My heart hurts......

[Brenda Starrr]

My son has Asperger's Syndrome, which is high-functioning autism. We had discussed (along with his psychiatrist and therapist) the possibility of separating Ian and Sierra. Ian is particularly violent toward her, and it's just not healthy. She can't be allowed to grow up thinking that it's okay to be treated/spoken to this way. My ex-husband feels as though he can help Ian.

My ex-was looking for a suitable place for himself and Ian. I never thought he'd find it. Well, he did. It's a beautiful farmhouse about 20 minutes away from me. Now, Ian's move is a reality. On one hand, I won't hear non-stop fighting every day. On the other, that's my 1st born....my little boy. And, while I know that this is the right thing to do, I'm so sad right now, I could just cry.....

[Onyx]

That's going to be very hard, but sounds like it will be best for everyone in the end.

[damagedangel]

My best friend's son has Asperger's Syndrome. Just a little piece of random information. I understand that it will be hard separating the two, but (and I know that words don't make the hurt go away) it will be better for everyone in the long run. I hope the best for you and your family

[Fierce Critter]

First off - cry. Go ahead, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that and right now, it's perfectly appropriate and probably very needed.

Secondly, I can't possibly relate to the kind of feelings you're going through right now. But if you can think of anything I could do for you, say the word.

[Nienna]

*hugs* I'm sorry honey..

[Brenda Starrr]

Thank you all so much. It's nice to know that people care, even if they don't always understand. I'm just waiting for they actual date of his move so that I can schedule my work hours accordingly. It just hurts me so badly. I feel like I can't help Ian. It's not fair..........

At least Sierra won't be getting beat up on for no good reason.

[JaneDead]

well i understand in the way that i am a mom too and just reading this post made me tear up and get a lump in my throat. i'm so sorry you have to make a choice like this. and don't think of it as you can't help ian. think of it as this IS the way you have to help him. it is not an easy choice but you are doing the only thing you can, for both your children. *hugs hugs hugs*

[gothicmom]

*hugs*

remember, he's only 20 minutes away, it's not far.

It's best for everyone in the long run.

he is with family, he didn't have to go live with a foster parent.

This is hard I'm sure. *loves*

[Hermine]

I'm not going to claim to understand; I can't imagine what you're going through.

But I want you to know that my thoughts are with you. PM me if you need anything, okay?

[Marblez]

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry to hear this. Yes, I know it is logically a better choice but can only imagine how it must feel.

My son means the world to me, more and more every day. It hurts when I leave him just for the weekend when he goes to his father's house. I dreamt last night that he was irrepairably disfigured at 5 years old, had to have been the worst nightmare of my life.

Here I am hoping now that you can make it safely through your nightmare. I just said a prayer for you and your family.