Proper etiquette?

[soothsayer]

This is something that has perplexed me for some time and I wanted to throw the question/senario out there and see what others think. Ok, when in a relationship and the person you're with has a best friend one would tend to think, I should be nice to this person because I'm with (so and so) and they are gonna still be friends with this person. It more than dawns on me that they are gonna be around from time to time. But, what do you do when this best friend of the person you're dating shows that they can't be cordial? I mean, if they flat out show you that you aren't important enough to speak with or remember you what are you suppose to do? I've had this experiance and I really got angry that every time I ran into this friend of hers this person couldn't remember my name or meeting me or that I was dating a friend of theirs.........wtf????

After a while I just had to assume this person just couldn't give a shit about me and trying to be nice, on my part, was a waste of my energy. I just wanna know if anyone else has gone through this and if anyone can offer some insight.

[Head Wreck]

or they could be like me with an inability to recognise someone unless i spend a couple hours a week with them for a 3 month period

thgen takes me nother 6 to remember thier name

[JaneDead]

i would not necessarily take it personally. my husband has done the same thing to people i know (forgets that he met them/their name/etc) even now when i talk about my friends he will say "who is that" and i have to explain ALL over again EACH time who they are. it is really frustrating but i have realized he is not trying to be rude - he just really forgets. i don't know how/why but he does.

now, if they are being down right rude to you that is different.

even in that situation i would say just be civil/polite anyways but leave it at that.

just because someone is your girl you are dating/girlfriends best friend does not mean they need to be your friend too.

[Homicidalheathen]

Ignore the asshole right back and make him/her look stupid.