How Are You Feeling? (cont'd)

[TronRP]

9 hours ago, jynxxxedangel said:

I am feeling glad that this forum is not defunct. Thank you, @TronRP!

 

10 hours ago, Raev said:

 

Congratulations

 

8 hours ago, Slogo said:

Happy to see this is back up. Now to debate if I'm going to do what I was originally going to

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Wow.  I'm glad to see people were able to find their way here.

 

We did officially lose the original site, but I'm making sure that won't happen with this domain.

 

Unfortunately, this version of the forum will be discontinued shortly, but I wanted to get it back up and running as it was before the changeover happens.  As this format is no longer supported, the forum will have a few bugs and minor glitches which will be fixed in the next version upgrade.

 

But right now, it just feels nice to have a bit of normality for a moment.

 

Thanks for hanging in there.

[et-novum]

I'm very glad to see DGN is back

[TronRP]

7 minutes ago, et-novum said:

I'm very glad to see DGN is back

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Me too. 

 

I had to teach myself a lot about website building, hosting settings and manually running key file functions from rewriting line text.

So happy it all paid off.  

[Scary Guy]

I am elated that this is back up, even if the original TLD is lost.

 

Maybe someone can snipe it when the registration on it drops in a year.

[TronRP]

4 hours ago, Scary Guy said:

I am elated that this is back up, even if the original TLD is lost.

 

Maybe someone can snipe it when the registration on it drops in a year.

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The issue with that is the domain is on auto renewal or else I would have had it when I contacted the Domain Brokers at GoDaddy the day the site went down.  It would have only been down for the time it took to negotiate a price and transfer.

 

It took this long because I had to start everything from scratch.  And communicating with I.T., who can't understand why you don't know everything already, was very eye-opening and, through their frustration, I learned a lot.

 

I streamlined all the services to minimize anything of this sort reoccurring in the foreseeable future.

[Scary Guy]

5 hours ago, TronRP said:

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The issue with that is the domain is on auto renewal or else I would have had it when I contacted the Domain Brokers at GoDaddy the day the site went down.  It would have only been down for the time it took to negotiate a price and transfer.

 

It took this long because I had to start everything from scratch.  And communicating with I.T., who can't understand why you don't know everything already, was very eye-opening and, through their frustration, I learned a lot.

 

I streamlined all the services to minimize anything of this sort reoccurring in the foreseeable future.

 

I mean that only works if nothing happens to you.

Personally I think there needs to be a trust, some type of co-admin, and systems in place to keep things going when that happens.  Not that I love thinking about my mortality either, but often we don't even consider it as anything more than a passing thought (if at all) and therefore don't take the steps to prepare for it.

Now that the money source is gone for detroitgothic.net it should fall off next year.  Though by that time we may just be used to the new domain name.  I think I'd have liked detroitgothic (dot) org better but it is what it is.  I don't care what it's called as long as it works. "A rose by any other name..."

[Trene4000]

Like puking my guts out and sleeping. I've got nausea and diarrhea, along with a mild fever. This is horrible!

[TronRP]

8 hours ago, Scary Guy said:

 

I mean that only works if nothing happens to you.

Personally I think there needs to be a trust, some type of co-admin, and systems in place to keep things going when that happens.  Not that I love thinking about my mortality either, but often we don't even consider it as anything more than a passing thought (if at all) and therefore don't take the steps to prepare for it.

Now that the money source is gone for detroitgothic.net it should fall off next year.  Though by that time we may just be used to the new domain name.  I think I'd have liked detroitgothic (dot) org better but it is what it is.  I don't care what it's called as long as it works. "A rose by any other name..."

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With regards to the money source, It would be nice if it dried up so I could get it back.  Someone/something has been paying it since 2023.

 

With regards to behind the scenes admin, we do have a system in place.  However, this all went down on my watch.  I was still in the process of fixing the before chaos, but the blessing in disguise here is that everything disconnected when Amazon got back ownership of the Domain name that was being hosted on GoDaddy with the data hosting package being on HostGator and the IPB forum community through Invision.  Therefore, this now makes it easier for the next admin to take over from me.

 

I will keep an eye out for detroitgothic(.)net to become available, but if it goes to auction, forget it.  Those domains have been going for upwards of $1000.

 

I purchased 2 other domain names before settling on this one as "Detroit Online" is the actual business name of DGN.

[kat (1)]

Every week day, weekend.  Every damn day. I'm just..ehh.

[TronRP]

Feels like I fell off the face of the Earth for a bunch of hours yesterday.  Feeling back up to functioning again.

[Slogo]

Nervous as fuck

[kat (1)]

My ex boyfriend from 25 years ago who had recently reached out to me to idk reminisce, he said I was his longest friend,  but he messaged me last night and tells me leaving Michigan away from me was the worst decision he ever made, he never stopped loving me, and some pretty intense feelings and than I get a fb voice note from his brother today that he hung himself. His brother is deaf and I was not sure that's what I heard but when I called his brother he said my brother hung himself last night at midnight. I asked he was at hospital and he said thst he was dead. 

I can't function or describe what I feel and the family omg I'm lost for words. My heart physically hurts, I cried to my mom on the phone for the past hour. 

Edited September 15, 2025 by kat

[Scary Guy]

7 hours ago, kat said:

My ex boyfriend from 25 years ago who had recently reached out to me to idk reminisce, he said I was his longest friend,  but he messaged me last night and tells me leaving Michigan away from me was the worst decision he ever made, he never stopped loving me, and some pretty intense feelings and than I get a fb voice note from his brother today that he hung himself. His brother is deaf and I was not sure that's what I heard but when I called his brother he said my brother hung himself last night at midnight. I asked he was at hospital and he said thst he was dead. 

I can't function or describe what I feel and the family omg I'm lost for words. My heart physically hurts, I cried to my mom on the phone for the past hour. 

 

Holy shit that's rough and I'm sorry you had to go through that.  If you need to talk I'm around, not that I'm the best person to talk to on such matters.

We unfortunately can't save everyone, especially if we don't know there's a problem to begin with.  I have had people tell me that I helped save their life which is a nice feeling.  Others I've called their bluff for attention and was all "do it" though so there's that, and had I been wrong that could have ended badly I suppose.

 

About the only reason I hang on is that I live for my friends, and if I wasn't around I'd seriously worry about some of them (well I wouldn't really because I'd be dead, but I care now so that's what counts.)

 

I was supposed to go to Bell Isle with some friends on Wednesday but one of them broke her toe so instead another friend took me to her place and I brought her some crutches we had.  Then we all got icecream at a nearby stand and hung out for a bit.  Then I went to the house of the friend who drove me and fixed a doorknob she had and connected her TV to her new internet router.  If I wasn't around I could do none of those things.  Everything is temporary so I'll enjoy it while I can...  including helping out my friends...  because I'm selfish...  and it makes me feel good.

[kat (1)]

7 hours ago, Scary Guy said:

 

Holy shit that's rough and I'm sorry you had to go through that.  If you need to talk I'm around, not that I'm the best person to talk to on such matters.

We unfortunately can't save everyone, especially if we don't know there's a problem to begin with.  I have had people tell me that I helped save their life which is a nice feeling.  Others I've called their bluff for attention and was all "do it" though so there's that, and had I been wrong that could have ended badly I suppose.

 

About the only reason I hang on is that I live for my friends, and if I wasn't around I'd seriously worry about some of them (well I wouldn't really because I'd be dead, but I care now so that's what counts.)

 

I was supposed to go to Bell Isle with some friends on Wednesday but one of them broke her toe so instead another friend took me to her place and I brought her some crutches we had.  Then we all got icecream at a nearby stand and hung out for a bit.  Then I went to the house of the friend who drove me and fixed a doorknob she had and connected her TV to her new internet router.  If I wasn't around I could do none of those things.  Everything is temporary so I'll enjoy it while I can...  including helping out my friends...  because I'm selfish...  and it makes me feel good.

This is 100 percent accurate as to my view in life. The little things mean a lot and building that support system and reason to hold on sometimes is all we can do. Also, I appreciate your offer to talk. You are a good,  logical person to talk with. I appreciate your friendship.  Thank you. Hey next time you guys get ice cream Clark's is right by me. 🫠🫣

[TronRP]

Feeling good.

 

My niece kidnapped me yesterday morning after we dropped my truck off at the auto shop for repairs.  We hit Belle Isle and she took me to the Nature Museum (which I hadn't been back to after it closed 100 years ago) then over to the Avenue Grill on Gratiot.  She had been wanting to try that place for a while I hear.  It was odd, but fun being the passenger for a change.

 

I keep putting off doing little things like that for some reason.  I'm sure I know it inside my head, but saying it out loud doesn't made sense as to why I don't just take some time to enjoy the little things in life like I used to live for.

 

Well, now she has me scheduled to visit Round 1 in a couple of weeks between Trene's appointments.  It'll feel like old times once Trene is mobile again. 

[TronRP]

Umm...wow...after reading the above comments, I feel a little like an idiot.

 

I have chances and opportunities to do things, basically beating down my door, and I don't.  It is definitely those little things in life that makes all the difference.

Life is already hard, there's no need to intentionally add to it.

[Trene4000]

Feeling like kicking people. 

[TronRP]

I'm feeling like I'm losing focus on a lot of things I was doing.  Too many directions to go in and every time I touch one thing, it creates a Butterfly Effect.

 

This definitely feels crazy.

[TronRP]

I feel like I could strangle somebody.  So now Medicare is limited and Medicaid is a joke.

 

We just left the pain management doctor's office and NOW we have to wait to see if today's visit will be covered by insurance because Trene is NOW only covered for 3 visits a year...because that makes sense!?!

[Trene4000]

Tired but content.

[Trene4000]

Despondent yet at peace.

[Trene4000]

Peaceful and content 

[TronRP]

Wow, these overnighters allow me to get a lot of work done.  But then I'm out of commission for 6 hours straight.  Thank goodness there weren't any emergencies.

😅

[TronRP]

1 minute ago, TronRP said:

Wow, these overnighters allow me to get a lot of work done.  But then I'm out of commission for 6 hours straight.  Thank goodness there weren't any emergencies.

😅

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So I'm feeling like overnight work definitely a good thing...to a certain extent.

[kat (1)]

Cold.