! My first friend post-kids was found at a Gathering! Scary, like you don't remember.. Almost -all- of my friends are here or derived from here!

[Scary Guy]

2 hours ago, LadyKay said:

Yeah I am stuck in Ohio for the time being. 

If you're around the Toledo or Bowling Green areas there are some nice communities in each.  Bobbie lives in Toledo too.  If you can make it to her house maybe you guys could carpool to Troy's and then the gathering.

As far as relationships go, it works for pretty much all of them.  Personally I don't remember the last time I was on an officially defined "date".  It's more just friends hanging out and usually develops (or not) from there.  I suppose it fits into the triangular theory of love.  Friendships are basically just sexless relationships.  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love

Anyway, things either work out or they don't.  If they don't it isn't the end of the world, just slightly disappointing.  I've also been on both sides of that and I much prefer being the rejected one; as I don't want anyone else to feel that way.

[Troy Spiral (13)]

On 12/8/2016 at 1:21 PM, LadyKay said:

Yeah I am stuck in Ohio for the time being. 

Were in Ohio? Bobbi (Sekhmet) lives in toledo and is at every gathering.  

DGN was created in part to help make the process of making friends easier, at first it was at city club, now its (mostly) at the gathering , plus if people know you from this website they tend to also be biased toward liking you.  Then if I do my thing were i Introduce you to everyone within 50 feet, that helps too.  Some people just "take to you" without you having to say much of anything, others don't.  Its a bit of a  numbers game (sort of like dating) except the numbers are much higher in this context. 

[sekhmet2002]

Yep, I'm in Toledo. Where are you at in Ohio? 

I know what you mean about making friends being like dating. It's a difficult process, especially for an introvert.

[LadyKay]

I'm in Willard. Ever heard of it? About 45min from Toledo. 

[Scary Guy]

http://www.makeuseof.com/tag/5-apps-find-halfway-points-meet-faraway-friends/

[sekhmet2002]

On 12/12/2016 at 10:59 AM, LadyKay said:

I'm in Willard. Ever heard of it? About 45min from Toledo. 

I've not heard of it.  :(