Death in the Family

[An_Incomplete_heart]

While sitting on my bed contemplating things that my ex said about what was wrong with me one stuck out in my mind. She informed me that I needed to get over the death of my father. Now short back story on that....My Father was sick and bed ridden since I was 2 years old and died when I was 13 and I'm 23 now. He missed alot of big guy moments in my life, and I miss he horibbly at times when a son needs his father the most. Sometimes I do have bad days and get drespressed about it, but I don't think I should just get over it. Her argument was that she doesn't get upset about her grandmother passing when something reminds her of her grandmother. I think the passing of a parent is alot differnt especially at such an early age. Should I just get over it and not feel any loss for my father or is she being a cold heartless bitch....Talk amoungest yourself...I gave you a topic...

[bean]

I think she is a cold heartless bitch. You have every right to be sad, and to grieve as long as it takes. Just remember the good times that you had with him, and that as time goes on, your sorrow will lessen. Your feelings are completely normal, don't let anyone tell you differently.

[Brenda Starrr]

I'm with beanwater. I'd like to personally smack the bitch up.

[honeymustard02]

Having a parent pass away is a lot different then a grandparent. I agree with the above. She obviously doesn't understand because it has never happened to her.

Feel what you want to feel and tell her to take a hike.

[Homicidalheathen]

Yah fuck that shit! Who is anyone to tell anyone else how their heart is supposed to work?

I am a cold heartless bitch.....probably won't cry when my parents die much. And I suck ok? Don't be like me.

My mother in law still cries about loosing the love of her life a few years ago and my man said he thought she would be 'over it' by now.

Over what? What is to get over? She misses the only man she ever laid in a bed with.

Sounds like you do have some unresolved issues......may I suggest a spirit journey or something.....not so you get over it but that you come to grips with it.

I think she is a cold heartless bitch.  You have every right to be sad, and to grieve as long as it takes.  Just remember the good times that you had with him, and that as time goes on, your sorrow will lessen.  Your feelings are completely normal, don't let anyone tell you differently.

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[DarkVampire]

We all deal with death and grieve in or own unique way. Some "get over it" quicker than others and some never do.

[The_Dark]

I still cry when I think about my Dad. I miss him every day.. Grief is not something you get over, but something you learn to live with.

[Onyx]

I still cry when I think about my Dad. I miss him every day.. Grief is not something you get over, but something you learn to live with.

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Exactly. There's no such thing as "getting over" when you lose someone close to you.

I still miss my great grandmother, and she died over 30 years ago.

[holliwood66]

I completely agree with aforementioned - everyone deals in their own way. Also, I understand living with and growing up with a chronically ill parent as my mom was sick for 9 years before she passed away. It has been 5 years since and I don't think I will ever not miss her - including sadness over her not being around to see the big moments (as you mentioned about your father). Don't let anyone tell you how to grieve or feel that you are strange or that your feelings are not legitimate.

[EatAjaxAndDie]

No one should tell you how to get over the death of your parent or close relative. My mother died when I was 17, and I wont ever be over it. Yeah its been almost 5 years, but thats not gonna make it much easier. So what if you have a few bad days? So what...not gonna be a picnic everyday. Your ex, along with mine, needs to get a grip on reality.