Insta-friends

[saechalyn]

I'm talking about the platonic equivalent of the person who says "I love you" after 3 dates and becomes suffocating. You make a new friend, they seem cool, but soon after the first time you hang out all of a sudden they are calling every day, expecting you to go to all of their functions and assuming they are invited to all of yours, acting like you've been best friends forever and expecting your undying trust and loyalty. Now there's nothing inherently wrong with being this way as long as both parties are cool with it, I am just not. I'm probably extreme in the other direction, but I'm comfortable with myself this way. Anyone else ever encounter this?

[float]

I'm talking about the platonic equivalent of the person who says "I love you" after 3 dates and becomes suffocating.  You make a new friend, they seem cool, but soon after the first time you hang out all of a sudden they are calling every day, expecting you to go to all of their functions and assuming they are invited to all of yours, acting like you've been best friends forever and expecting your undying trust and loyalty.  Now there's nothing inherently wrong with being this way as long as both parties are cool with it, I am just not.  I'm probably extreme in the other direction, but I'm comfortable with myself this way.  Anyone else ever encounter this?

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can you say Cable Guy

"we met during a routine installation, but I feel like I've known him my whole life"

[JaneDead]

I'm talking about the platonic equivalent of the person who says "I love you" after 3 dates and becomes suffocating.  You make a new friend, they seem cool, but soon after the first time you hang out all of a sudden they are calling every day, expecting you to go to all of their functions and assuming they are invited to all of yours, acting like you've been best friends forever and expecting your undying trust and loyalty.  Now there's nothing inherently wrong with being this way as long as both parties are cool with it, I am just not.  I'm probably extreme in the other direction, but I'm comfortable with myself this way.  Anyone else ever encounter this?

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no so much in the "instant" friend sort of way. i have had friends like this that i have known long term that would do this to me. i had one particular friend (who i no longer speak to) that would get very jealous if i didn't include her in everything. when i got engaged to be married she said "what about me?!!" and stormed off to the other room and slammed the door (we were roommates at the time). my friends that were there said "wow melissa i am so sorry that happened!" well yeah i was not heartbroken she ws not happy for me but i thought wow... psycho!! my getting married is not about YOU. it is about me getting married. she was pretty much way too involved in my life and screwed up many many things in my life because of it. i have no bad feelings towards her now, but i am very happy she is NOT in my life anymore. :whistling

[holliwood66]

Ugh - that's awful. I havn't had this happen, but I have had the "single white female" type of gals...the ones who take elements of your personality/style/stories/family life etc. and make them their own. *shivers*

[JaneDead]

Ugh - that's awful. I havn't had this happen, but I have had the "single white female" type of gals...the ones who take elements of your personality/style/stories/family life etc. and make them their own. *shivers*

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you know, in some ways i feel that way about my old "friend". i think in her own way she tried to compete with me or at least try to make my friends like her and guys that liked me she would say to them and i quote "you can't have melissa, but you can have me" :laughing it's so sad when people don't like themselves enough to have their OWN identity.

[Guest Game of Chance]

you know, in some ways i feel that way about my old "friend". i think in her own way she tried to compete with me or at least try to make my friends like her and guys that liked me she would say to them and i quote "you can't have melissa, but you can have me"  :laughing it's so sad when people don't like themselves enough to have their OWN identity.

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hmmm...anyone I know.. :whistling :grin

[JaneDead]

but of course. you like her about as much as i do i am sure.

[Guest Game of Chance]

but of course. you like her about as much as i do i am sure.

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There was a time where I think she honestly thought there was a chance I might hook up with her.

[gothicmom]

I had a friend that I had known since kindergarten. During highschool she would always be jealous if I hung with other girls. Years later after we had moved to North Carolina, everytime we would come home to visit she would expect me to spend every day with her. Finally I quit telling her I was visiting then call er a day or two before we left to go back home.

I don't talk to her any more alot of different reasons. I don't miss her at all.

[JaneDead]

There was a time where I think she honestly thought there was a chance I might hook up with her.

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steve- she thought EVERYONE would hook up with her especially if she thought they wanted to hook up with me. if she thought you wanted to hook up with me, chances are she was going to try and get you first. :doh and i am not joking...

i wonder what makes people so weird like that?

[Guest Game of Chance]

steve- she thought EVERYONE would hook up with her especially if she thought they wanted to hook up with me. if she thought you wanted to hook up with me, chances are she was going to try and get you first.  :doh and i am not joking...

i wonder what makes people so weird like that?

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Actually its funny. I have a friend like that too. He gets mad whenever I'm doing something that doesn't include him. Like, go to City Club, for example. Whenever I'm talking to a girl, he starts hitting on her. He's a "recovered" junkie, so I put up with it for a while, trying to help him out. Now the sight of him actually makes my stomach turn.

[Guest Game of Chance]

steve- she thought EVERYONE would hook up with her especially if she thought they wanted to hook up with me. if she thought you wanted to hook up with me, chances are she was going to try and get you first.  :doh and i am not joking...

i wonder what makes people so weird like that?

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I dunno, but she was how you say...nasty.

[holliwood66]

She sounds like chronic-insecure and unable to self-afirm in any normal way...sheesh. Some people just want attention at all costs, positive or negative. Then again, there are some who are just trifflin' *nasty*

[gothicmom]

She sounds like chronic-insecure and unable to self-afirm in any normal way...sheesh. Some people just want attention at all costs, positive or negative.

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Thats how my friend was. She was the last child of about 4-5 kids and there was a big space between her and the next to youngest. She was a hypochondriac and a drama queen. When my uncle was dying from cancer I was very upset. I had just found out that his Time was just a few days away. It was obvious I was upset about it. She said she was sorry for me and in the same breath had to show me her latest scar. *sigh*

Here is the kicker!! Bishop and I didn't have a wedding. We went to the court house then had a reception the following weekend. I had asked her to greet the guests and have them sign the guest book. She said she would. It was 15 minutes before the time it was to start. People were showing up and she wasn't there. I called her and she said she had to babysit!!!!! Thanks for making me cry on what was my 'wedding day'.

[soothsayer]

I know what you mean, having dated a woman who said she wanted things to be kept casual. Next thing I know, the same week we met mind you, she's over 4/5 days just in that first week. Ugh! What happened to lite and casual? It didn't let up either. Hmmm....yea she's a few forks short of a full silverware set.

[damagedangel]

I'm talking about the platonic equivalent of the person who says "I love you" after 3 dates and becomes suffocating.  You make a new friend, they seem cool, but soon after the first time you hang out all of a sudden they are calling every day, expecting you to go to all of their functions and assuming they are invited to all of yours, acting like you've been best friends forever and expecting your undying trust and loyalty.  Now there's nothing inherently wrong with being this way as long as both parties are cool with it, I am just not.  I'm probably extreme in the other direction, but I'm comfortable with myself this way.  Anyone else ever encounter this?

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But saech... I love you!!!!

[Jarodaka]

But saech... I love you!!!! 

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No, no, I love her, not you! Get away! Saechalyn, you can't hang out with Damaged Angel!

[damagedangel]

No, no, I love her, not you!  Get away!  Saechalyn, you can't hang out with Damaged Angel!

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noooooooooooooooo *dies*

[SomeDanGuy]

Yeah, I always fear this when making new friends. And also being this on the reciprocal side

[Homicidalheathen]

I have this problem with women. I tell them I am bi and they instantly think that means I want a wife or something. I get these women who develope fatal attractions to me and I don't even have to do anything....so now I am scared. I am just not that gay. Oh and it always happens with someone I am not that attracted to or someone I just make out with a little once for fun or something stupid like that.

[Nienna]

I've had that before with other women... With guys it's usually that you go out with them once and they think there is a relationship. *shudder* clingy sucks..

[Lilith]

I had a friend i made at work, cool to chat it up iwth at wrok had fun and so on then i invited her in to my home/ bedroom, OMG that was a huge mistake we were with her one time and then she got real pissy that it never happened again adn it made the rest of the relationship hard even after i talked with her about how Mr. L and i had allot of stres and we were taking a break from extras in the bed room. I had other friends say how they would hate thet when she came over they felt like i had to ist and be and interviewer and could not be socialble with other people because she was all moody and shit. I finally wrote her a letter telling her how i felt and i have not talked with her since. I feel sorry for her in allot of ways but i was just noth the person to be there for her and help. I think things happen in peoples past to make them like this, they need to get help as allot of them are good people at the core just kinda weird and annoying with how they think you are supposed to be with them all the time or attached atthe hip.

lilith

[Daevion]

I'm talking about the platonic equivalent of the person who says "I love you" after 3 dates and becomes suffocating.  You make a new friend, they seem cool, but soon after the first time you hang out all of a sudden they are calling every day, expecting you to go to all of their functions and assuming they are invited to all of yours, acting like you've been best friends forever and expecting your undying trust and loyalty.  Now there's nothing inherently wrong with being this way as long as both parties are cool with it, I am just not.  I'm probably extreme in the other direction, but I'm comfortable with myself this way.  Anyone else ever encounter this?

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Damn, that really sucks. Another week and this guy/girl might want your hand in marriage. If I were you I would break that off now before that person gets even more attached. No one wants you to turn up on a milk carton. Than again, my advice really sucks so you might not want to listen to me, lol.