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[Lilith]

i completely agree with the dark. it doesnt make it easier to go through the hard shit when it is happening but in the end you will see that you got through it and you are a strong person.

i worry for you and your kids and your husband though. :( i really do. it makes me think of when we go through stuff like this (my kids, husband and i) and how everything just seems hopeless/impossible or we fight and it seems like everything is just coming to some sort of end ... then we pull through, some how, some way. all i can do is hope you have the strength to get through it all- sometimes that is all you can really hope for while waiting to pull through. strength. and remembering you and your husband are in it together and not get at each others throats. stress can make you lash out instead of pull together.

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Dyno we really need ot get togehter and chat it up a bit, from what i here you are basically right around the corner from me.

Anyhow, yes we have been in some very nasty spots through out all this, to make a long story short, I am taking meds to help with depression now, the kids well were all over the place and messed up but i think since i have been home with them more and well not just lying about all crying n stuff they have gotten better, they seem more like themselves anyhow. Brian and I well we are trying, deep down we both know we love each other, and well i cant say we have not said the "D" word cause we have many many times in the past few weeks but i know neither of us can afford it right now, and i hope by the time we could afford it we will have already worked out anythng that is left from this. Hoestly it may sound weird but in this case i am happy we are broke cause if we had $$ i am sure one of us in a fit if rage would have gotten the papers started. But fate has made it where we have to stay together for now and some how that is very reassuring. I do love him and he does love me and when we have stress free moments we show it even after the aurgument we have had latley. I just hope neither of us do anything to leave a lasting impression on each other.

Thank you for really caring about us, i often care allot about the things and people i read about here even those who i have never met and i often wonder if any one else is like me in that repect. It nice to know people actually care about others, and i apperciate it allot.

Harmony

[Brenda Starrr]

so i was sitting here and i got a feeling to check my email and i found this......

it is the guy who emailed me yesterday and he is offering $100 less but i accepted it and i am for the moment relieved. 

I really dont know what to say but thank you guys i will probally keep saying it over and over THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU i really think al lthe well wishes have helped.

HArmony

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Yaaaaaaaay! He needs to get his ass over there and pay the lady!!!

[Nerdcore]

Hey I am glad that someone is interested in the truck.. as I told critter.. would your husband be interested in welding..my dad owns a shop and he is also a retired HS Shop teacher ( as much as we dont get along he is a smart man) can hubby learn fast.. hed have to take a test to pass and take some classes at macomb or somthing .. pay is like 10, 11 an hr for the younger guys in welding feild and all

let me know

[Lilith]

Hey I am glad that someone is interested in the truck.. as I told critter.. would your husband be interested in welding..my dad owns a shop and he is also a retired HS Shop teacher ( as much as we dont get along he is a smart man)  can  hubby learn fast.. hed have to take a test to pass and take some classes at macomb or somthing .. pay is like 10, 11 an hr for the younger guys in welding feild and all

let me  know

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Thank You NC, but luckly ( i have not posted about it yet as nothing is in stone) The company he has been working for on and off, is talking about hiring him full time, and since it is in his choosen field he is going to stick with that. As soon as some one hands him the W2 forms to fill out i am sure i will blabb away about it here.

But i do thank you for the offer.

How are you doing by the way, is everything going better with the changes you have made recently? I do hope so.

Harmony

[Lilith]

so i just got back from running my errands, and i got this in my email from the guy who was supposed to buy it.......

I'm sorry but I did not realize how far away you really were from me unfortunetly I will not be able to buy this car.

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ughhhhh

lilith

[Fierce Critter]

:(

[Lilith]

Yeah so i thought maybe the guy is just whinny about a drive so i offer him the option of me driving it to him, and he is in freaking GRAND RAPIDS, i dont even have the time to get to his place to make any kind of sale befor 7 p.m let alone find some one to follow me out there to drive me back.

Any one have any ideas where i can unload this truck for $1000 or close to it? I got 3 hours left to figure it out.

lilith

[Fierce Critter]

Are there any yard sale groups on Yahoo from your area? We found our possible minivan buyer off there - posted it this morning, got a buyer by 2:00.

<---working my brain gears overtime to come up with more suggestions

[Lilith]

i posted the info on 3 yard sale groups i found for my area, as well as some other groups i had no idea i was still even a memeber of.

I dont know guys i guess ya win some and loose some :blink

[Brenda Starrr]

Ugh....

[Lilith]

okay so i got this lady who emailed me for pics of the truck, i sent them and she is now currently waiting for her hubby to get home from work to look at them and she will elt me know either way, when all of the above happens.

just so we are all up to speed on everything..........

i am recrossing my body parts......

lilith

[Brenda Starrr]

Me too!!!!

[Lilith]

so this is where we are at, Not too bad, but nothing close to the plan.

The truck still no sale, the lady has requested more info i sent it and my phone number, i have heard nothing back.

Mr. L got home from work, with a loan from the boss so he now owes 4 days of work again, and we are still short, not by much but short none the less, made a few calls for loans came up with nothing so on and so on.........

So we made the dreaded call, the one last hope of anything, we are really trying and we almost got all the money, and frankly to ask two poor as people to come up with 1400 - 1500 in two weeks is nuts, especailly when you have kids. ANy how, we called the mortage comapny. They are accepting the amount i have, and Mr. L is at western union right now, they are going to tack on the amount that i am short to the next payment i am supposed to pay. They were willing because " we are trying so hard" .

I am relieved but some how at a loss i had so much faith that we could do it and ifeel like i failed some how, butthen again i am so happy that my efferts are showing and have been rewarded in a way.

I am just Okay wich is by far better then i was before. so for now all is good and i some how think i might wake up in the morning shake this off, and begin the fight all over..........

so um anny body wanna buy a truck?????

Harmony

[Fierce Critter]

Gads, Harmony. I'm so hoping this works out for you.

Thank goodness the mortgage company is being somewhat cooperative.

Gads.

I still think there's a curse on DGN'ers. I'd burn every herb I've got if they weren't packed away...

[soothsayer]

Eh, screw the cramps! I'm doin' it for you!

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You know it's real when cramps are involved.

[Msterbeau]

Um.... Just joined in this discussion. Sorry for the mess Harmony. =(

Would the guy drive to Lansing from GR? if so... I might be able to help. I can follow you out and bring you back tomorrow if need be. The only hitch is that it would have to happen by mid afternoon at the latest. I could probably do it Friday too.

Let me know.

[bean]

Life throws us some stuff, doesn't it? I hope things get better for you. At least the mortgage company was willing to work with you. *hugs*

[Lilith]

I was rall yshocked they said okay, the guy who setthe plan up with me mentioned many time how i had no grace period, and if we missed any payments and so on, i was so worried they would be like well sorry but we have to take your house now.......

Since they were willing to work with us i hope that if anything happens in the next two weeks they would work with us again.

Thank you guys so much you really helped me stay somewhat sane in on a very bad day for me.

Mister Blow thank you for the offer but since i have two weeks befor my next payment i plan to explore less complicated means of selling hte truck. I am sure with in two weeks time it will sell. I do apperciate the thought allot actually, considering well just considering the resposne i got from people i know that i aksed to help.

And yes iwas ready to fight again today still a little slow at getting started but i have the right frame of mind to do so now.

Luv you guys

lilith

[Brenda Starrr]

*hugs to you and yours*